This is the disconnect.<quoted text>
Don't cop out to the "you must be baiting us" route because you're unable to challenge my claims with any validity.
We're not talking about "casual touching," we're talking about four year olds stroking it.
Some genital touching is just pleasure, like sucking your thumb, rocking back and forth crooning to calm yourself or holding your blankie, etc.. That's what little kids do. That is what started the discussion. That is what Jess and Squishy and I are talking about. This warrants telling the child that is something we do in private.
Later genital touching adds an element of sexual stimulation which is where your comments seems to go. I don't disagree that sexual gratification by self touch in a 4-7 year old would be troublesome.This warrants a different parental response, but from all my mom experienece, this type is much less common that the first.