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Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#80333 Feb 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
What you cant seem to understand is that to say "I cant" is offensive to me! Frankly I am offended when I hear is said in public by black people, the very same black people who would get "offended" if I were to say it. To me that is ludicrous, and no matter how much I can intellectually agree that if I say it, they will perceive it as racism, I cannot support the idea that only "They" can use the word.
And never ask me to respect anyone who does support that, because it means they are not about unifying our peoples, but instead trying to divide us.
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Huh? Doesn't make sense to me.

I'm sure you have heard that some (not all -- b/c there are a LOT of black people who would never use the word) use it as taking ownership and turning it around in their world as a positive. You saying you haven't heard of black people using the word as a way to negate the bad connotations of it? By being white, that negates that thought -- can you understand it? Not saying I agree with the pople who say it. Black or white (or hispanic or whatever).

You come to Chicago, sit on the 95th El stop and you say the n-word all you want and you explain to them how it's okay to use. Or sit in the United Center as the Bulls play and say it. As I said before, no one can control another's actions but the consequences are there to deal with.

No one is actually saying "Don't say that" as in you can't utter those words. What people mean, I believe, is it's not WISE to say that and if you do you will be thought of in general society as a racist person.

Right or wrong that's how it is.

Do you disagree with the way it would be taken?

Since: Jan 10

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#80334 Feb 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Ok. forgive my deficit of racist references. WTF are you talking about?
Brazil nuts, I think.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#80335 Feb 15, 2013
Like the basic universal right to use the language.

Your hypocracy is showing, and unfortunately, it's your best feature.

Sam I Am wrote:
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Civil rights: the nonpolitical rights of a citizen, basic rights: rights that all citizens of a society are supposed to have.
WTSTI.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#80336 Feb 15, 2013
Toj wrote:
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didn't you say the photographer was at Disney with saying that Monkey thing? Sounds like a different instance. Or perhaps an urban legend? It might not have read carefully, though. Wondering is all.
I did say that, Southwest was a different instance, and no, its not urban legend. I live within spittin distance of the mouse and that was all over the local news when it happened. Had a black guy in the department at that time. And this was definitely a topic of discussion. Wierd that I can't find the damn story. I am 99.9% sure the dude got fired.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#80337 Feb 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> Guess I just did not grow up around open racists.
I don't think "racism" has anything to do with it.(How many racist children do you know?) People and words were just a lot less sensitive back then.

Since: Jan 10

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#80338 Feb 15, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Name ONE right a straight man has that a gay man does not. Just one. I bet you can't.
The right to not be fired based on sexual orientation.

The right to not be evicted based on sexual orientation.

In 30 states, it is legal to discriminate based on sexual orientation.

Married couples have over 500 financial and legal benefits in the state of Minnesota that unmarried couples do not. So denying a gay couple the right to marry is unfair, because they are being denied those benefits.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#80339 Feb 15, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Settle down, Sparky, it still has to pass the house. And I'm unaware that marriage was a "right," also, there's nothing stopping a gay man from legally marrying a woman.
I'm quite settled. I'm not up in arms about it. Seems to bother you, though.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#80340 Feb 15, 2013
Straight man can enter into a civil union and claim a marriage deduction on his taxes.
edogxxx wrote:
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Name ONE right a straight man has that a gay man does not. Just one. I bet you can't.

Since: Jan 10

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#80341 Feb 15, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
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I think it's Brazil nuts. An older guy at my last office used that phrase - someone sent some mixed nuts for the holidays - and it did not go well for him.
Yes, Brazil nuts!

My coworker called them N toes, and I told her, "You can't say that word here at work." She NEVER would have called a black person the N word, but she didn't give a second thought to the N toes comment. She grew up with it.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#80342 Feb 15, 2013
dahgts wrote:
A friend's neighbor was talking to her cousin. Cousin was telling her about remodeling her bathroom. Said she was going to have a shade put over her skylight to keep the drones from seeing her on the toilet, etc.
Member of edog's Club Paranoia?
OMG, that just made me laugh out loud! Wonder how much that costs.

Since: Feb 08

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#80343 Feb 15, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
Ok, I am not, at all, a big seafood person, so I never get adventurous. I have never had scallops. What are they similar to?
I've done crab, lobster, and shrimp (like) clams, mussels, oysters, cockles(sp?), and some other ones like those (DISLIKE) Octopus and calamari are yucky. White fish is o...k... and dark fish is gross.
Soooo would I like scallops?
I think you'd like scallops. I like clams in chowder or fried, and oysters, but I'm with you on the rest of them. I don't really dislike the taste of the calamari I've tried at our favourite place, but the texture ruins it for me. I've tried it other places and at those both the taste and texture were yuck.

