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Since: Jan 10

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#74466 Oct 12, 2012
I, too, loved the tweet about faking being asleep so his mom and sister could go enjoy themselves.

He thinks outside of himself.

My friend had two nephews -- twins -- born with a very aggressive, severe form of muscular dystrophy (duchene or something like that). Life expectancy was age 20 for each of them.

One twin was pessimistic and a total debbie downer, the other was the total opposite. Friend loved both nephews, but said it was tough to treat them equally because the negative one was so much more difficult to be around.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#74467 Oct 12, 2012
Move over Sandusky. Hell's waiting room just got a little more crowded.

http://news.yahoo.com/mom-gets-99-years-priso...

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#74468 Oct 12, 2012
I love Carolyn Hax. I am saving this, just in case I ever need to refer to it (which I hope I never do, but I just don't trust my BIL to change).

From today's live chat:

Yes, kids suffer in a divorce.

They also suffer when they share a home with an alcoholic or problem drinker who has not done the hard work to get well.

And they suffer when their parents don't get along and/or respect each other, yet remain yoked to each other out of an underexamined sense of duty.

And they suffer when their parents make choices for the family based on appearances and/or public opinion instead of developing, then trusting, their own internal compasses.

Take care of yourself, take care of your children, and be fierce in your dedication to what is right, fair and realistic. That is the foundation of a rewarding life, no matter what shape it takes.

A good lawyer and family therapist will help, too, before you take even the first steps toward separation, since a parent who abuses alcohol is a major custody concern.
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#74469 Oct 12, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
Move over Sandusky. Hell's waiting room just got a little more crowded.
http://news.yahoo.com/mom-gets-99-years-priso...
Did you read the whole article? One of the defenses was that the defedndant was abused as a child.The judge reportedly believed that. So who are her 5 kids(including the little girl with the glued hands) living with? Defendant's mother.

Say a prayer for those kids...or someone get clarification from Texas

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#74470 Oct 12, 2012
http://consumerist.com/2012/10/12/stock-up-on...

What a joke of a headline. Stock up on stamps? For a 1 penny increase? How many stamps do you use in a year. Let's be crazy and say you send out 10 envelopes a month. 120 per year. Really? We should run out and stock up to save $1.20 over the course of the year? So go out and spend $54 right now to get 120 stamps to save $1.20.
Sam I Am

Palatine, IL

#74472 Oct 12, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I, too, loved the tweet about faking being asleep so his mom and sister could go enjoy themselves.
He thinks outside of himself.
My friend had two nephews -- twins -- born with a very aggressive, severe form of muscular dystrophy (duchene or something like that). Life expectancy was age 20 for each of them.
One twin was pessimistic and a total debbie downer, the other was the total opposite. Friend loved both nephews, but said it was tough to treat them equally because the negative one was so much more difficult to be around.
Both twins born with the same severe disability? Wow. My problems get less significant every day.

Since: Jan 10

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#74473 Oct 12, 2012
Jess in NJ wrote:
I love Carolyn Hax. I am saving this, just in case I ever need to refer to it (which I hope I never do, but I just don't trust my BIL to change).
From today's live chat:
Yes, kids suffer in a divorce.
They also suffer when they share a home with an alcoholic or problem drinker who has not done the hard work to get well.
And they suffer when their parents don't get along and/or respect each other, yet remain yoked to each other out of an underexamined sense of duty.
And they suffer when their parents make choices for the family based on appearances and/or public opinion instead of developing, then trusting, their own internal compasses.
Take care of yourself, take care of your children, and be fierce in your dedication to what is right, fair and realistic. That is the foundation of a rewarding life, no matter what shape it takes.
A good lawyer and family therapist will help, too, before you take even the first steps toward separation, since a parent who abuses alcohol is a major custody concern.
I shared that in today's Hax forum, and emailed it to Nick.

Since: Jan 10

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#74474 Oct 12, 2012
Sam I Am wrote:
<quoted text>
Both twins born with the same severe disability? Wow. My problems get less significant every day.
Well, they were identical twins, and it's genetic (not hereditary), so if one had it, the other one had to have it.

