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[Mimi Seattle]

j_m_w wrote:

So I just had a long conversation with Jasper. He is dating. Overall it was an emotional but necessary conversation that didn't end badly, but I feel like total crap. Maybe on some weird level this will give me permission to let myself move on. I'm hoping.

Oh! Come here. I'm gonna hug you.

[Mimi Seattle]

Go 9ers!

[j_m_w]

Mimi Seattle wrote:

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Oh! Come here. I'm gonna hug you.

Thanks. It feels like breaking up all over again.

[Matilda77]

j_m_w wrote:

So I just had a long conversation with Jasper. He is dating. Overall it was an emotional but necessary conversation that didn't end badly, but I feel like total crap. Maybe on some weird level this will give me permission to let myself move on. I'm hoping.

Interweb hugs.:-/

[Matilda77]

My MIL did not wig out; she was fairly sane about the whole thing. Can't bitch too much, since she married J's dad at 18. They told SIL's dad and he was just kind of like "Oh."

They're talking about getting hitched summer of '14. Would be before their junior year.

[Toj]

j_m_w wrote:

So I just had a long conversation with Jasper. He is dating. Overall it was an emotional but necessary conversation that didn't end badly, but I feel like total crap. Maybe on some weird level this will give me permission to let myself move on. I'm hoping.

Every new ounce of information, I'm sure, hurts. It's part of the process, I suppose. Still sux.

[Toj]

I posted Amby for today (2-3). If someone wants to find Saturday's -- go for it.

[Mimi Seattle]

Matilda77 wrote:

My MIL did not wig out; she was fairly sane about the whole thing. Can't bitch too much, since she married J's dad at 18. They told SIL's dad and he was just kind of like "Oh."
They're talking about getting hitched summer of '14. Would be before their junior year.

So how do you think your ILs will do over the next year and a half leading up to the wedding? You think they will be cool about it or will there be drama?

[Mimi Seattle]

j_m_w wrote:

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Thanks. It feels like breaking up all over again.

I know it does. Maybe think about going somewhere...like Tahiti...with a bunch of girlfriends for a week or so. Just go do a bunch of fun stuff. And remember, what happens in Tahiti, stays in Tahiti.

[PEllen]

Mimi Seattle wrote:

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I know it does. Maybe think about going somewhere...like Tahiti...with a bunch of girlfriends for a week or so. Just go do a bunch of fun stuff. And remember, what happens in Tahiti, stays in Tahiti.

Martinique. It's closer to her and its French as well.

[PEllen]

j_m_w wrote:

So I just had a long conversation with Jasper. He is dating. Overall it was an emotional but necessary conversation that didn't end badly, but I feel like total crap. Maybe on some weird level this will give me permission to let myself move on. I'm hoping.

Rough for you. Sorry, but you are right, it was necessary.

[PEllen]

The columns for GroundHog Day where one keeps repeating the same thing over and over and no matter what one tries, you cannot change the outcome.(no, these are not re-hash)

http://www.topix.com/forum/chicago/TE6HCDA00M...

Abby for Saturday 2-2-13

http://www.topix.com/forum/chicago/TD9V74L4F6...

Amy for 2-2-13

[PEllen]

Toj wrote:

I posted Amby for today (2-3). If someone wants to find Saturday's -- go for it.

I went for it.

[edogxxx]

j_m_w wrote:

So I just had a long conversation with Jasper. He is dating. Overall it was an emotional but necessary conversation that didn't end badly, but I feel like total crap. Maybe on some weird level this will give me permission to let myself move on. I'm hoping.

Hang in there, the hurt won't last forever.

[edogxxx]

Matilda77 wrote:

They're talking about getting hitched summer of '14. Would be before their junior year.

Good for them! Congratulations!

[Julie]

Matilda77 wrote:

Wheeelp, my SIL and her boyfriend came with some news this weekend--they're engaged.

Ummmmm, wow. Good luck to her. And to him...

[Jess in NJ]

j_m_w wrote:

So I just had a long conversation with Jasper. He is dating. Overall it was an emotional but necessary conversation that didn't end badly, but I feel like total crap. Maybe on some weird level this will give me permission to let myself move on. I'm hoping.

I'm sorry it hurts so much.

Are you trying to stay friends with him? Is it making things easier really?

[Mimi Seattle]

PEllen wrote:

<quoted text>Martinique. It's closer to her and its French as well.

True. Of course anywhere that has sun and I can get a drink with fresh fruit and an umbrella is ok by me.

[Matilda77]

Mimi Seattle wrote:

<quoted text>So how do you think your ILs will do over the next year and a half leading up to the wedding? You think they will be cool about it or will there be drama?

There will be drama, fo sho. Already not expecting SIL's dad to show. J will walk her down the aisle. My MIL was a hot mess for our ceremony, and that her kid then was 32--I know her "baby" will be worse.

My SIL is terrible at decision making; I don't think she has any clue that she's going to have to spearhead wedding plans. I definitely expect drama in that department.

[j_m_w]

Jess in NJ wrote:

<quoted text>I'm sorry it hurts so much.

Are you trying to stay friends with him? Is it making things easier really?

Yes, we've been talking all along as friends. I don't know how things will be with this new development. I want to be friends in the long run but I might have to step back for a little while. I'll take it day by day.