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Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76289 Nov 26, 2012
Toj wrote:
Prudy: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prude...
Some interesting ones!
Interesting ones indeed!

L1: Nope. Nope, nope, nope. Even if you were ready to reconcile, Christmas dinner is not the time to do it.

L2: Ballsy. You got suckered out of $100. Did you at least get leftovers?

L3: Ha ha ha, gross. "...so if you don't take notice of the paintings he might not even focus on them." Yeah, bullcrap. Were you not 5 once? Five-year-olds are obsessed with that stuff.

L4: Well, that will make girl's night out awkward no matter what. Cut ties and move along.

L5: Just have your pre-fab answer all ready. "I have plans already but thank you for asking." Move along. I fail to believe that *this* is the hardest thing about suddenly losing your parents. People are just trying to be nice.

Abortion letter: Inpatient therapy for getting over an abortion? Really?

Baby shower letter: WTF do you think 'hosting' means? Have you ever had to pay for any other shower you've attended as a guest? Also, "All the food is going to cost quite a bit"? Why is that? 10 people, a $15 cake from the grocery store, some finger foods and some pop. How hard is that? Or make a cake for $5...

Guardianship letter: Shoulda told her that when she was knocked up with #3. But yeah, she gets to crank out kids indefinitly and expects you to be ready with the Partridge Family bus at her funeral? F that. I'd say even agreeing to take on one kid is generous.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#76290 Nov 26, 2012
Toj wrote:
Prudy: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prude...
Some interesting ones!
L1 (cheating husband & sister): What Matilda said.

L2 ($50/head for Turkey Day): You should have pulled your brother aside and a) found out if he was on board with this and b) told him there's no way you're paying.

L3 (naked paintings): also what Matilda said.

L4 (accused molestation): what Prudie said, I guess, but I'd want to get to the bottom of this. Either the kid is effed up for making this up, something happened that he misinterpreted, or the LW's son is lying.

L5 (dead parents): A listserv announcement seems over the top, and to me the idea of my friends going around telling everyone not to invite me over for the holidays is uncomfortable at best. Gotta go with Matilda again: come up with a canned answer, use as often as necessary.

L6 (abortion): If you really need inpatient therapy... gosh, I don't know. Says a lot about abortion....

L7 (baby shower): What Prudie said. Did you really not consider the cost before offering to do it?

L8 (guardianship): This should have been spelled out at least two kids ago. I don't think the LW and his wife should end up having to take on four kids, but I think the cruelest thing for kids who just lost their parents would be to split them up. Their parents should start asking grandparents, other relatives, or close friends if anyone *would* take on the whole family.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#76291 Nov 26, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
"Dammit I'm mad" spelled backwards is "dammit I'm mad!"
"Boobytrap" backwards is "partyboob."
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#76292 Nov 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
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Yum! Velveeta grilled cheese sandwiches are the best.
With bacon and tomato.

Check out the Napoleon and the Tradicion (on page 2):

https://cheesieschicago.com/menu/page/2/

And this place serves booze AND Capri Suns!
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#76293 Nov 26, 2012
Toj wrote:
Prudy: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prude...
Some interesting ones!
1.(Is It Time To Get Over It?) Sister and ex would be dead to me, the ex might fall prey to the infamous "mysterious circumstances."

2.($50) SIL would have gotten a big "F' you" and your brother should refund everyone's money.

3.(Prude) Let it be, let it be.

4.(Confused) A child says they're innocent and parent believes them. Shocker. Just tell the friend your son is on his own and things will play out as they do.

5.(Boundaries After a Death) Yes, yes, it's so rough having people care about you. Shush. You're a teacher and this social situation is too much for you to bear? Buck up, you're being a poor example of grace and appreciation.

6.(Baby shower cost) So you want the gratitude for hosting but not the responsibility, eh? Very simply, ask people to bring an app or a beverage. It's not that hard.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#76294 Nov 26, 2012
Toj wrote:
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Because Packers suck?
I'll admit, I didn't click on the link. Maybe I will now, though.
It's a very good story about a sick kid.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#76295 Nov 26, 2012
L1: Eff your sister. I doubt I'd ever forgive her. I feel for your parents, and your niece, who has a fucking asshole whore for a mother.

L2: You're a fool for writing the check. SIL needs to be publicly shamed. I'd start with Facebook.

L3: Screw the kids.*I* don't want to see nude pictures of peopel I know. Get a hotel room or rent a house like a normal family.

L4: Your son probably did do it. That said, I agree with your daughter.

L5: Crotch punches. You can register for them at www.cheluzal.com .

L6: bullshit, prudie. Plenty of people get through their lives without knowing an uncle, niece, cousin, and everything is fine. Get over it.

L7: Why would you ask prudie? Why not ask your abortion provider? My goodness, use your brain if you're not going to use your uterus!

L8: NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. Either HOST the party or don't. Do not charge. If you can't afford to host, DON'T DO IT.

L9: Your sister is out of line. And you are STUPID for thinking it's okay to split the kids up.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#76296 Nov 26, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
L6 (abortion): If you really need inpatient therapy... gosh, I don't know. Says a lot about abortion....
The women I've known (several) who'ev had an abortion were very okay with it afterwards. Maybe a bit sad at the loss of an unknown future, but they knew they'd made the right choice.

