as a counter point to this, and y'all know how often i get into these discussions, i have a friend who has struggled all her life. she struggled through school, found a certificate program and graduated from that after high school. she did marry and have 2 kids, and has always lived modestly. then her husband etiher developed a mental illness or it had been latent and sometihgn triggered it. his illness manifests itself as impulsivity. one day, instead of going to work, he went for a drive. for two days. she had troopers in 3 states watching for his return.<quoted text>
Maybe they should examine the personal decisions they made in life, make better choices in the future, and work extra hard to get them out of the hole that they dug for themselves (I know, but it is so much easier if other folks do that extra work to get you out of the hole that YOU dug, and heck, you are entitled to this, so why not <sarcasm>).
I point out, no one forces a person to have a family that they can't afford. I also point out that no one forces a person to get married when they can't even care for themselves. I personally think it is irresponsible to do so and don't have a great deal of sympathy for such folks.
I know personal responsibility is a foreign concept to some, but many of us feel we have our own families to care for and we shouldn't be burdened with doing more and more and more and more for folks who want an ever increasing amount of handouts, or "help" as you like to call it.
Democrat mindset: Whaaa, whaaa, whaaa, I'm struggling - someone else do the work to make me not struggle. I'm entitled to this.
he continued his impulsivity by buying property in other states, changing jobs across the country, quitting on a whim, not following through with treatment and meds, and the like.
she's turned into a single mother, working 2 jobs, to support her kids on her own, and deal with her husband on top of it. at times, he's quit a relatively stable job for a frivolous reason, and after awhile and a lot of her prodding, he's foudn somethng new, but it's a "joe job" at mcdonald's or a gas station. they've had to declare personal bankruptcy because of him. lately, he's been living and working out of state, and i don't trust that he's sending money as he has promised.
her struggles have made me re-examine my attitudes about social services. she has had to go without medical stuff because they don't ahve insurance and (for example) the dentist wont' take installments, they don't have cable or internet, and she's got basic cell service. tehy rent in the country where it's cheaper, so she's spending more on gas and time getting to her jobs. she doesn't need constant assistance, but a boost every now and again will help keep her above water.