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Since: Jun 09

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#76044 Nov 19, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
I met him!
He complained about being cold, about how cold it's going to be in PA over Thanksgiving, he yawned a lot, our mutual friend C (who knows a lot less than I do) told me privately that she thought he seemed controlling, he called me out on being 4 spaces off from my parking spot (he and A drove to my car at the end of the night because she's giving me some moving boxes).
Overall it wasn't a bad night, lots of laughs, but definitely a huge element of suspension of disbelief on my part.
See, it was Toj and my paranoia spasm which forced him into the open (Superstition and magical thinking will do it every time).

Why did he come here from Peru? Is it business, permanent?Could the controlling part be cultural?

Since: Jan 10

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#76045 Nov 19, 2012
No, it's not cultural. he's just a messed up guy dragging Jmw's friend down to his level.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76046 Nov 19, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>I am not a Wal-Mart fan but I often stop at the one on Veterans Parkway and that is clean and well stocked
Really? It's better than the other one in town, but I still think it's kinda gross. Produce section leaves a lot to be desired.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#76047 Nov 19, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
No, it's not cultural. he's just a messed up guy dragging Jmw's friend down to his level.
I believe that, too. He's afraid of losing the gf so her best friends might tell her negative things about him after meeting him.

JMW -- glad you got to meet him! It gives your friend more connections to you, thankfully. Keep trying to go the route you are. You are a good friend to her.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#76048 Nov 19, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>I am not a Wal-Mart fan but I often stop at the one on Veterans Parkway and that is clean and well stocked
Walmart is great for cleaning supplies, socks (for men/boys) and milk.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76049 Nov 19, 2012
Aiight, now I have time to elaborate on my weekend.

It was actually *really* good. J and I have just been astounded at how SIL is growing up. He went to pick her and Boyfriend up at school and usually, she's very interrupt-y in conversations on rides like that, but she wasn't at all. And she wasn't like that on the weekend at all. So, we think all the school socialization has been very good for her. Boyfriend is super sweet and smart and gets jokes. He can hang.

We had *our* Thanksgiving on Saturday, which consisted of J and I, SIL and Boyfriend, my MIL (step-FIL won't come over. Fine by everyone.) and SIL's high school friend H. Was good to talk to H; she's not had the easiest life, but has a job and is in school and is doing well.

My MIL kept steering the dinner conversations toward who she's a-feudin' with on Facebook or which of their white trash friends got arrested for what. It's time to pass out dessert, and my MIL doesn't want any, and I'm like "F**k, that means she's just going to ramble about stupid stuff while we eat." I was not disappointed. Then after dinner, she got all weepy for no apparent reason and then left.

We were discussing how one of SIL's classmates is pregnant and is leaving school at the end of the semester. Is keeping the baby. My MIL gets on her high horse and goes "Well, at least she's doing the right thing and raising her own baby." I had to bite my tongue. Please, yes, let's discuss what raising a child entails, MIL...

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76050 Nov 19, 2012
Also, MIL brought over all this food that she said my SIL left at their house when she moved out (yes, 2 years ago). Mmm! A 2-year-old open box of rice that smells like smoke and has cobwebs in it! All of it went in the garbage. Thanks for the crazy!

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76051 Nov 19, 2012
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
Walmart is great for cleaning supplies, socks (for men/boys) and milk.
Prescriptions are cheap there. I started going there because J goes there for his and it's just easy to pick them all up together.

Since: Jan 10

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#76052 Nov 19, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
We were discussing how one of SIL's classmates is pregnant and is leaving school at the end of the semester. Is keeping the baby. My MIL gets on her high horse and goes "Well, at least she's doing the right thing and raising her own baby." I had to bite my tongue. Please, yes, let's discuss what raising a child entails, MIL...
Ugh.

She will be among the world's most annoying grandparents if you or SIL have a kid.

Since: Jan 10

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#76053 Nov 19, 2012
But good news re: SIL! Sounds like college suits her!

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76054 Nov 19, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
But good news re: SIL! Sounds like college suits her!
Yeah, we are absolutely thrilled. Aside from her whole roommate snafu the first couple weeks, it's going better than we imagined it would.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#76055 Nov 19, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
Ugh.
She will be among the world's most annoying grandparents if you or SIL have a kid.
Oh, it will not be pretty. She's half-joked about us having 'free daycare' if we ever do have one. Um...no...you will not be left alone with any spawn of mine...ever.

Since: Jan 10

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#76056 Nov 19, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
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Oh, it will not be pretty. She's half-joked about us having 'free daycare' if we ever do have one. Um...no...you will not be left alone with any spawn of mine...ever.
Right. A grandparent who's stoned all the time makes for awesome daycare.

Since: Jan 10

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#76057 Nov 19, 2012
"Mommy, why does step-grandpa hate me?"

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#76058 Nov 19, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
<quoted text>
Yeah, we are absolutely thrilled. Aside from her whole roommate snafu the first couple weeks, it's going better than we imagined it would.
I'm so glad college is going well for SIL! It sounds like she's made leaps and bounds worth of progress in maturing, and I'm glad she has a sweet boyfriend. I'm sure you and J are beyond relieved.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#76059 Nov 19, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
No, it's not cultural. he's just a messed up guy dragging Jmw's friend down to his level.
I'm DYING to know what he has said to A about me and C now that he's met us.

I don't remember if I told you guys this, but not too long ago I noticed that A has made more negative remarks about her roommate lately and it seems to have coincided with her starting to date this guy (he met the roommate early on, obviously). I think he's probably in her head about her roommate because she's a friend, and I would be surprised if he doesn't have a few negative things to say about me and C also. C and her fiance are SO SWEET so it's practically impossible to imagine, but this guy will find a way....

Cattily, I wanted to wear heels to make myself taller than him last night but it was chilly so I wore boots. Not to worry, I was still taller than him. ;)

I texted my friend L this morning that we won't have to worry about this guy for much longer because he'll freeze to death up north over Thanksgiving. I thought *I* was wimpy about being cold - I've never seen anything like this! He was sitting right under one of those gas heaters on the patio and was hugging himself and looking miserable. And he's a GUY! They're never cold.

Since: Jan 10

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#76060 Nov 19, 2012
You know, thatís sort of like how it was with nickís cousin Mary. I was *fine* with Nickís family, then after two or three family gatherings, I was way more critical of them (even if only in my own head). One night I realized that the problem was Mary, sidling up to me and making catty remarks about Nickís sister and how Nickís family does things. Itís like sheís a SIL and Iím a SIL and weíre on the same team. But sheís not a SIL and Nick has a great family. I told him all about it and then let him know that I would be distancing myself from Mary as much as possible, because I didnít need her negative attitude about his family. He was surprised she was so catty and mean, but other things have since happened with her that weíre both writing her off as someone we donít like and donít plan to interact much with.

Since: Jan 10

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#76061 Nov 19, 2012
Does anyone here plan to buy christmas gifts for their pets? I got some cat toys for Rose, from Etsy, today, and I have a package of 20 more coming this week. I got a ton of toy mice from under/behind furniture this weekend, so she's set. So I think i"ll actually wrap the new ones loosely in wrapping paper and see if they can have some fun getting the toys out.

Since: Jan 10

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#76062 Nov 19, 2012
jmw: I think he's a controller big time. A normal guy WANTS to meet his girlfriend's friends (not too soon, of course). but he seems to be avoiding it on purpose, which means he has something to hide.

Since: Jan 10

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#76063 Nov 19, 2012
One way Carolyn Hax has gone with this issue is to say to someone, "I don't like the person you are when you're with him."

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