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Since: Jan 10

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#82022 Mar 9, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
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You're right. And I'm sure in some ways that was damaging, but from where I'm sitting right now, I'm really glad we didn't have an ugly, hateful breakup. I'm not planning the future more than a couple of weeks in advance right now - haha - but I still hold out hope that once enough time has passed, we can be friends. Probably not talk-on-the-phone-several-time s-a-week friends, but talking every couple of months with a random text, email, or Facebook comment thrown in here and there. I know he wants that, and I want it too... but I have to make sure I'm okay with it.
And then in 20 years he can tellyou he thinks he wants to be a woman.

I got a photo in an email today.

this is going to be weirder than I thought. I decided that I need to (1) decide how much support I'm wiling to give , and know that it's for the long haul, because it would be cruel to pullthe rug out from under a friend after a year of being there ("soryr, I'm just done, later"), and (2) find out what Nick is willing to accept, find out what his feelings are on this (I've told him what I've told you guys). I think Nick will say that so long as it doesn't impact our relationship in a serious way, and that he doesn't have to hear all about it, he is fine with my supporting an ex/old friend through a weird time. I think that's a perfectly fine stance.

I'm not giong to keep talking abuot this -- it's just thati t's a new thing that shocked me and is HUGE... This was a wonderful LTR and I would have married him in a heartbeat. In top 3 boyfriends ever. My ex husband isn't in that top 3.

And it's not my business, it's his -- his to share, not for me to share.

I promise, the comments will be kept to a minimum and I'm going to aim for a Matilda-inspired posting style (like how if her dad had his way, she'd be half asian) for any comments I may have about it. ;)

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#82023 Mar 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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And then in 20 years he can tellyou he thinks he wants to be a woman.
I got a photo in an email today.
this is going to be weirder than I thought. I decided that I need to (1) decide how much support I'm wiling to give , and know that it's for the long haul, because it would be cruel to pullthe rug out from under a friend after a year of being there ("soryr, I'm just done, later"), and (2) find out what Nick is willing to accept, find out what his feelings are on this (I've told him what I've told you guys). I think Nick will say that so long as it doesn't impact our relationship in a serious way, and that he doesn't have to hear all about it, he is fine with my supporting an ex/old friend through a weird time. I think that's a perfectly fine stance.
I'm not giong to keep talking abuot this -- it's just thati t's a new thing that shocked me and is HUGE... This was a wonderful LTR and I would have married him in a heartbeat. In top 3 boyfriends ever. My ex husband isn't in that top 3.
And it's not my business, it's his -- his to share, not for me to share.
I promise, the comments will be kept to a minimum and I'm going to aim for a Matilda-inspired posting style (like how if her dad had his way, she'd be half asian) for any comments I may have about it. ;)
Darn! I wanted to hear all about it. To me it's foreign and it would be a window into someone's life that I can't imagine experiencing. Yet, I think it would be helpful to understand what some people go through.

I feel for him but I am puzzled by the little bit you have told -- not by you but by the situation. I can't imagine how puzzled he must be.

Since: Jan 10

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#82024 Mar 9, 2013
Oh, Toj, I don't even have any morei nformation to share. He sent two long emails, one with the photo, and I didn't read anything. I closed them right away. I wasn't in the right frame of mind. I decided to make a real effort to jsut let go of who I think he is and be open to wahtever has to say, stop trying to predict it.

Since: Jan 10

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#82025 Mar 9, 2013
Hey, Chicago folks, how about your Blackhawks? Our local radio Djs and sports guys are as impressed as hell. Congrats to you folks.

Go Wild!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#82026 Mar 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Oh, Toj, I don't even have any morei nformation to share. He sent two long emails, one with the photo, and I didn't read anything. I closed them right away. I wasn't in the right frame of mind. I decided to make a real effort to jsut let go of who I think he is and be open to wahtever has to say, stop trying to predict it.
I think your approach to it all if perfect. I also think it didn't work out between you two b/c it wasn't suppose to. Call it karma, fate, intuition -- whatever. You were obviously suppose to meet Nick and help this guy.

You are not responsible for him, though, for the rest of your life. You help him until you cannot -- for whatever reason. Be it that you're drained, have other stuff going on in your life or simply can't anymore.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#82027 Mar 9, 2013
Your approach IS perfect. (sigh)

Since: Jan 10

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#82028 Mar 9, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
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It makes perfect sense.
Did I tell you guys about what my friend C said to me a few weeks ago? I told her I missed my life, and she kindly said to me "This IS your life now." I think that concept is finally permeating my subconscious.
C is right! Smart woman.

For some of us, life is a series of neverending changes. Of varying duration.

Since: Jan 10

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#82029 Mar 9, 2013
Toj wrote:
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I think your approach to it all if perfect. I also think it didn't work out between you two b/c it wasn't suppose to. Call it karma, fate, intuition -- whatever. You were obviously suppose to meet Nick and help this guy.
You are not responsible for him, though, for the rest of your life. You help him until you cannot -- for whatever reason. Be it that you're drained, have other stuff going on in your life or simply can't anymore.
Yeah, my attitude is one of sending supportive emails now and then. Not daily or constant contact. If he's wearing a dress and a wig, well, he's done some reading/research/interesting internet searching.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Lawrence, MA

#82030 Mar 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
For some of us, life is a series of neverending changes. Of varying duration.
That's true for pretty much everyone, I think.

