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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#84390 Apr 20, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Ah, I see that you are feeling your regular self.
Dog- Mimi has a point. It's not so much that you have differing opinions.It is the manner and style in which you share them.
Friendly pointer: when you disagree, stick to the substance, avoid calling the other person names or questioning their motivation or intelligence.
When someone baits you, for instance like Sam does, if there is something in their message you can respond to, do so and don't take the name calling bait. I have seen you do this from time to time so I know you are capable of it. It is probably not your first instinctual response, but if your goal is less heated interactions, give it a try.
It's not easy. You need to take a mental pause and listen for the substance rather than the style.
Example. You could have replied to me, "I know all about Jonestown". Period. Conveys the same thing. It tells me not to patronize you. It avoids name calling.
/s/Pelly, who is not your honey
Thanks for the tips, HONEY.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#84391 Apr 20, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
You're right.
Always.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#84392 Apr 20, 2013
Yo baby why you trying to school dog?
We all be individuals, and so we all be posting in a way that reflects ourself. Dog know exactly what he be doing, and i doubt this post will provide him any lightbulb moments. Just as I am fully aware of how my posts make me look. Friendly pointer: Sometimes dog and I make ourselves look stupid and argumentative just to stir the pot. Sometimes name calling and mud slinging is fun. Maybe not your idea of fun, but thats on you.
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Ah, I see that you are feeling your regular self.
Dog- Mimi has a point. It's not so much that you have differing opinions.It is the manner and style in which you share them.
Friendly pointer: when you disagree, stick to the substance, avoid calling the other person names or questioning their motivation or intelligence.
When someone baits you, for instance like Sam does, if there is something in their message you can respond to, do so and don't take the name calling bait. I have seen you do this from time to time so I know you are capable of it. It is probably not your first instinctual response, but if your goal is less heated interactions, give it a try.
It's not easy. You need to take a mental pause and listen for the substance rather than the style.
Example. You could have replied to me, "I know all about Jonestown". Period. Conveys the same thing. It tells me not to patronize you. It avoids name calling.
/s/Pelly, who is not your honey

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#84393 Apr 20, 2013
You can call me Dolt if you want.
'cmone Dolt me!

Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>
You know what? You're right. I shouldn't stoop to that level.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#84394 Apr 20, 2013
RACE wrote:
Yo baby why you trying to school dog?
We all be individuals, and so we all be posting in a way that reflects ourself. Dog know exactly what he be doing, and i doubt this post will provide him any lightbulb moments. Just as I am fully aware of how my posts make me look. Friendly pointer: Sometimes dog and I make ourselves look stupid and argumentative just to stir the pot. Sometimes name calling and mud slinging is fun. Maybe not your idea of fun, but thats on you.
<quoted text>
I know, but with him I am never quite sure.
Ding me for trying if you want, but at least I know I attempted it.
The context was the discussion about why he had been unfriended
on FB.He sounded like he didn't understand why that had happened

Sometimes I need someone to use words of one syllable to tell me how I am coming off. I have appreciated it ( mostly) when that happens. We are all clueless about some stuff and as I said, with him I am just not sure.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#84395 Apr 20, 2013
Hey, all you cooks.

I wanted to make dumplings for my chicken and dumpling stew I am making, but it seemed like a bother, so I went to get frozen dumplings, but they did not have drop dumplings only little flat skinny things.

So I bought a bag of frozen biscuits. I have thawed them out, so what are my chances of succesfully using a biscuit as a dumpling?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#84396 Apr 20, 2013
Un-friended....Another social tragedy caused by FB.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#84397 Apr 20, 2013
RACE wrote:
Hey, all you cooks.
I wanted to make dumplings for my chicken and dumpling stew I am making, but it seemed like a bother, so I went to get frozen dumplings, but they did not have drop dumplings only little flat skinny things.
So I bought a bag of frozen biscuits. I have thawed them out, so what are my chances of succesfully using a biscuit as a dumpling?
Alas, I am not your dumpling person.... unless you want to know how to make matzo balls

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

Location hidden

#84398 Apr 20, 2013
RACE wrote:
Hey, all you cooks.

I wanted to make dumplings for my chicken and dumpling stew I am making, but it seemed like a bother, so I went to get frozen dumplings, but they did not have drop dumplings only little flat skinny things.

