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#75156 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:
Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
My mom friends would agree with Toj and squishy.
I can read stories about horrific child abuse and torture and not shed a tear. Today's front page story is about a dog getting killed in a trap meant for wild animals and I immediately put the paper down and won't read any of the paper today. Or i'd be a wreck.

I don't get emotional over children directly -- I get more emotional when I think of what their parents go through emotionally.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75158 Oct 26, 2012
Not saying I don't care, as a non-mom. I am sure that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, and stories about bad things happening to children make me sadder than the same things happening to an adult.

But...stranger's kids dying is not going to make me cry. Just wondering if I'm a non-maternal robot or what.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75159 Oct 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I don't get emotional over children directly -- I get more emotional when I think of what their parents go through emotionally.
Well, yeah. I hope those kids didn't suffer for long. But omg...even the surviving daughter. She's young now, but I can imagine her being *so* angry once she fully realizes what has been taken away from her.

Toj

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#75160 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
Not saying I don't care, as a non-mom. I am sure that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, and stories about bad things happening to children make me sadder than the same things happening to an adult.
But...stranger's kids dying is not going to make me cry. Just wondering if I'm a non-maternal robot or what.
No. It's not connected to you. I think also once you've had people close to you die or suffer greatly you also gain a prospective to it.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#75161 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
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Well, yeah. I hope those kids didn't suffer for long. But omg...even the surviving daughter. She's young now, but I can imagine her being *so* angry once she fully realizes what has been taken away from her.
I meant to mention this the other day when the subject was "Hoarders" (again!) but I forgot.

While I was home on Tuesday, there was an episode were a teenage girl was the hoarder, and it stemmed from the tragic death of her younger brother. They had been very close when he died at like 3 yo and she was 4.

We all think kids are so resiliant and will be ok, even after bad things happen, but really that's complete bull sh!t. At least these parents will have the monetary resources to get the child the best therapy they can find. It may help...

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#75162 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:
Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
I'll be the voice of dad. Stories like that still don't have much of an effect on me(you won't see me weeping over the horror I'm reading), but I definitely do see them in a new light as a father. If I thik of how I'd feel if it were my son. Like Law & Order:SVU last night. Kid got kidnapped right out from dad in the subway on the way to a ball game. It hits you a bit differently when you can place yourself with real people in the story.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#75164 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:

Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
Definitely different for me since I became a mom and since I have gotten to know my sons' friends so well. My husband and I talk about this - he is still not as empathic to others' situations, but I have become more mindful that "there but for the grace if God go I".

There was just a case of a 12 year old girl in NJ who was killed because some teenagers wanted her bike parts. Look up Autumn Pasquale. This is hitting the moms around here hard.

Since: Jan 10

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#75165 Oct 26, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I'll be the voice of dad. Stories like that still don't have much of an effect on me(you won't see me weeping over the horror I'm reading), but I definitely do see them in a new light as a father. If I thik of how I'd feel if it were my son. Like Law & Order:SVU last night. Kid got kidnapped right out from dad in the subway on the way to a ball game. It hits you a bit differently when you can place yourself with real people in the story.
Nick's the same way, probably a bit more than you. We watch a lot of Criminal Minds, but when the show involves kids, especially boys, especially boys up to around age 12, he can't watch, because he thinks of his own boys.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75166 Oct 26, 2012
On a lighter side of things--we got invited to go out to a bar Saturday night for their Halloween costume judging. We're not going, but acquaintances (a couple) that are have been all secretive about what they're going as. "We're going to win" and all this.

Found out their big costume yesterday: D1ck in a box. From what, like 6-8 years ago? That I've seen every year since then? I know we're in the sticks, but come on...

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75167 Oct 26, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Definitely different for me since I became a mom and since I have gotten to know my sons' friends so well. My husband and I talk about this - he is still not as empathic to others' situations, but I have become more mindful that "there but for the grace if God go I".
There was just a case of a 12 year old girl in NJ who was killed because some teenagers wanted her bike parts. Look up Autumn Pasquale. This is hitting the moms around here hard.
I read about that one. I didn't realize they had suspects in that case.

When I googled it, the article that came up was how the mom of the two boys turned her own sons in and compared it to the Jessica Ridgeway murder where the mom of her killer turned her son in.

That. Would also. Suck.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#75168 Oct 26, 2012
Is everyone here familiar with http://kids.woot.com/ ? Awesome site. That is the link to the kids page, but there are non-kids things. They have one deal a day, or until it is sold out.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75169 Oct 26, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
Is everyone here familiar with http://kids.woot.com/ ? Awesome site. That is the link to the kids page, but there are non-kids things. They have one deal a day, or until it is sold out.
Heh, I like the shirt page. The T-rex trying to reach the magic lamp so it can wish for big arms. And the light sabers charging.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#75170 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
Not saying I don't care, as a non-mom. I am sure that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, and stories about bad things happening to children make me sadder than the same things happening to an adult.
But...stranger's kids dying is not going to make me cry. Just wondering if I'm a non-maternal robot or what.
Same here. Stories about horrible things happening to old people (not just regular dying since they're supposed to do that, but dying violent deaths or getting beaten and robbed and stuff) and stories about animal abuse get to me. I guess it's because I was very close to my grandmother and I have dogs.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#75171 Oct 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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Nick's the same way, probably a bit more than you. We watch a lot of Criminal Minds, but when the show involves kids, especially boys, especially boys up to around age 12, he can't watch, because he thinks of his own boys.
I think of mine too, but I can easily compartmentalize fiction from reality.

I'm the guy who can sit on an airplane and read an article about plane crashes without batting an eye.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#75172 Oct 26, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I think of mine too, but I can easily compartmentalize fiction from reality.
I'm the guy who can sit on an airplane and read an article about plane crashes without batting an eye.
I can do that too.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#75173 Oct 26, 2012
I can also hear gross stories while I'm eating and I rarely get grossed out. Pictures are a different story though.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75174 Oct 26, 2012
Can't do the airplane thing. Flying unmedicated, my brain works overtime making me think about plane crashes.

Gross stories are fine while eating, probably because growing up, that's when my mom would talk about so-and-so from church's colonoscopy results or the neighbor's skin cancer removal.

Since: Jan 10

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#75175 Oct 26, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
I can also hear gross stories while I'm eating and I rarely get grossed out. Pictures are a different story though.
I can read or see anything while eating. I worked on the case of a serial killer (RObert Berdella) and read about what he did to his victims, while I ate lunch.

But I could NOT read Anne Rice's Vampire books while eating. She'd take a page or two to describe the taste and texture and smell of drinking blood so well, you KNEW she'd tasted it herself.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

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#75176 Oct 26, 2012
I thought the vampire series sucked. stopped reading 1/2 thru book 2
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I can read or see anything while eating. I worked on the case of a serial killer (RObert Berdella) and read about what he did to his victims, while I ate lunch.
But I could NOT read Anne Rice's Vampire books while eating. She'd take a page or two to describe the taste and texture and smell of drinking blood so well, you KNEW she'd tasted it herself.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75177 Oct 26, 2012
When J wants to gross SIL and me out, he'll go to youtube and look up either botfly removals (kinda gross) OR cyst popping (unbelievably gross). I'd rather watch childbirth of either form than that.

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