Huh? Doesn't make sense to me.What you cant seem to understand is that to say "I cant" is offensive to me! Frankly I am offended when I hear is said in public by black people, the very same black people who would get "offended" if I were to say it. To me that is ludicrous, and no matter how much I can intellectually agree that if I say it, they will perceive it as racism, I cannot support the idea that only "They" can use the word.
And never ask me to respect anyone who does support that, because it means they are not about unifying our peoples, but instead trying to divide us.
I'm sure you have heard that some (not all -- b/c there are a LOT of black people who would never use the word) use it as taking ownership and turning it around in their world as a positive. You saying you haven't heard of black people using the word as a way to negate the bad connotations of it? By being white, that negates that thought -- can you understand it? Not saying I agree with the pople who say it. Black or white (or hispanic or whatever).
You come to Chicago, sit on the 95th El stop and you say the n-word all you want and you explain to them how it's okay to use. Or sit in the United Center as the Bulls play and say it. As I said before, no one can control another's actions but the consequences are there to deal with.
No one is actually saying "Don't say that" as in you can't utter those words. What people mean, I believe, is it's not WISE to say that and if you do you will be thought of in general society as a racist person.
Right or wrong that's how it is.
Do you disagree with the way it would be taken?