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Sam I Am

Chicago, IL

#79939 Feb 8, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
I'm sure some, if not most or all, of you are sick of me and my problems. But since in this forum, you can choose to read or scroll by or judge me with a silly icon, too bad... here goes. Fair warning for those who DON'T want to hear it anymore.
I'm climbing the walls with anger and despair. Unless I have something to really concentrate on, my own mind is my worst enemy. Work helps a little but only if it's a problem to solve - the routine stuff doesn't keep my mind off of the whole situation with Jasper.
People keep saying this is normal, etc. but I haven't been through enough relationships ending to know firsthand. I can barely function, and can only sleep with sominex. I pulled myself through the initial pain last fall by staying busy, but my energy is spent and I don't feel like I have it in me to start all over again.
Of course, back then I was caught up in A's drama with the boyfriend (who is currently weaseling himself back into the picture, but I can't and won't consume myself with that... unless it's a needed distraction?). I can't spend all my time with my close friends dumping on them, and people keep asking me if I'm okay because I "look sad." I feel like I should be walking around dripping blood, how visible my hurt is.
I've taken a first step toward finding a professional to talk to and it feels good - as good as anything feels right now - to take action. But in the meantime, I'm miserable. And everywhere I look at home, it's memories. Different apartment but all the same stuff.
Anyway... I don't really know what I'm trying to accomplish by telling you guys this. It's just an outlet, I guess. And I really do feel bad for coming across so melodramatic. It's not like anyone died.
IMO the absolute best thing you can do is keep in mind that this will end and you just have to ride it out. The next best thing is to keep in mind that you deserve to be happy, and you should value yourself enough to believe that your happiness is not predicated on your ex or anyone else. Go do some things you enjoy, and f' him if he is missing out on enjoying them with you.
Sam I Am

Chicago, IL

#79940 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
Computer purchase nightmare.
My old computer died.
My husband brought me a Dell Vostro he wasn't using in his office. It kept crashing and eleting things.
He was not able to fix it. I gave up and went to Dell's website on Feb 1. Had a nice IM chat with a guy there, chose the configuration and placed the order based on sales guy's recommednation and the website notation that it would be delivered by Feb 4.
Feb 4 I get an email that it will be delayed until the 12th.
Today I get an email that says that maybe they can ship on the 18th.
I call. I talk to 2 people with Indian acccents who tell me the model was never available in stock, that there is a glitch in the manufacturing process and that teh 18th is not a guarantied date.
I cancelled. Micahel Dell can take his company private and stick it private. I am searching for a website to share my experience
Now I am back in the market. Many of the places I go are blocked on the office computer. My smart phone sucks for anything than casual browsing and I will not pay bills off that thing, no security as far as I am concerned.
I would be happy to have suggestions on where to go next. It has been since the 1st of the year since I have a computer at home. I can't even look up phone numbers easily.
ARGHHHH!!!( caps intended)
I strongly advocate a refurbished MacBook or iPad, depending what your needs are. I did not think I would really enjoy an iPad but I was wrong. I rent movies on it, pay bills, have my iTunes, iPhoto, surf the net, etc. I am using it more than I ever thought I would. And refurbished from Apple saves around 15-20% amid they carry the same warranty as new. Give it a think.
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#79942 Feb 8, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
<quoted text>
I strongly advocate a refurbished MacBook or iPad, depending what your needs are. I did not think I would really enjoy an iPad but I was wrong. I rent movies on it, pay bills, have my iTunes, iPhoto, surf the net, etc. I am using it more than I ever thought I would. And refurbished from Apple saves around 15-20% amid they carry the same warranty as new. Give it a think.
This is going to sound very stupid, but looking at the Apple site, I can't figure out which device is the desktop computer. Is it the Mac mini? Aren't there compatibility problems with USB vs 30 prong plugs? I wasn't keen on getting an all in one because I have a nice big monitor that I got last year.

I also don't know how to convert the size/speed numbers I am accustomed to working with for RAM and hard drive. Stuff on Apple seems to start at $599 and go up. An HP with 4GB RAM and 500GB hardrive is available for $319. I would have to add the MS Word package, but that costs out at $139 at CDW and I would need a security package. I have a ongoing argument with my husband on that. Consumer Reports said teh the MS Security suite which is free is as good as the Norton and McAfee systems. He disagrees, but I was using the MSSEcurity suite on the old computer and I ever had problems with viruses or malware.

