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Since: Jun 09

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#82859 Mar 22, 2013
Does anyone here play Draw Something? I need people to play with.

I tried to play with a random person. That person would just write the answer instead of drawing pictures. So stupid!

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#82860 Mar 22, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
I'd love to meet up with you guys. I'll be there from 6/7 to 6/10 and am mainly vising a RL friend but I'm staying downtown and will have time for other stuff.
I'm in!

But I'm not coming to the airport.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#82861 Mar 22, 2013
buzz kill!
:)
squishymama wrote:
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I'm in!
But I'm not coming to the airport.

Since: Jan 10

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#82862 Mar 22, 2013
RACE wrote:
buzz kill!
:)
<quoted text>
She can't go to the airport. There'sa federal warrant out for her arrest.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82863 Mar 22, 2013
For Mimi-

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/24/magazine/wh...

NYTimes article on anthropological analysis of who lives longer

Since: Mar 09

United States

#82864 Mar 22, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>She can't go to the airport. There'sa federal warrant out for her arrest.
Ha!

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82865 Mar 22, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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1. Check good resale shops in your neighborhood. Also, if they have Plato's Closet in Seattle, that is a consignment chain which will be good for nephew beacsue stuff is trndier but still cheaper than retail
2.Good for you for (?)manning up and taking him Sunday. Its Palm Sunday and they will be reading the passion story most places. Does he have a particular denomination he wants to go to?
There are good resale shops. I don't know about Plato's closet, but I'll check into it. Thanks for the tip. And yeah, womaning up and taking him to mass. Catholic.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82866 Mar 22, 2013
PEllen wrote:
For Mimi-
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/24/magazine/wh...
NYTimes article on anthropological analysis of who lives longer
Cool thanks. I bookmarked it. I'll look at it later when I get a minute to breathe. My nephew is very bright, articulate, and engaging. Also VERY chatty... <sigh>

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82867 Mar 22, 2013
"Aunt Mimi...look at this"

"Aunt Mimi...did see this"

"Aunt Mimi...listen to this song, read this book, watch this video..."

And so on. <BIG sigh>

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82868 Mar 22, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Cool thanks. I bookmarked it. I'll look at it later when I get a minute to breathe. My nephew is very bright, articulate, and engaging. Also VERY chatty... <sigh>
Coming from the environment you described, your are probably one of the few sober/un-drugged articulate intelligent adults with whom he has spent much time.
Since he has expressed a desire to go to services, perhaps there is a youth group or a Big Brother Club they can bring him into so he gets some solid male role models and he can develop friends not just from school. Being the new kid on the block in the middle of the year isn't easy under the best circumstances and his aren't the best.

The other thing is that your nephew might qualify for Medicaid as a child below a particular income level. In IL, if a child qualifies, his parents do too for as long as the kid is eligible. Each state has its own rules on that, but it might be a resource for your sister and for you to make sure he has all his immunizations, etc (that is the Mom in me talking)

Since: Jan 10

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#82869 Mar 22, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
"Aunt Mimi...look at this"
"Aunt Mimi...did see this"
"Aunt Mimi...listen to this song, read this book, watch this video..."
And so on. <BIG sigh>
ACK. Nick's oldest does that when he's playing video games. I watch ONCE. After that, I say "No, I'm not watching you play A VIDEO GAME."

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82870 Mar 22, 2013
"Aunt Mimi...I need my own laptop"

"Aunt Mimi...let me show you this cheat"

"Aunt Mimi...you know I made a firewall?"

"Aunt Mimi...I would love this little mini laptop if it was mine"

and on and on and on

He never shuts up! He's still at it. While I'm typing, as in right this minute!

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82871 Mar 22, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Coming from the environment you described, your are probably one of the few sober/un-drugged articulate intelligent adults with whom he has spent much time.
Since he has expressed a desire to go to services, perhaps there is a youth group or a Big Brother Club they can bring him into so he gets some solid male role models and he can develop friends not just from school. Being the new kid on the block in the middle of the year isn't easy under the best circumstances and his aren't the best.
The other thing is that your nephew might qualify for Medicaid as a child below a particular income level. In IL, if a child qualifies, his parents do too for as long as the kid is eligible. Each state has its own rules on that, but it might be a resource for your sister and for you to make sure he has all his immunizations, etc (that is the Mom in me talking)
Oh yeah he's been telling me about how they've been living...

