I get a little touchy about it because even though I know there are jerks in the system, joining a sorority was the best thing that happened to me in college. As an out of state student, it gave me a lot of sisters who genuinely cared about the well-being of each other. We had study groups (because there was a minimum GPA to stay active), community service events (the girls who are still in college just helped raise money for Embrace The Kids as part of the Dance Marathon and we still do highway cleanup on the mile of road that is in our name), and a network of alum who helped us once we graduated (I got my first real job through a sister).<quoted text>Then I clearly have only come in contact with the ones that give it a bad name. I didn't know about the greek pairings for Greek Week, but I've been around them in general. I had a friend pledge one and I was humiliated for her. It was nuts. Nothing dangerous that I know of, but just crazy. And not in a fun way.
And the other "Greeks" I experienced did NOTHING to boost my opinion of the system. They partied all the time and bashed people that weren't part of their group. They were not pleasant people nor did they do much to show they were contributing a whole lot to society.
Now, to be fair, I do know a great many people now that were in these groups that I don't think would fit into what I experienced, but I will tell you that what I've seen has left nothing but a bad taste in my mouth.
Like you said, it's not for everyone. Definitely NOT for me and hopefully not for my child.
There were problems while I was there, but running the organization is great experience for the corporate world. Two of my bridesmaids were sorority sisters. We were the girls who people couldn't picture being in a sorority.
The sisterhood made a big University (40,000 students) less overwhelming. When I was in the hospital, there was always at least one sister there with me, since my parents and brothers lived on the other side of the country.
But, I know that Greek life in the Northeast if very different than on the Southern campuses. I'm not sure if I would have joined at another school. Still, if you raise your daughter to be a strong woman who is not afraid to stand up for herself and others, then she will be successful anywhere.