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We have the same color system, they start in green, then go to yellow, orange, or red. Blue is in the opposite direction. Blue is an outstandingly good day. And we set up the same type of punishments and expectations. get yellow, orange or red and there is a predetermined puishment, mainly loss of privileges. Get enough greens in a row, you get a big reward. He got the big reward once. But for the most part, he seems content with the predetermined punishments. Like he'll tell me, "I know I can't watch tv".The only thing that has worked with Ry is a combination of goal setting with an agreed upon punishment if the goal is not met. He was having a period at school where he was getting in trouble every day. He and my husband sat down and came up with the plan together. If he had three weeks without getting in yellow at school (they start in green and move into yellow, orange, red, then blue with each infraction at school) then he would get a prize - a big prize.
The cleaning the yard and writing sentences are the first foray in punishments that were intended to be unpleasant. Taking away privileges just left him open to finding something else that he was still allowed to do, so it was almost like, eh, whatever. I can go a day or so without xyz. I'll just entertain myelf doing abc.
I like this.We told his teacher about it so she could remind him of his promise when she saw that he was starting to get antsy.