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Since: Feb 09

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#75149 Oct 26, 2012
Yeah, I will have to tell my daughter to get into hurricane mode too.

I just noticed how strange it is that I got blasted with wilma, you with a freak snow storm and not your getting both a hurricane and snow storm together, and they all occured during the last week of October.(though not the same year)
Jess in NJ wrote:
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That's what I had for dinner last night! My husband worked late and the boys had to eat dinner early since Ry had CCD (or whatever they are calling it now), so I got to eat whatever I wanted for dinner.
I am in hurricane prep mode today and tomorrow. Just keeping my fingers crossed that the bad weather clears out before Wednesday afternoon. Last year we had no power on Halloween because of the snowstorm (that was day 3 of no power on our street) and our boys want to trick-or-treat with their friends in our neighborhood this year.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#75150 Oct 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I just went to the bookmark for the mom's blog to post here (it's really wonderful) and it's been suspended.
My heart goes out to your mom. I have been crying off and all morning between the news (E was watching with me and asking why they were showing those kids' pictures) and a blog that I follow about a 6 year old who has cancer and the doctors have now said that it is no longer responding to any treatment, so if your mom's blog gets back online, I may as well read that, too.:)

The political ads and e-mails were getting to be too much for me (I'm still going to meetings and coordinating things IRL for the party, but I can't do political stuff 24/7), so I've been posting old pictures of family and friends on FB recently. It's been a good way to start discussions with relatives I don't usually talk to but am FB friends with and it brings up some happy memories. Plus, some of the pictures are just really fun to look at. I just needed a change of pace.

Since: Jan 10

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#75151 Oct 26, 2012
Sublime1 wrote:
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I get mine "Thai hot." Mine wouldn't touch it.
My thai place has mild, medium, hot, and then "native hot." Coworker (we have a group of six who do take out once or twice a month fromt his place) orders it "native hot."

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75152 Oct 26, 2012
This might be a stupid question, but:

Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#75153 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:
Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
For me, before being a mother, stories like that would be so sad. I would think "how horrible".

After being a mother, you try to put yourself in the same shoes as that mother and think -- "I could not survive that kind of grief".

It's not that you don't care or don't have sympathy before children, but after children it goes deeper, such a deep empathy that goes down to your soul.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#75154 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:
Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
I think I was always sensitive to that kind of stuff, but having kids has made it worse.

Since: Jan 10

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#75155 Oct 26, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
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My heart goes out to your mom. I have been crying off and all morning between the news (E was watching with me and asking why they were showing those kids' pictures) and a blog that I follow about a 6 year old who has cancer and the doctors have now said that it is no longer responding to any treatment, so if your mom's blog gets back online, I may as well read that, too.:)
The political ads and e-mails were getting to be too much for me (I'm still going to meetings and coordinating things IRL for the party, but I can't do political stuff 24/7), so I've been posting old pictures of family and friends on FB recently. It's been a good way to start discussions with relatives I don't usually talk to but am FB friends with and it brings up some happy memories. Plus, some of the pictures are just really fun to look at. I just needed a change of pace.
I am THRILLED to not be in a swing state. I've seen fewer than 10 total presidential ads between the two candidates. I read this morning that residents of Las Vegas have been subjected to 73,000 political ads in the last several months.

Since: Jan 10

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#75156 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:
Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
My mom friends would agree with Toj and squishy.
I can read stories about horrific child abuse and torture and not shed a tear. Today's front page story is about a dog getting killed in a trap meant for wild animals and I immediately put the paper down and won't read any of the paper today. Or i'd be a wreck.

I don't get emotional over children directly -- I get more emotional when I think of what their parents go through emotionally.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75158 Oct 26, 2012
Not saying I don't care, as a non-mom. I am sure that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, and stories about bad things happening to children make me sadder than the same things happening to an adult.

But...stranger's kids dying is not going to make me cry. Just wondering if I'm a non-maternal robot or what.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75159 Oct 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
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I don't get emotional over children directly -- I get more emotional when I think of what their parents go through emotionally.
Well, yeah. I hope those kids didn't suffer for long. But omg...even the surviving daughter. She's young now, but I can imagine her being *so* angry once she fully realizes what has been taken away from her.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#75160 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
Not saying I don't care, as a non-mom. I am sure that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, and stories about bad things happening to children make me sadder than the same things happening to an adult.
But...stranger's kids dying is not going to make me cry. Just wondering if I'm a non-maternal robot or what.
No. It's not connected to you. I think also once you've had people close to you die or suffer greatly you also gain a prospective to it.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#75161 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
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Well, yeah. I hope those kids didn't suffer for long. But omg...even the surviving daughter. She's young now, but I can imagine her being *so* angry once she fully realizes what has been taken away from her.
I meant to mention this the other day when the subject was "Hoarders" (again!) but I forgot.