My sister has an Apple laptop which I use when we go up to teh cottage. The inteface wouldn't be that hard to learn.

Thanks for the input though.

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#79943 Feb 8, 2013
I danced and whooped for joy.
I hope they rot in jail from the inside out.

http://www.katu.com/news/local/Vancouver-coup...
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#79944 Feb 8, 2013
NWmoon wrote:
I danced and whooped for joy.
I hope they rot in jail from the inside out.
http://www.katu.com/news/local/Vancouver-coup...
Wre the kids kept locked up? Did tehy go to school? How did they have access to a counselor to whom they could slip a note?

Have you seen the situation in KC where the 17 year old has been handcuffed to a pole in the basement since September and essentislly starved?

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#79945 Feb 8, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
Ugh, that didn't come out right.
Mimi - thank you for the kind words. I feel especially touched by your support, given what you've been through.
It came out right. I understood what you were saying.:) No ne is an island and everyone has issues. What I've dealt with is way way way less than some people have had to deal with. It's just a matter of degrees. And... you are dealing with the death of a long term relationship right now. You need to grieve for a while. And process stuff, and get back on your horse, and yadda yadda, yadda. We all get it. No worries.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#79946 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
This is going to sound very stupid, but looking at the Apple site, I can't figure out which device is the desktop computer. Is it the Mac mini? Aren't there compatibility problems with USB vs 30 prong plugs? I wasn't keen on getting an all in one because I have a nice big monitor that I got last year.
I also don't know how to convert the size/speed numbers I am accustomed to working with for RAM and hard drive. Stuff on Apple seems to start at $599 and go up. An HP with 4GB RAM and 500GB hardrive is available for $319. I would have to add the MS Word package, but that costs out at $139 at CDW and I would need a security package. I have a ongoing argument with my husband on that. Consumer Reports said teh the MS Security suite which is free is as good as the Norton and McAfee systems. He disagrees, but I was using the MSSEcurity suite on the old computer and I ever had problems with viruses or malware.
My sister has an Apple laptop which I use when we go up to teh cottage. The inteface wouldn't be that hard to learn.
Thanks for the input though.
I've decided to get the Mac Book Air. The weight is good...very portable, and the guy at the Apple store helped me to configure my HD (500 gigs) and RAM (8 gigs). There is an Office program for Mac, so no worries there. Doesn't your ISP offer you a security package? I have (stupid) Comcast and Norton is included.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#79947 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>

You don't have to be a student as long as you are a graduate/alum of an accredited college or university.
Ah. Cool.:D

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#79948 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Wre the kids kept locked up? Did tehy go to school? How did they have access to a counselor to whom they could slip a note?
Have you seen the situation in KC where the 17 year old has been handcuffed to a pole in the basement since September and essentislly starved?
I guess they got help from the couple's natural children. I know that at least one of the natural kids testified against the parents. I think they made the place look "normal" when they knew a worker was coming.
Doctors said the kids were malnourished, and when they made the surprise visit they found the fridge and all food cupboards locked up.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#79949 Feb 8, 2013
Sam I Am wrote:
<quoted text>IMO the absolute best thing you can do is keep in mind that this will end and you just have to ride it out. The next best thing is to keep in mind that you deserve to be happy, and you should value yourself enough to believe that your happiness is not predicated on your ex or anyone else. Go do some things you enjoy, and f' him if he is missing out on enjoying them with you.
Thanks.

His loss. His loss. His loss....

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#79950 Feb 8, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>It came out right. I understood what you were saying.:) No ne is an island and everyone has issues. What I've dealt with is way way way less than some people have had to deal with. It's just a matter of degrees. And... you are dealing with the death of a long term relationship right now. You need to grieve for a while. And process stuff, and get back on your horse, and yadda yadda, yadda. We all get it. No worries.
Thank you. Again.
:)

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#79951 Feb 8, 2013
So I ended up with an invitation to happy hour with a few people from work. It was fun and a huge relief to be out socializing with people I know.

