Correct, they were dating for about a year - NOT married.<quoted text>I interpreted non-single to mean she had a boyfriend, not a husband. And I'll disagree.
Perhaps the longer you've been married, the greater chance you have of working through your spouse making out with someone, but that is a major affront. To me, that's just a few steps away from having sex. We read all sorts of nonsense in these letters about people having "emotional affairs". F that. Making out with someone is way worse in my book.
And I agree. It's a deal-breaker. She knows she effed up and feels terrible.