See, it was Toj and my paranoia spasm which forced him into the open (Superstition and magical thinking will do it every time).I met him!
He complained about being cold, about how cold it's going to be in PA over Thanksgiving, he yawned a lot, our mutual friend C (who knows a lot less than I do) told me privately that she thought he seemed controlling, he called me out on being 4 spaces off from my parking spot (he and A drove to my car at the end of the night because she's giving me some moving boxes).
Overall it wasn't a bad night, lots of laughs, but definitely a huge element of suspension of disbelief on my part.
Why did he come here from Peru? Is it business, permanent?Could the controlling part be cultural?