Don't fret the bad times, they won't last.

Enjoy the good times, because they won't last, either.

“Not a real reg”

Since: Jan 13

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#82031 Mar 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Hey, Chicago folks, how about your Blackhawks? Our local radio Djs and sports guys are as impressed as hell. Congrats to you folks.
Go Wild!
Yep, they're doing great! But wait....Cubs opener is 4/1 (which should say it all). You'll really see something then.:>

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#82032 Mar 9, 2013
dahgts wrote:
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Yep, they're doing great! But wait....Cubs opener is 4/1 (which should say it all). You'll really see something then.:>
Umm, Blackhawks lost last night. But, hey it was a 23 game streak. Not bad.

I was at the 2010 rally following the Stanley Cup. I'll do it again this year.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#82033 Mar 9, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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And then in 20 years he can tellyou he thinks he wants to be a woman.
I got a photo in an email today.
this is going to be weirder than I thought. I decided that I need to (1) decide how much support I'm wiling to give , and know that it's for the long haul, because it would be cruel to pullthe rug out from under a friend after a year of being there ("soryr, I'm just done, later"), and (2) find out what Nick is willing to accept, find out what his feelings are on this (I've told him what I've told you guys). I think Nick will say that so long as it doesn't impact our relationship in a serious way, and that he doesn't have to hear all about it, he is fine with my supporting an ex/old friend through a weird time. I think that's a perfectly fine stance.
I'm not giong to keep talking abuot this -- it's just thati t's a new thing that shocked me and is HUGE... This was a wonderful LTR and I would have married him in a heartbeat. In top 3 boyfriends ever. My ex husband isn't in that top 3.
And it's not my business, it's his -- his to share, not for me to share.
I promise, the comments will be kept to a minimum and I'm going to aim for a Matilda-inspired posting style (like how if her dad had his way, she'd be half asian) for any comments I may have about it. ;)
LOL at your first sentence.

Ang, we're here for you if you need someone to just "listen" or anything. And I'm sure Nick will be cool.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#82034 Mar 9, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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That's true for pretty much everyone, I think.
Don't fret the bad times, they won't last.
Enjoy the good times, because they won't last, either.
True, true, true.

You're easy to agree with when you're in a good mood.
:)

Enjoy the date tonight!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#82035 Mar 9, 2013
PEllen wrote:
Umm, Blackhawks lost last night. But, hey it was a 23 game streak. Not bad.
Yeah, but Denver is 1200 ft above sea level. So they're still undefeated AT sea level.

(saw that in a fb post. I don't really care about the Hawks, hockey is for Canadians)

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

Chicago, IL

#82036 Mar 9, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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...hockey is for Canadians
Except for the fact that 500,000 American play hockey. And except for the fact that as many Americans identify hockey as their favorite sport as they do basketball (Harris poll). And except for the millions of Americans who watch it on TV (Nielsen). And except for the fact that the last 23 Stanley Cup winners have been American teams, and in the last 23 championship series only 5 Canadian teams have made it that far ( ESPN.com ). And except for the fact that Americans make up 25% of NHL rosters and Europeans make up another 25%( Quanthockey.com ). You are a chimp (Sam I Am).

Since: Jan 10

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#82037 Mar 9, 2013
Hockey: The most exciting sport to watch on TV.

(And in person.)

Baseball is mostly boring, but when it IS exciting, it's wonderful!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#82038 Mar 9, 2013
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
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Except for the fact that 500,000 American play hockey. And except for the fact that as many Americans identify hockey as their favorite sport as they do basketball (Harris poll). And except for the millions of Americans who watch it on TV (Nielsen). And except for the fact that the last 23 Stanley Cup winners have been American teams, and in the last 23 championship series only 5 Canadian teams have made it that far ( ESPN.com ). And except for the fact that Americans make up 25% of NHL rosters and Europeans make up another 25%( Quanthockey.com ). You are a chimp (Sam I Am).
Hey Frenchie! Canada called and wants their sport back! They said America ruined hockey the way soccer ruined football, the way football ruined rugby! And France wants to know why we don't have a professional lacrosse team!

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

Chicago, IL

#82039 Mar 9, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Hey Frenchie! Canada called and wants their sport back! They said America ruined hockey the way soccer ruined football, the way football ruined rugby! And France wants to know why we don't have a professional lacrosse team!
Source, please.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#82040 Mar 9, 2013
Homemade donuts and Nutella.

I'll check in later when the buzz wears off.
:D

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#82041 Mar 9, 2013
squishymama wrote:
Homemade donuts and Nutella.
I'll check in later when the buzz wears off.
:D
There is some college that added Nutella in food service for breakfast and the kids are stealing huge quantities of it.

It is way too sweet for me.

When younger daughter went to camp in Spain, we sent her a huge jar of Jif. The kids there thought it was a tremendous delicacy.

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