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#79952 Feb 8, 2013
Oh, and I heard about the KC thing, but I've not read any detailed reports.
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#79953 Feb 8, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
So I ended up with an invitation to happy hour with a few people from work. It was fun and a huge relief to be out socializing with people I know.
Good.

Sort of off topic:
I don't particularly like most beers. I do like hard cider. There is a tasting of 80 hard ciders at Navy Pier tomorrow. I am going with my sister and BIL ( who is gluten intolerant) and a friend of theirs. Husband made a face when I asked him.

I have been on my diet since Jan 1 and I have been "saving" for this event(No wheat,processed carbs, dairy, sugars or alcohol since last year. I miss them less that I expected). We are planning strategy with transporation to avoid buzz driving, food suitable for BIL and maybe walking if the sidewalks have melted enough.

I have seen the list of ciders- I have drunk some of them, but this will be FUN. The kicker will be that I am sure to like some that won't be available in Chicago.

The organizer of Cider Summit is from Portland I think, so I will raise a sipper to Moon and Mimi

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#79954 Feb 8, 2013
http://seattle.cbslocal.com/2011/10/19/washin...

Sorry, the story said foster, but they'd adopted the kids. So, no regular visits after the final adoption thing.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#79955 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Good.
Sort of off topic:
I don't particularly like most beers. I do like hard cider. There is a tasting of 80 hard ciders at Navy Pier tomorrow. I am going with my sister and BIL ( who is gluten intolerant) and a friend of theirs. Husband made a face when I asked him.
I have been on my diet since Jan 1 and I have been "saving" for this event(No wheat,processed carbs, dairy, sugars or alcohol since last year. I miss them less that I expected). We are planning strategy with transporation to avoid buzz driving, food suitable for BIL and maybe walking if the sidewalks have melted enough.
I have seen the list of ciders- I have drunk some of them, but this will be FUN. The kicker will be that I am sure to like some that won't be available in Chicago.
The organizer of Cider Summit is from Portland I think, so I will raise a sipper to Moon and Mimi
Is this yearly event? Gives me a good reason to takea trip to Chicago

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#79956 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Good.
Sort of off topic:
I don't particularly like most beers. I do like hard cider. There is a tasting of 80 hard ciders at Navy Pier tomorrow. I am going with my sister and BIL ( who is gluten intolerant) and a friend of theirs. Husband made a face when I asked him.
I have been on my diet since Jan 1 and I have been "saving" for this event(No wheat,processed carbs, dairy, sugars or alcohol since last year. I miss them less that I expected). We are planning strategy with transporation to avoid buzz driving, food suitable for BIL and maybe walking if the sidewalks have melted enough.
I have seen the list of ciders- I have drunk some of them, but this will be FUN. The kicker will be that I am sure to like some that won't be available in Chicago.
The organizer of Cider Summit is from Portland I think, so I will raise a sipper to Moon and Mimi
Have fun PE!
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#79957 Feb 8, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Is this yearly event? Gives me a good reason to takea trip to Chicago
It is the first time I have heard of it. It seems to be a road show kind of thing that pops up in different cities.

The organizers had a web site but they didn't answer my email.

Are you a cider person?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#79958 Feb 8, 2013
Just looked it up
3 cities.
Growing
Fingers crossed that it comes to me one day.

Just looked at the list.
26 tables.

I've had everything on 6 of them.
Oh the fun I would have on the other 20 tables.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#79959 Feb 8, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Good.

Sort of off topic:
I don't particularly like most beers. I do like hard cider. There is a tasting of 80 hard ciders at Navy Pier tomorrow. I am going with my sister and BIL ( who is gluten intolerant) and a friend of theirs. Husband made a face when I asked him.

I have been on my diet since Jan 1 and I have been "saving" for this event(No wheat,processed carbs, dairy, sugars or alcohol since last year. I miss them less that I expected). We are planning strategy with transporation to avoid buzz driving, food suitable for BIL and maybe walking if the sidewalks have melted enough.

I have seen the list of ciders- I have drunk some of them, but this will be FUN. The kicker will be that I am sure to like some that won't be available in Chicago.

The organizer of Cider Summit is from Portland I think, so I will raise a sipper to Moon and Mimi
Sounds like fun.
:)

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