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Mar 21, 2013
 
edogxxx wrote:
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Wrong again.
How so? Link or cite?

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Matilda77 wrote:
<quoted text>My hair place texts me before my hair appointments. I wish everything did this.

I guess I could just put reminders in my phone, but meh.
My dentist's office just started doing that. I love it!

My hairdresser doesn't call before appts like some places I have gone to in the past, but the chick who does my hair is awesome and the owner is the chairman of the organization I belong to, so I'm in there all the time anyway. I just have to remember to go on the right day :)

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#82743
Mar 21, 2013
 
[QUOTE who="edogxxxWe're not talking about "casual touching," we're talking about four year olds stroking it.[/QUOTE]

Actually we were talking about touching, you turned it into full-on "stroking it."

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Mar 21, 2013
 
edogxxx wrote:
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Wrong again.
RIght. Because you've read all about this in parenting articles written by childhood development experts.

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Mar 21, 2013
 

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Edog, please don't have kids.

You are a stupid, stupid fucktard.

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#82746
Mar 21, 2013
 
Toj wrote:
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How so? Link or cite?
HAHAHAHAHAHA! As if. He said so!

I"ve read the articles for years. He's so wrong.

“FD&S is no way to be.”

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Mar 21, 2013
 
edogxxx wrote:
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I would have stopped at "don't do that."
Great parenting technique. And keep in mind that kids never ask "Why?"

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Jess in NJ wrote:
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My dentist's office just started doing that. I love it!
My hairdresser doesn't call before appts like some places I have gone to in the past, but the chick who does my hair is awesome and the owner is the chairman of the organization I belong to, so I'm in there all the time anyway. I just have to remember to go on the right day :)
It's kind of an advantage to having this much shorter hair--I gotta go get it cut way more often than the once or twice a year I was doing before. Forces me to treat myself. I love haircuts and the smell of the salon.

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Mar 21, 2013
 

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You guys take edogg way to seriously. All he does is bait. Unless that's just part of the fun; arguing with him.

Toj

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Mar 21, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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HAHAHAHAHAHA! As if. He said so!
I"ve read the articles for years. He's so wrong.
Well, of course. We KNOW he's wrong. I'm not so sure he knows he's wrong. He's seems a bit squeamish about it all. Like one of those kids that closes their eyes real tight to make it go away.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Matilda77 wrote:
You guys take edogg way to seriously. All he does is bait. Unless that's just part of the fun; arguing with him.
The fact that that's how he chooses to engage people is just as bad as if he means what he says. Either way he's a douche.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> I can't fathom being ashamed because someone told you not to do something. i tell my kid not to do something and IF he actually stops doing it at that moment, he's gonna do it again (whatever IT might be) when he forgets that I told him not to do it. Like throwing a ball in the house. Grabbing himself is just one of the many things he's just not supposed to do that. I just can't understand where shame comes into play for just telling someone not to do something.
But I looked at some of the words you used.
-scolded
-made her feel bad
-sexual shame
I don't see any of those in the act of saying "stop grabbing yourself".
First off, you are no longer 7, so what you feel as an adult really doesn't pertain to a child. I don't remember much of how I felt or reasoned at 7, do you?

Second, there are two different situations we seem to be discussing here. One is touching yourself in the tub because it feels good. The other is walking around, fully clothed grabbing at your parts.

In scenario 1, the child is told that that kind of touching is only to be done in private. Some parents could freak out a little and that could come across to the child as scolding, possibly attaching negative feelings to something that is natural. Add having a sensitive, anxious child and *anything* said as a correction could be construed as negative.

In scenario 2, the child may be touching themselves because it feels good or because their underwear is bunching up or because they have a bladder infection or pinworms. We were having this problem with Lulu and it turned out her underwear was too small. New undies = no grabbing.

In both scenarios, we tell the child to stop. But because of what was going on in the mind of the child, the reaction to it will be different. Getting busted touching yourself in the tub and getting busted digging your underwear out of your crotch will evoke two totally different kinds of reaction.

Eh, I know I'm not expressing myself well. I have work to do and my words don't come to me as easily as some.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Matilda77 wrote:
You guys take edogg way to seriously. All he does is bait. Unless that's just part of the fun; arguing with him.
I just wish we had an "ignore" feature.

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I don't NEED to provide links because I'm never wrong, think you people would get this by now, but I understand many of you are a little slow, so I'm trying to be patient. If you thing I'm wrong and experts are telling parents that 3, 4, and 5 yr olds beating off is totally normal, than YOU please provide the link.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Jumping ahead 25 years or so, Harry Reems died.

Mr. Reems played Dr. Young, a physician whose diagnostic brilliance — he locates the rare anatomical quirk that makes Ms. Lovelace’s character vastly prefer oral sex to intercourse — is matched by his capacity for tireless ministration.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
edogxxx wrote:
I don't NEED to provide links because I'm never wrong, think you people would get this by now, but I understand many of you are a little slow, so I'm trying to be patient. If you thing I'm wrong and experts are telling parents that 3, 4, and 5 yr olds beating off is totally normal, than YOU please provide the link.
Holy cow - Squishy and I could have written this!

http://m.kidshealth.org/parent/growth/sexual_...

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Mar 21, 2013
 
edogxxx wrote:
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Don't cop out to the "you must be baiting us" route because you're unable to challenge my claims with any validity.
We're not talking about "casual touching," we're talking about four year olds stroking it.
This is the disconnect.

Some genital touching is just pleasure, like sucking your thumb, rocking back and forth crooning to calm yourself or holding your blankie, etc.. That's what little kids do. That is what started the discussion. That is what Jess and Squishy and I are talking about. This warrants telling the child that is something we do in private.

Later genital touching adds an element of sexual stimulation which is where your comments seems to go. I don't disagree that sexual gratification by self touch in a 4-7 year old would be troublesome.This warrants a different parental response, but from all my mom experienece, this type is much less common that the first.

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Toj wrote:
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Well, that's because you didn't have that kind of relationship where you feel free to talk about things with her.
That's normal and healthy,.
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If the subject ever came up in her company, would you feel comfortable talking about it in general terms?
Hell no. I don't ever want a relationship where its normal to talk about spankin it with my kid or my mom.

Toj

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Holy cow - Squishy and I could have written this!
http://m.kidshealth.org/parent/growth/sexual_...
I was shocked by the number of men here who said flat out they would just say "no, don't do that".

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Mar 21, 2013
 
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