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#82757 Mar 21, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Don't cop out to the "you must be baiting us" route because you're unable to challenge my claims with any validity.
We're not talking about "casual touching," we're talking about four year olds stroking it.
This is the disconnect.

Some genital touching is just pleasure, like sucking your thumb, rocking back and forth crooning to calm yourself or holding your blankie, etc.. That's what little kids do. That is what started the discussion. That is what Jess and Squishy and I are talking about. This warrants telling the child that is something we do in private.

Later genital touching adds an element of sexual stimulation which is where your comments seems to go. I don't disagree that sexual gratification by self touch in a 4-7 year old would be troublesome.This warrants a different parental response, but from all my mom experienece, this type is much less common that the first.

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Since: Dec 08

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#82758 Mar 21, 2013
Toj wrote:
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Well, that's because you didn't have that kind of relationship where you feel free to talk about things with her.
That's normal and healthy,.
Toj wrote:
If the subject ever came up in her company, would you feel comfortable talking about it in general terms?
Hell no. I don't ever want a relationship where its normal to talk about spankin it with my kid or my mom.

Toj

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Since: Jul 12

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#82759 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Holy cow - Squishy and I could have written this!
http://m.kidshealth.org/parent/growth/sexual_...
I was shocked by the number of men here who said flat out they would just say "no, don't do that".

Since: Jan 10

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#82760 Mar 21, 2013
I'm not making this up: I'm working on a Target project in a Canadian mall and the project is called "Deep Throat Entry."

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#82761 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Holy cow - Squishy and I could have written this!
http://m.kidshealth.org/parent/growth/sexual_...
Yes, we could have.

But do you think edog will actually read it?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82762 Mar 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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This is the disconnect.
Some genital touching is just pleasure, like sucking your thumb, rocking back and forth crooning to calm yourself or holding your blankie, etc.. That's what little kids do. That is what started the discussion. That is what Jess and Squishy and I are talking about. This warrants telling the child that is something we do in private.
Later genital touching adds an element of sexual stimulation which is where your comments seems to go. I don't disagree that sexual gratification by self touch in a 4-7 year old would be troublesome.This warrants a different parental response, but from all my mom experienece, this type is much less common that the first.


For me the disconnect is not that I think this is the same as masturbation ( I don't), but that instead of just stopping the behavior, the kid is just told, go do that in private. If you tell your kid to stop grabbing himself and he does, great. If he never figures out on his own that he can spank it in the privacy of the shower or his own room, so what? I'm not seeing a problem. But chances are pretty good, he'll figure it out on his own eventually. In this matter, I am all for, as Jess termed it, willful ignorance. Its a private matter as in not talking about it to mom or dad or anyone. When he finds someone else to handle that task for him, he can talk to her about it.

You wouldn't have sex in the living room. Would you tell your kid, "Hey, we're gonna head to our room to have sex. See you in the morning."
No. You wouldn't. TMI. Sure at some point, the kid will figure out mom and dad are in there doin it. But it does not need to be announced. It does not need to be discussed.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#82763 Mar 21, 2013
I think this is old, but since it is the first time I have seen it, thought I would share. I thought it was funny.

http://cheezburger.com/4978550784

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#82764 Mar 21, 2013
And by the time they do figure out what their parents are doing, they are NOT going to want to discuss it with them!
Mister Tonka wrote:
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For me the disconnect is not that I think this is the same as masturbation ( I don't), but that instead of just stopping the behavior, the kid is just told, go do that in private. If you tell your kid to stop grabbing himself and he does, great. If he never figures out on his own that he can spank it in the privacy of the shower or his own room, so what? I'm not seeing a problem. But chances are pretty good, he'll figure it out on his own eventually. In this matter, I am all for, as Jess termed it, willful ignorance. Its a private matter as in not talking about it to mom or dad or anyone. When he finds someone else to handle that task for him, he can talk to her about it.
You wouldn't have sex in the living room. Would you tell your kid, "Hey, we're gonna head to our room to have sex. See you in the morning."
No. You wouldn't. TMI. Sure at some point, the kid will figure out mom and dad are in there doin it. But it does not need to be announced. It does not need to be discussed.

Since: Jan 10

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#82765 Mar 21, 2013
MANY children are raised the way Jess and Squishy are raising their kids, and they don't (and haven't) grown up to have no boundaries when it comes to sex and masturbation. They're not whipping it out in the classroom.

Give the kids and their parents some credit.

Since: Jan 10

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#82766 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
I think this is old, but since it is the first time I have seen it, thought I would share. I thought it was funny.
http://cheezburger.com/4978550784
Love it. Sharing around the world right now.

Since: Jan 10

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#82767 Mar 21, 2013
And, kinda cute that he could have a sense of humor when it was his dad who died.
James favour

Ashburn, VA

#82768 Mar 21, 2013
To take an army form call mr THANKGOD:08161558464.

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Since: Feb 13

Cedar Grove, TN

#82769 Mar 21, 2013
I can't say I ever thought we'd spend so much time discussing prepubescent masturbation....

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#82771 Mar 21, 2013
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
I can't say I ever thought we'd spend so much time discussing prepubescent masturbation....
That is one of the things I love about this thread - there is no "off topic"

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#82772 Mar 21, 2013
So, I brought back the tablet. I kept it a week and could not get into it. The most useful thing could find to do with it was turn my TV on (I could not turn it off though because the install program refused to finish without choosing my cable provider and since I dont have one...I chose one at random, and then it wanted more info that I had no idea how to make up so I just exited out) I installed the crackle app, but no midi port to hook to tv, so was kinda lame.

Then I saw the google chrome notebook. light fast good HD had midi and usb ports and only 199. But they were out of stock...

Since: Jan 10

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#82773 Mar 21, 2013
Did anyone do NCAA brackets? I did two sets ($5 each here at work). One set, I chose the top seed for every game, until the final four, where I winged it, because I don't follow college bball enough to know who's ranked what.

Second one, I mostly followed the seeds, but had a little more fun giving some underdogs a fighting chance.

Either way, I have Louisville winning.

I'm happy UConn isn't in -- kinda sick of them. Could have used a year without Duke, too.

I have Florida and Florida State doing okay -- one of them is in the final eight, i think?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82774 Mar 21, 2013

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#82776 Mar 21, 2013
Does not bring the job back though,
Mister Tonka wrote:

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#82777 Mar 21, 2013
WOW better change my tune towards sam.
SAM! iM SORRY, i THINK YOUR A GREAT GUY AND I DONT CARE IF YOUR BIPOLAR OR NEED MEDS TO GET YOU THRYU YOUR DAY! YOUR SPECIAL IN MY BOOK AND i LIKE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
I HOPE YOU FORGIVE ME, IT'S ALL IN GOOD FUN RIGHT?????
Mister Tonka wrote:

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82778 Mar 21, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I have Florida and Florida State doing okay -- one of them is in the final eight, i think?
If you have Florida State even scoring a point in the first round, you're going to lose. We did not make the tournament.

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