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Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#75851 Nov 9, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Your way is not the only way. Stop thinking that you're the only person who knows what's right and what's best.
Remember, don't argue with idiots. They drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#75853 Nov 9, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
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He can bite me. I've spent a lot of energy worrying about this and I tried to tell A my concerns in a loving way. Not saying I won't be there for her when the poo hits the fan but I'm done altering MY life to be accommodating. Not when it's costing me in multiple ways.
althgouh this may sound snarky, good for your for reaching that point... I've been that way (minus the $$ spent to accomodate) with one of my good friends. i'll text, i'll call, but no response, i'll tell her i'll bring a bottle of wine over instead of going for coffee because she's broke, but never a response to the invite. when she does come up for air, i've asked how high before she finshes saying jump in order to try to make things work to meet up with her. i think i've visited her in the hospital more htan i've been to her place in the last couple of years - and she's not that far from me.

It hurts to reach this point, but it does get liberating. it's ok to still worry about her and for her, but you're right, you've done a lot to try to meet up, and now, time for you!
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#75854 Nov 9, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
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And that's what you want for the rest of the country? I'll bet you people STILL vote democrat next time, then wonder why things aren't getting better. Then say it must be because of Republicans!
Don't worry about that, you nervous Nellie. With Obama winning the election, the world is surely going to end long before the next presidential vote.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#75855 Nov 9, 2012
NWmoon wrote:
<quoted text>I think so, but I've only seen pictures so far.
I'll be in town again on 2 December.
We could fix that.
8^J
We so should do something this time. I'm gonna message you my cell # on facebook later. I would say "text me" but you're still in the dark ages with your phone lol <ducks>.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#75856 Nov 9, 2012
This one's for RACE...

FIVE DAYS TIL RUSH!!!!

ahem...<neener neener>

Carry on...
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#75857 Nov 9, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
And that's what you want for the rest of the country? I'll bet you people STILL vote democrat next time, then wonder why things aren't getting better. Then say it must be because of Republicans!
C'mon Dog. That paints with way too broad a brush.I don't assume "all" Democrats are alike or that "all"Republicans are alike. Lindsay Graham and whats-her-name Bachman are both active Republicans. Jim Thompson and George Ryan are both Republicans. None of them are alike. No reason to think anyone else in teh House is like Jesse Jr, regardless of party

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#75858 Nov 9, 2012
Mimi Seattle wrote:
This one's for RACE...
FIVE DAYS TIL RUSH!!!!
ahem...<neener neener>
Carry on...
neener neener - saw them already - great show!! and i'm not a huge fan, but respect tehm, their longevity and artistry...

i think it was about 3 hours altogether, no opening act.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#75859 Nov 9, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>C'mon Dog. That paints with way too broad a brush.I don't assume "all" Democrats are alike or that "all"Republicans are alike. Lindsay Graham and whats-her-name Bachman are both active Republicans. Jim Thompson and George Ryan are both Republicans. None of them are alike. No reason to think anyone else in teh House is like Jesse Jr, regardless of party
And I'm nothing like Dog, dammit !

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#75860 Nov 9, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
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And I'm nothing like Dog, dammit !
I get RAGEY when you describe the crap the Dems do to you guys over the election stuff! I want to smack them. They're giving us a bad name.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#75861 Nov 9, 2012
Sam I Am wrote:
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Don't worry about that, you nervous Nellie. With Obama winning the election, the world is surely going to end long before the next presidential vote.
I certainly hope so!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#75862 Nov 9, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
You ARE a right-winger, edog. You're not a moderate by any means. I just wish you'd OWN it and wear it, not deny it.
I am liberal on a couple of issues. I'm all for the legalization of marijuana and support a woman's right to chose. But because I'm opposed to gay marriage you're assuming I'm an extreme right. Now who's painting who with a broad brush? I'm all for a type of civil union, if that helps any, but "marriage" is strictly for one man and one woman who aren't related.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#75863 Nov 9, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>I get RAGEY when you describe the crap the Dems do to you guys over the election stuff! I want to smack them. They're giving us a bad name.
I know some people around here are just bullies. It is easy to be a bully when you are part of the majority.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#75864 Nov 9, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
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I know some people around here are just bullies. It is easy to be a bully when you are part of the majority.
I'm in the majority here where I live. I can't imagine being a bully with it. If anything, that position of strength that comes with being in the majority should let someone lighten up and not feel threatened.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#75865 Nov 9, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>I'm in the majority here where I live. I can't imagine being a bully with it. If anything, that position of strength that comes with being in the majority should let someone lighten up and not feel threatened.
I didn't mean that all people in the majority are bullies. I meant that it's easier for the bullies to hide when they are in the majority.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#75866 Nov 9, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
If anything, that position of strength that comes with being in the majority should let someone lighten up and not feel threatened.
Then you end up being too smug. And you wake up one day and find yourself in the minority again.

Since: Mar 09

Brooklyn, NY

#75867 Nov 9, 2012
Chair massage at the airport!

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#75868 Nov 9, 2012
People who are not "big picture" people should not get to decide what is and is not "need to know" information.

My husband forgets to tell me details all the time. They may not be important to him, but they are usually pretty important to me. Argh!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#75869 Nov 9, 2012
Jess, you never present yourself as an extreme right b/c you listen to what people say. It doesn't necessarily change your mind, but you're interested. Edog, you dismiss people too easily when they disagree with you and call them names. Of course people think of you more as a Tea Party person than anything else.

Edog, it's good to hear you pick and choose to what you believe. I wonder, though, why civil union for gays? What do you think it would take from marriage as it stands now? Is it a monetary issue or is it a moral issue with you?

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Des Plaines, IL

#75870 Nov 9, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
Chair massage at the airport!
sweet!

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#75871 Nov 10, 2012
Aisle Sitter wrote:
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sweet!
It was the best $25 I spent all week. Certainly better than the $256 I'm about to spend on the speeding ticket.:(

Which is a good segue to explain what I meant yesterday about the plans with A falling through and how it's costing me money indirectly. She originally brought it up the weekend before last about her boyfriend coming up here this weekend to meet her friends (not just me) and we'd all go out to dinner. So a few days later, Jasper offered to come down here and stay with the dogs while I was out of town. I told him no thanks for a few reasons: if he's going to come down for three nights, I'd rather be home the whole time instead of just the last one (I got home at midnight last night); I had plans with A on Saturday night to finally meet her boyfriend; and ironically, I didn't want to rearrange my schedule around Jasper and be "that girl" - after all, he did move away. By not changing my plans to accommodate him, I was trying to move on.

So he ended up coming down last Sunday & Monday nights instead. On Monday morning, I emailed A to firm up our plans and at that point she wasn't sure and told me not to plan around her. I told her I already had and I didn't think it was fair to ask Jasper to come back down again in a few days (he couldn't have just stayed here the whole time, he had to teach up there on Thursday night).

So by not taking Jasper up on the offer to watch the dogs, I spent $175 on the kennel and $256 on a speeding ticket I wouldn't have gotten had I not been dropping the dogs off at the kennel.

Jasper called right before I landed and turned my phone on last night and I tried to call him back twice and didn't reach him. My brain is in overdrive and if anything happened to him, I'll regret this whole fucked up weekend for the rest of my life.

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