Since: Jan 10

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#80344 Feb 15, 2013
You want to use your precious N word?

Say it to squishy. See how far you get with her. She's a wonderful, sweet person. Have fun.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#80345 Feb 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
Like the basic universal right to use the language.
Your hypocracy is showing, and unfortunately, it's your best feature.
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Apples and oranges. One is to the actual laws, the other is to societies norm.

We've got plenty of freaks out of society norms. There are also some good people outside of society norms. Sometimes it's difficult to differentiate one from the other.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#80346 Feb 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
Wrong again azzhat. Your one one defending the rights of blacks to say it, not me. I am just saying that in a free society all people have access to all the words, there are no reserved words.
You however want to restrict who gets to use what words.
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Wrong again, azzhat. I have not defended the right of blacks to say it, nor have I tried to restrict anything. I have simply pointed out how things are. I am recognizing reality. You are the one asserting that you should be able to say anything you want. I have done nothing more than address the response you will likely receive from different audiences. I do not think the N-word is appropriately used by anyone, but I recognize that certain people using it will provoke a different reaction than other people using it.

If you want to sound less stupid, try reading my posts and pretending you don't hate me and then respond, because you're obviously more concerned with trying to bitch me out than with paying attention or making sense.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#80347 Feb 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
Straight man can enter into a civil union and claim a marriage deduction on his taxes.
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Here's the difference:

- The right to federal benefits. States that allow some type of same-sex union are able to grant only state rights. The Defense of Marriage Act passed in 1996 prohibits same-sex couples from receiving federal marriage rights and benefits.
- Portability. Because civil unions are not recognized by all states, such agreements are not always valid when couples cross state lines.
- Terminology. "Marriage" is a term that conveys societal and cultural meaning, important to both gay rights activists and those who don't believe gays should marry.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#80348 Feb 15, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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... also, there's nothing stopping a gay man from legally marrying a woman.
This one is going in the Mutt's Moronic Statements Hall of Fame.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#80349 Feb 15, 2013
RACE wrote:
From now on, only fat people can call another person "fat". For a skinny person to use that word is racist because "Fat" is a derogatory word and it implies that there is a distinct difference between fat people and skinny people, and skinny people feel themselves superior to fat people.
Hey dum dum, skinny and fat aren't races.

Since: Feb 08

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#80350 Feb 15, 2013
Toj wrote:
Mimi! Scallops are my absolute FAVORITE but they have to be done correctly. Done correctly, they melt in your mouth and you need no butter for flavor but they're also good with butter. And alfredo. And a lot of things. They have this slightly sweet almost buttery flavor, better than lobster.
You'll know if you get a scallop done incorrectly when it's chewy. That means they overcooked it.
Nom, nom, nom. I love scallops.
Yeah, rubbery ones are overdone, or they used something else and called it scallops.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#80351 Feb 15, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Brazil nuts, I think.
Yes, it is Brazil nuts that are also referred to as N-toes.

Even as a kid when my dad used that term for those nuts, I knew better than to call them that.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#80352 Feb 15, 2013
I dont get a lot of what you wrote.
NOBODY owns the damm word! That is stupidity talking.
To say that by blacks using the word is to take the bad connotations out of it??? TOTAL BS! They have been using that word for generations, but the connotation is still there every time a white person says it, to obviously that plan aint working!

And your idiot challenge is the same as sams! since you want to deny me the right to use the word, but cant, you will just encourage and support other people to beat me up when I do. How very civilized of you toj, you can get off your high horse now you hypocrite.

How about I invite you to my hood and start rapping about raping white women and killing the white man, and see how long you go unbloodied. Cause yanno nobody can control anothers actions and stuff and free speech, while free is not always a wise thing to excercise, and bla bla bla.
Toj wrote:
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Huh? Doesn't make sense to me.
I'm sure you have heard that some (not all -- b/c there are a LOT of black people who would never use the word) use it as taking ownership and turning it around in their world as a positive. You saying you haven't heard of black people using the word as a way to negate the bad connotations of it? By being white, that negates that thought -- can you understand it? Not saying I agree with the pople who say it. Black or white (or hispanic or whatever).
You come to Chicago, sit on the 95th El stop and you say the n-word all you want and you explain to them how it's okay to use. Or sit in the United Center as the Bulls play and say it. As I said before, no one can control another's actions but the consequences are there to deal with.
No one is actually saying "Don't say that" as in you can't utter those words. What people mean, I believe, is it's not WISE to say that and if you do you will be thought of in general society as a racist person.
Right or wrong that's how it is.
Do you disagree with the way it would be taken?

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