While I was home on Tuesday, there was an episode were a teenage girl was the hoarder, and it stemmed from the tragic death of her younger brother. They had been very close when he died at like 3 yo and she was 4.

We all think kids are so resiliant and will be ok, even after bad things happen, but really that's complete bull sh!t. At least these parents will have the monetary resources to get the child the best therapy they can find. It may help...

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#75162 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:
Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
I'll be the voice of dad. Stories like that still don't have much of an effect on me(you won't see me weeping over the horror I'm reading), but I definitely do see them in a new light as a father. If I thik of how I'd feel if it were my son. Like Law & Order:SVU last night. Kid got kidnapped right out from dad in the subway on the way to a ball game. It hits you a bit differently when you can place yourself with real people in the story.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#75164 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
This might be a stupid question, but:

Regs who are moms...do you think you became more sensitive to stories (like the murdering nanny one today) after you became a mom? Or were you just maternal from the get-go and that type of thing always hit home?
Definitely different for me since I became a mom and since I have gotten to know my sons' friends so well. My husband and I talk about this - he is still not as empathic to others' situations, but I have become more mindful that "there but for the grace if God go I".

There was just a case of a 12 year old girl in NJ who was killed because some teenagers wanted her bike parts. Look up Autumn Pasquale. This is hitting the moms around here hard.

Since: Jan 10

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#75165 Oct 26, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>I'll be the voice of dad. Stories like that still don't have much of an effect on me(you won't see me weeping over the horror I'm reading), but I definitely do see them in a new light as a father. If I thik of how I'd feel if it were my son. Like Law & Order:SVU last night. Kid got kidnapped right out from dad in the subway on the way to a ball game. It hits you a bit differently when you can place yourself with real people in the story.
Nick's the same way, probably a bit more than you. We watch a lot of Criminal Minds, but when the show involves kids, especially boys, especially boys up to around age 12, he can't watch, because he thinks of his own boys.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75166 Oct 26, 2012
On a lighter side of things--we got invited to go out to a bar Saturday night for their Halloween costume judging. We're not going, but acquaintances (a couple) that are have been all secretive about what they're going as. "We're going to win" and all this.

Found out their big costume yesterday: D1ck in a box. From what, like 6-8 years ago? That I've seen every year since then? I know we're in the sticks, but come on...

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75167 Oct 26, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
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Definitely different for me since I became a mom and since I have gotten to know my sons' friends so well. My husband and I talk about this - he is still not as empathic to others' situations, but I have become more mindful that "there but for the grace if God go I".
There was just a case of a 12 year old girl in NJ who was killed because some teenagers wanted her bike parts. Look up Autumn Pasquale. This is hitting the moms around here hard.
I read about that one. I didn't realize they had suspects in that case.

When I googled it, the article that came up was how the mom of the two boys turned her own sons in and compared it to the Jessica Ridgeway murder where the mom of her killer turned her son in.

That. Would also. Suck.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#75168 Oct 26, 2012
Is everyone here familiar with http://kids.woot.com/ ? Awesome site. That is the link to the kids page, but there are non-kids things. They have one deal a day, or until it is sold out.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#75169 Oct 26, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
Is everyone here familiar with http://kids.woot.com/ ? Awesome site. That is the link to the kids page, but there are non-kids things. They have one deal a day, or until it is sold out.
Heh, I like the shirt page. The T-rex trying to reach the magic lamp so it can wish for big arms. And the light sabers charging.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#75170 Oct 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
Not saying I don't care, as a non-mom. I am sure that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, and stories about bad things happening to children make me sadder than the same things happening to an adult.
But...stranger's kids dying is not going to make me cry. Just wondering if I'm a non-maternal robot or what.
Same here. Stories about horrible things happening to old people (not just regular dying since they're supposed to do that, but dying violent deaths or getting beaten and robbed and stuff) and stories about animal abuse get to me. I guess it's because I was very close to my grandmother and I have dogs.

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