In the Catholic Church, confirmation is when people choose to become adult members of the church (as opposed to baptism, in which the parents and godparents speak for the child).<quoted text>Wrongo bongo. Confirmation has nothing to do with choosing. Confirmation is simply part of the process that is part of the religion you adopted. I went through it. So did many of my friends. And we didn't choose to go through it. We went through it because it was what was expected of us. And please don't insult my intelligence or yours by trying to assert that that's the exception.
As I said before, and I'll say again, if people are religious, fine, have at it, but my criticism comes in when they are of a certain faith just because of tradition and not because of any critical thinking, including the consideration of other faiths. There are a number of major religions with key differences. I do count it as a knock against someone if they put more thought into which car to buy than into which religion to practice.
I do also count it as a knock against someone if they use religion to justify bad behavior, as many do with homosexuality. The Christian Bible is routinely cited as a justification for homophobic behavior/views. Some who promote their faith the most vigorously are those who act most inconsistently with that faith. Look at Mutt. He is a professed Christian, but do you think Jesus would look kindly upon Mutt calling women "whores" and "bitches" and some of the other vitriolic things he has said? Does your God tell you that wishing cancer and car accidents on someone is consistent with his teachings? If so, I would like to see your copy of the Bible.
In CA we received confirmation during our sophomore year of high school. I told my parents after freshman year that I didn't want to be confirmed because I thought that the program was focusing too much on money and not enough on the meaning of confirmation and how the teachings of the church affect us as adults. My parents did not make me go to classes once I explained how I came to my decision and my concerns with the church. I still attended the Catholic HS and sang in the folk group at mass (I was even a paid soloist at weddings), but I did not want to be a hypocrite.
I love that my parents raised me to ask questions and make my own decisions. I have made plenty of mistakes, but I own them. I wish more parents would encourage their children to do the same.