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Since: Jun 09

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#82659 Mar 20, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Aw, thank you :)
I am on the verge of running away and hiding in a hotel room with a supply of key lime pie and JD for a week. Ry has been sick for 5 days and he needs to go back to school tomorrow, to save both of our sanity.
My MIL is back to her normal drama-filled self, except that we are still feeling like we need to be sympathetic because it hasn't even been a month since my FIL died. We were invited to my husband's Aunt's house for Good Friday (anything Easter related is a huge deal to Polosh people). I asked if she had talked to MIL about it and she said yes, so I accepted. Turns out she said something 2days after FIL died and MIL doesn't want to go because it would be "too much work" for her (I guess she feels the need to bring homemade food like pierogies to her sister's house?). She said that if we want to go we can, but we only said yes because we thought she was going! They are in the middle of some fight that has nothing to do with our generation and life is too short for this crap.
On the bright side, soccer and tball seasons have started :) I love watching the kiddos run around.
No JD, but I will have my MD daughter do an emergency delivery of key lime , lemon meringue and chocolate silk to your hotel room.. The card will read Happy Belated Pi Day

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82660 Mar 20, 2013
http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/20/opinion/george-...

This is for Edog in the morning. He needs to know that he is right about something.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#82661 Mar 20, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Wishing you peace and patience
Thanks. You are so sweet.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#82662 Mar 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>No JD, but I will have my MD daughter do an emergency delivery of key lime , lemon meringue and chocolate silk to your hotel room.. The card will read Happy Belated Pi Day
Just reading that helped so much! Thank you :) Today is a new day and I am not going to forget my hair appointment, like I did last week (thankfully the owner is a friend and he knew what was going on in my personal life, so he didn't charge me for the missed appt - I'll have to give my stylist a nicer tip than the usual 30%, though).

Since: Jan 10

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#82663 Mar 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/20/ opinion/george-gay-marriage/in dex.html?hpt=hp_t3
This is for Edog in the morning. He needs to know that he is right about something.
It's an OPINION piece.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82664 Mar 21, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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It's an OPINION piece.
And like the stuff around here isn't?

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#82665 Mar 21, 2013
I shared this that another friend posted on FB, but since not all of you are my FB friends I wanted to post it on here. I think that everyone who is raising a boy should read it.

http://www.askmoxie.org/2013/03/a-letter-to-m...

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82666 Mar 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/20/ opinion/george-gay-marriage/in dex.html?hpt=hp_t3
This is for Edog in the morning. He needs to know that he is right about something.
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
It's an OPINION piece.
PEllen wrote:
And like the stuff around here isn't?


It sure is.

But citing an opinion article to show edogg right about something is no different than citing a post by Sublime that shares an edogg opinion. It only shows that someone shares an opinion. Does not prove anyone right or wrong.

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#82667 Mar 21, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
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It sure is.
But citing an opinion article to show edogg right about something is no different than citing a post by Sublime that shares an edogg opinion. It only shows that someone shares an opinion. Does not prove anyone right or wrong.
THis.

Since: Jan 10

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#82668 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
I shared this that another friend posted on FB, but since not all of you are my FB friends I wanted to post it on here. I think that everyone who is raising a boy should read it.
http://www.askmoxie.org/2013/03/a-letter-to-m...
Awesome share! I bookmarked it to email the link to mom friends with boys.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#82669 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
I shared this that another friend posted on FB, but since not all of you are my FB friends I wanted to post it on here. I think that everyone who is raising a boy should read it.
http://www.askmoxie.org/2013/03/a-letter-to-m...
Thank you for this Jess.

I want my girls to be the people this woman described too. Gender has little to do with being a good person.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82670 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
I shared this that another friend posted on FB, but since not all of you are my FB friends I wanted to post it on here. I think that everyone who is raising a boy should read it.
http://www.askmoxie.org/2013/03/a-letter-to-m...
I was reading the letter and stopped at this line.

"Now I’m going to talk about sex. I know you know “how it works” because we’ve been talking about it ever since you two were little, since before you could read"

WTF? I'm not gonna try to put a number on when a parent SHOULD talk with their kid about sex cause I was probably let in on the secret later than I should have(by 5th grade, I was still unaware that a man had any part in how a woman got pregnant), but talking to them about “how it works” before they could read? Is this a f'n joke? My older kid is in Kindergarten and can read. Hell no I'm not talking to him about how sex works. Sorry, but that is definitely not age appropriate.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#82671 Mar 21, 2013

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82672 Mar 21, 2013
I am sure this letter means well, but I can't even make it thru to the anti-rape part.

Describing sex to a kid of 11 or 8 as "better than popcorn followed by ice cream, or a Supah Ninjas marathon, or two snow days in a row. You know how excited I get when I get a new pair of shoes? It’s like 500 times better than that, when the person you’re doing it with is so excited to be doing it with you that they start asking you for it."

Think that's not gonna raise curiosity?
Then expecting impulse control?

"If you’re ever in a situation in which someone is asking you for it and you don’t want to have sex with that person, don’t do it."
After the earlier build up, why would he not want to do it?

