And then in 20 years he can tellyou he thinks he wants to be a woman.<quoted text>
You're right. And I'm sure in some ways that was damaging, but from where I'm sitting right now, I'm really glad we didn't have an ugly, hateful breakup. I'm not planning the future more than a couple of weeks in advance right now - haha - but I still hold out hope that once enough time has passed, we can be friends. Probably not talk-on-the-phone-several-time s-a-week friends, but talking every couple of months with a random text, email, or Facebook comment thrown in here and there. I know he wants that, and I want it too... but I have to make sure I'm okay with it.
I got a photo in an email today.
this is going to be weirder than I thought. I decided that I need to (1) decide how much support I'm wiling to give , and know that it's for the long haul, because it would be cruel to pullthe rug out from under a friend after a year of being there ("soryr, I'm just done, later"), and (2) find out what Nick is willing to accept, find out what his feelings are on this (I've told him what I've told you guys). I think Nick will say that so long as it doesn't impact our relationship in a serious way, and that he doesn't have to hear all about it, he is fine with my supporting an ex/old friend through a weird time. I think that's a perfectly fine stance.
I'm not giong to keep talking abuot this -- it's just thati t's a new thing that shocked me and is HUGE... This was a wonderful LTR and I would have married him in a heartbeat. In top 3 boyfriends ever. My ex husband isn't in that top 3.
And it's not my business, it's his -- his to share, not for me to share.
I promise, the comments will be kept to a minimum and I'm going to aim for a Matilda-inspired posting style (like how if her dad had his way, she'd be half asian) for any comments I may have about it. ;)