Already got the medicaid for him. Did that today. Set up the appointment to talk to the counselor to get him into school on Monday. Outreach services are available at the school including some club stuff. I'll know more on Monday.

I think I said before that I live in a kind of ritzy-ish area,(Jags are ubiquitous here). The area, not me. So the school wants to make sure I live here because a lot of people would like to get their kids into the schools here. I went over and picked up all the paperwork though. Will have his mom get it all filled out over the weekend.

Mimi don't mess around.

Still...little dude, shut up for 5 minutes.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82872 Mar 22, 2013
Last one, I swear. He's beat boxing. Right now. Seriously. Time for all little boys (he's 12) to go to BED!

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82873 Mar 23, 2013

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82874 Mar 23, 2013

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Des Plaines, IL

#82875 Mar 23, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Last one, I swear. He's beat boxing. Right now. Seriously. Time for all little boys (he's 12) to go to BED!
wow... well, double snaps to you for taking them in.

i heard somewhere about seting sometihng up for "quiet time" - make it known that when a certain lamp is on that it's quiet time, leave Aunt Mimi alone and keep the volume down.

oh, i know... it was a night light on a timer in a toddler bedroom. if hte light it on, it's quiet-stay-in-your-room time... but stil,the same principle works.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82877 Mar 23, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
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wow... well, double snaps to you for taking them in.
i heard somewhere about seting sometihng up for "quiet time" - make it known that when a certain lamp is on that it's quiet time, leave Aunt Mimi alone and keep the volume down.
oh, i know... it was a night light on a timer in a toddler bedroom. if hte light it on, it's quiet-stay-in-your-room time... but stil,the same principle works.
I did the "Aunt Mimi is OLD" thing last night. <shrug>

Don't get me wrong, he's a good kid; bright, articulate, engaging, etc., but *I* am very much an introvert, so I get worn out pretty quickly. Also, they've been living in a way that if one needed, or wanted attention for any reason, they would really need to be assertive about it. But...it's mostly his innate personality, he's always been like that. He gets it from his mother, "Chatty Patty." <shrug>

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82878 Mar 23, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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I think I said before that I live in a kind of ritzy-ish area,(Jags are ubiquitous here). The area, not me. So the school wants to make sure I live here because a lot of people would like to get their kids into the schools here. I went over and picked up all the paperwork though. Will have his mom get it all filled out over the weekend.
Mimi don't mess around.
Still...little dude, shut up for 5 minutes.
Take this is good heart. We live in what sounds like a similar neighborhood.

There are additional considerations when you are bringing up a kid in a ritzy area. We took special steps to make sure that values were emphasized because the lure of materialism is going to be very strong and very tangible. Another consideration is to help him get in with a good , grounded group of kids rather than letting him emphasize his feeling like an outsider. He will know only too well that there are lots of people who are better off than he is but that won't stop him wanting-- and because he is 12, needing to find a place to fit in. What the goal would be is to keep him from falling into the wrong( read alcohol, drugs, no guidance etc) crowd because he is very susceptible having just come from that life.

If you have any neighbors with kids or slightly older teenagers whose values you are comfortable with, that would be a good resource. He will need one or two iconic "things" to help him fit in.The first visual signal thet "hey I'm new, but I am one of you". Around here it would be a Northface jacket, not necessarily new.

You brought up a boy . You know the drill. Your sister is an adult and whether she pulls herself together sounds problematic, but your nephew can still be saved from that pit. You took on a big task- what happens after Spring break? If you don't want the Greek chorus commentary, tell me to STFU.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#82879 Mar 23, 2013
Mimi,
Lots of luck, and please try to be patient with him. I know exactly what you are describing, and as Aisle Sitter said, lay out boundaries. He will appreciate knowing when it's ok, and when it's not instead of you trying to be nice until you cant anymore.

You really are good peeps!

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