But this woman... I have to wonder how much she thought this through. I wonder how sure she was when she went through with it. Because I"ve not known any friend to need therapy afterwards.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#76297 Nov 26, 2012
L1 (cheating husband & sister): I don't think I'd speak to that sister. Ever. Until I realized I dodged a big bullet. Still. You don't do that to family. Guess some people do.
L2 ($50/head for Turkey Day): You should have charged her for the dish you brought. Same amount.:)
L3 (naked paintings): Weird
L4 (accused molestation): I'd want to get to the bottom of this. Either the kid is effed up for making this up, something happened that he misinterpreted, or the LW's son is lying. The answer won't come quick if ever. You probably did lose your friend.
L5 (dead parents): I agree -- the idea of my friends going around telling everyone not to invite me over for the holidays is uncomfortable at best. Canned answer is the best answer.
L6 (abortion): Get what you need from therapy. There's cheaper therapy. It might have stirred up stuff you didn't even realize was bothering you.
L7 (baby shower): This is just stupid. No, no, no -- don't charge the guests.
L8 (guardianship): Have to agree -- it's cruel for kids who just lost their parents would be to split. Their parents should start asking grandparents, other relatives, or close friends if anyone *would* take on the whole family.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#76298 Nov 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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It's a very good story about a sick kid.
Yes. It was a good story. Make a Wish is a good one. Football players should not need a child who might die to make them play their best, though.

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#76299 Nov 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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The women I've known (several) who'ev had an abortion were very okay with it afterwards. Maybe a bit sad at the loss of an unknown future, but they knew they'd made the right choice.
But this woman... I have to wonder how much she thought this through. I wonder how sure she was when she went through with it. Because I"ve not known any friend to need therapy afterwards.
She said in the letter that she felt like she only had bad choices. That sucks. The women I know who have had abortions ranged from very broken up afterward to "I did what I had to do" attitudes. But I've only known one who had one while we actually knew each other (the rest are from the past).

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#76300 Nov 26, 2012
There are seven women who I know have had abortions (they told me) and I'm guessing there are many more in my life who have had them and I *don't* know it. I'm not for abortion, but some of my very closest friends have had them. I would never judge anyone since I haven't been in the situation of ever having to make that decision myself.

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#76301 Nov 26, 2012
Oh, one last thing. By "very broken up" I mean sad, guilty, depressed, took a long time to emotionally heal from, but nothing like the LW. I've never known anyone to contemplate in-patient therapy for it.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#76302 Nov 26, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
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She said in the letter that she felt like she only had bad choices. That sucks. The women I know who have had abortions ranged from very broken up afterward to "I did what I had to do" attitudes. But I've only known one who had one while we actually knew each other (the rest are from the past).
I was newly friends with someone when she had hers, but she told me several years later and we've known each other for 25 years.

I figure there's a lot more out there, t hey just don't talk about it.

The only person who made me angry: "Catholic" coworker who opted to keep her pregnancy (by her convicted bank robber then imprisoned boyfriend), because she'd already had two abortions and thought if she aborted this one, she might not get another chance to have a baby.

Right. Because you've had such trouble conceiving with all your sleeping around as it is.(I mean, geez, I've slept around, but at least was smart about it.)

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#76303 Nov 26, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
Oh, one last thing. By "very broken up" I mean sad, guilty, depressed, took a long time to emotionally heal from, but nothing like the LW. I've never known anyone to contemplate in-patient therapy for it.
I suspect this $1K/day "therapy" is a scam, and they prey on women like her who feel like they'll do/pay anything to feel better.
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#76304 Nov 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I suspect this $1K/day "therapy" is a scam, and they prey on women like her who feel like they'll do/pay anything to feel better.
I haven't read teh letter itself but I wonder if it is something akin to post partum depression or the depression/hormones that hit after a stillbirth.

In patient psychotherapy is expensive. Our ex Congressman Jesse Jackson Jr could not have afforded it if he did not hae Federal full medical benefits.

The legitimacy of the conditionwas debated a couple years ago by Tom Cruise and Brooke Shields

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#76305 Nov 26, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>I haven't read teh letter itself but I wonder if it is something akin to post partum depression or the depression/hormones that hit after a stillbirth.
That's a good point. That never occurred to me!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#76306 Nov 26, 2012
So tax payers will fund the mental treatment of their elected officials while refusing to pay for the medication for a single mother working as a waitress? Sweet!

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#76307 Nov 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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The women I've known (several) who've had an abortion were very okay with it afterwards. Maybe a bit sad at the loss of an unknown future, but they knew they'd made the right choice.
But this woman... I have to wonder how much she thought this through. I wonder how sure she was when she went through with it. Because I've not known any friend to need therapy afterwards.
This. All of it.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#76308 Nov 26, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
So tax payers will fund the mental treatment of their elected officials while refusing to pay for the medication for a single mother working as a waitress? Sweet!
Were you in his district? It goes to Kankakee

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