So I bought a bag of frozen biscuits. I have thawed them out, so what are my chances of succesfully using a biscuit as a dumpling?
I don't know, but I don't know how it can get any easier than Bisquick and milk. Well, you can eat out, I suppose.

I have brunch plans with a friend on Monday morning. We are going to Perkins (haven't been there since I was pregnant with Ry) and I am craving their biscuits and gravy. He had better not bail on me, or I will be eating there by myself, like a loser.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#84399 Apr 20, 2013
PEllen wrote:
but with him I am never quite sure.
Come on, Sugar. You know me better than that by now.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#84400 Apr 20, 2013
ScarletandOlive wrote:
or I will be eating there by myself, like a loser.
If eating breakfast by yourself in a restaurant makes you a loser, then color me loser because I do that about every other weekend.

Beats cooking.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#84401 Apr 20, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
Come on, Sugar. You know me better than that by now.
No, Dog, my comment was accurate. Sometimes I am not sure whether you are deliberate or clueless about the way you present yurself on-line .

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#84402 Apr 20, 2013
RACE wrote:
Hey, all you cooks.
I wanted to make dumplings for my chicken and dumpling stew I am making, but it seemed like a bother, so I went to get frozen dumplings, but they did not have drop dumplings only little flat skinny things.
So I bought a bag of frozen biscuits. I have thawed them out, so what are my chances of succesfully using a biscuit as a dumpling?
Sometimes I use the ones that come in the can. They work ok. Not quite the same as homemade, but then again homemade dumplings aren't my forte anyway, so <shrug>

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#84403 Apr 20, 2013
RACE wrote:
You can call me Dolt if you want.
'cmone Dolt me!
<quoted text>
heh :D

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#84404 Apr 20, 2013
RACE wrote:
Un-friended....Another social tragedy caused by FB.
If you make a FB (DO IT ALREADY!) I promise to not un-friend you. Of course I can't say you wouldn't want to un-friend me, but theme the breaks.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#84405 Apr 20, 2013
I never feel like a loser eating alone. I don't get this NEED to have to have someone with you when you eat out. <shrug>

I'm fine with (even prefer) my own company. Like when we go out for Pho and everyone's done while I'm still tearing the basil into my soup on my own schedule. Pfffttt if I'm alone I don't feel rushed. Plus I can read, play with my phone, or whatever and not have to talk to people.

That said I'm going out to dinner and a movie with another person tonight so,,,you win some, etc. Fortunately there will be no talking in the movie, so that's a plus.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#84406 Apr 20, 2013
PEllen wrote:
Sometimes I am not sure whether you are deliberate or clueless
And sometimes *I'm* not sure whether you're hot, or sexy, or both!

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#84407 Apr 20, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
If eating breakfast by yourself in a restaurant makes you a loser, then color me loser because I do that about every other weekend.
Beats cooking.
I eat lunch alone frequently. When I was travelling for work, I ate dinner alone just about every night. I don't see how this makes one a loser.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#84408 Apr 20, 2013
I eat out alone a lot too. I bring my kindle and get lost in a book while I eat.

I had a lazy day of watching movies and eating takeout today, no errands or chores at all. Haven't done that in ten years... I think I was overdue.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Des Plaines, IL

#84409 Apr 20, 2013
i had a lazy day too, even took a nap...

unfortunaytely, the nap was in my car because there was no heat in my gramma's house and i was waiting for a plumber to come to drain the basement...

then, i had to send the plumbers away (after a total of something like 6+ hours of waiting for them over 2 days) because the freakin' doorknob decided to break.

i had to break into her house then give up & find a locksmith. he wanted proof that i'm connected to the house, so i had to have hubby bring some paperwork from home.(more waiting)

oh, and my parents (in Munich) are freaking out over the fact that their basement flooded. Bro even called me to tell me, words to the effect of, do whatever the eff i have to to get the water heater replaced, he can't stand their whining any more.

here's the thing, they seem more wound up over some effing WATER than they did over teh fact that they left me with someone who died and therefore i had to plan a funeral on my own. bro laughed at that...

/end rant for now/

here's to a better tomorrow. no waiting for contractors on a sunday.

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