" I want you to wait to have sex until the person you’re with asks you for it. Tells you they need you now, and that they can’t wait, and they want it. Calls you by your name and asks for it."
So next week when little Johnny's classmate wants to do it and tells him she can't wait, he's got the green light?

Sorry. This conversation is just ridiculous.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#82673 Mar 21, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I was reading the letter and stopped at this line.

"Now I’m going to talk about sex. I know you know “how it works” because we’ve been talking about it ever since you two were little, since before you could read"

WTF? I'm not gonna try to put a number on when a parent SHOULD talk with their kid about sex cause I was probably let in on the secret later than I should have(by 5th grade, I was still unaware that a man had any part in how a woman got pregnant), but talking to them about “how it works” before they could read? Is this a f'n joke? My older kid is in Kindergarten and can read. Hell no I'm not talking to him about how sex works. Sorry, but that is definitely not age appropriate.
Age appropriate conversations. My boys see my husband and me kissing on the mouth (not making out, usually, but we are affectionate). They have been told that husbands and wives kiss like that, but you don't kiss your friends. If your kid knows that Mommy has breasts and Daddy has a penis, but not vice versa, then that is age appropriate sex ed.

For the little kids, I think that the conversations are more about respectful touching (or not). I have to remind my boys about privacy ( Stop touching yourself in front of Mommy, even in that bathtub! You can do that in private).

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#82674 Mar 21, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
I am sure this letter means well, but I can't even make it thru to the anti-rape part.
Describing sex to a kid of 11 or 8 as "better than popcorn followed by ice cream, or a Supah Ninjas marathon, or two snow days in a row. You know how excited I get when I get a new pair of shoes? It’s like 500 times better than that, when the person you’re doing it with is so excited to be doing it with you that they start asking you for it."
Think that's not gonna raise curiosity?
Then expecting impulse control?
"If you’re ever in a situation in which someone is asking you for it and you don’t want to have sex with that person, don’t do it."
After the earlier build up, why would he not want to do it?
" I want you to wait to have sex until the person you’re with asks you for it. Tells you they need you now, and that they can’t wait, and they want it. Calls you by your name and asks for it."
So next week when little Johnny's classmate wants to do it and tells him she can't wait, he's got the green light?
Sorry. This conversation is just ridiculous.
Yeah, that's weird.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#82675 Mar 21, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
I am sure this letter means well, but I can't even make it thru to the anti-rape part.

Describing sex to a kid of 11 or 8 as "better than popcorn followed by ice cream, or a Supah Ninjas marathon, or two snow days in a row. You know how excited I get when I get a new pair of shoes? ItÂ’s like 500 times better than that, when the person youÂ’re doing it with is so excited to be doing it with you that they start asking you for it."

Think that's not gonna raise curiosity?
Then expecting impulse control?

"If youÂ’re ever in a situation in which someone is asking you for it and you donÂ’t want to have sex with that person, donÂ’t do it."
After the earlier build up, why would he not want to do it?

" I want you to wait to have sex until the person youÂ’re with asks you for it. Tells you they need you now, and that they canÂ’t wait, and they want it. Calls you by your name and asks for it."
So next week when little Johnny's classmate wants to do it and tells him she can't wait, he's got the green light?

Sorry. This conversation is just ridiculous.
There is more than one way to have the conversation, but most people don't have it at all. I think it is especially important for boys to be told that sex is special and it involves feelings and that your partner needs to be respected.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#82676 Mar 21, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> I was reading the letter and stopped at this line.
"Now I’m going to talk about sex. I know you know “how it works” because we’ve been talking about it ever since you two were little, since before you could read"
WTF? I'm not gonna try to put a number on when a parent SHOULD talk with their kid about sex cause I was probably let in on the secret later than I should have(by 5th grade, I was still unaware that a man had any part in how a woman got pregnant), but talking to them about “how it works” before they could read? Is this a f'n joke? My older kid is in Kindergarten and can read. Hell no I'm not talking to him about how sex works. Sorry, but that is definitely not age appropriate.
My cousin has an incredibly precocious little girl who knew all about periods and stuff at 3.5 or so. Her attitude is, "She asks questions, she gets answers." I was kind of floored. She just had her 3rd kid and I think her oldest kid (14-ish) was there for the birth. Nope. Nope, nope, nope. I'm less of a prude than my parents--slightly--but nope. Let 'em be innocent for a while.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#82677 Mar 21, 2013
PEllen wrote:
http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/20/ opinion/george-gay-marriage/in dex.html?hpt=hp_t3
This is for Edog in the morning. He needs to know that he is right about something.
I'm ALWAYS right. That is a major argument for those who oppose gay marriage.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#82678 Mar 21, 2013
Jess in NJ wrote:
Age appropriate conversations. My boys see my husband and me kissing on the mouth (not making out, usually, but we are affectionate).
That is not SEX. You know, the stuff the writer was talking about.

"I know you know “how it works” because we’ve been talking about it ever since you two were little, since before you could read, and you know all about sperm and eggs and penises and vaginas and vulvas and orgasms and condoms and all that"

One kid was 8. I don't see it as age appropriate to talk about condoms and orgasms with an 8 year old(or younger as the writer suggests is the case).

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