The kicker that made me cry (years ago when I met this friend and her family and the nephews): The parents wanted more kids, but knew the two boys would take so much time, money, and energy, they felt that they should just focus on those and do everything possible to give them a great 20 years. They did this knowing that they'd be childless the rest of their lives.

To me, that's a damn big sacrifice. You love kids and want to have them, and part of that is, enjoying watching them grow into independent adults, maybe giving you grandkids to spoil.... and they opted out of that for the sake of the two children that were born first.

Since: Jan 10

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#74475 Oct 12, 2012
Okay, get this. My friend's uncle does a pumpkin display in his yard every year, where the pumpkins are butt cheeks belonging to scarecrows and the scarecrows are bent ovaer, mooning people driving by. Hardy har har. Not funny to me, but also very harmless. This year, he added a female scarecrow and two pumpkins were huge boobs.

THE COPS CAME BY becuase someone complained about the "nipples" on the "boobs" (the pumpkin stems) and told him he had to cover them up.

I'd tell the cops to go eff themselves and fill my yard with more just like it.(who's the asshat who complained to the cops?)

So he complied, and turned the pumpkins around, but also painted them bright pink for breast cancer awareness month. Nicely played!
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#74476 Oct 12, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Okay, get this. My friend's uncle does a pumpkin display in his yard every year, where the pumpkins are butt cheeks belonging to scarecrows and the scarecrows are bent ovaer, mooning people driving by. Hardy har har. Not funny to me, but also very harmless. This year, he added a female scarecrow and two pumpkins were huge boobs.
THE COPS CAME BY becuase someone complained about the "nipples" on the "boobs" (the pumpkin stems) and told him he had to cover them up.
I'd tell the cops to go eff themselves and fill my yard with more just like it.(who's the asshat who complained to the cops?)
So he complied, and turned the pumpkins around, but also painted them bright pink for breast cancer awareness month. Nicely played!
Love it!

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#74477 Oct 12, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Okay, get this. My friend's uncle does a pumpkin display in his yard every year, where the pumpkins are butt cheeks belonging to scarecrows and the scarecrows are bent ovaer, mooning people driving by. Hardy har har. Not funny to me, but also very harmless. This year, he added a female scarecrow and two pumpkins were huge boobs.
THE COPS CAME BY becuase someone complained about the "nipples" on the "boobs" (the pumpkin stems) and told him he had to cover them up.
I'd tell the cops to go eff themselves and fill my yard with more just like it.(who's the asshat who complained to the cops?)
So he complied, and turned the pumpkins around, but also painted them bright pink for breast cancer awareness month. Nicely played!
Oh that's awesome!

Since: Mar 09

United States

#74478 Oct 12, 2012
I agree with Pelly & Toj - way to make lemonade out of lemons, dude!

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#74479 Oct 12, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Okay, get this. My friend's uncle does a pumpkin display in his yard every year, where the pumpkins are butt cheeks belonging to scarecrows and the scarecrows are bent ovaer, mooning people driving by. Hardy har har. Not funny to me, but also very harmless. This year, he added a female scarecrow and two pumpkins were huge boobs.

THE COPS CAME BY becuase someone complained about the "nipples" on the "boobs" (the pumpkin stems) and told him he had to cover them up.

I'd tell the cops to go eff themselves and fill my yard with more just like it.(who's the asshat who complained to the cops?)

So he complied, and turned the pumpkins around, but also painted them bright pink for breast cancer awareness month. Nicely played!
That is awesome!

I hope the person who complained to the cops feels like a total jacka$$

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#74480 Oct 12, 2012
Ugh! My friend A's boyfriend, who she almost broke up with last night, announced this evening that he was coming up to her place.

She was supposed to look at condos with me tomorrow but has to work, so she had already backed out of that. While I was at dinner just now, she left me a message asking about dinner tomorrow night, and I could meet G for the first time. But I can't, because of the concert.

I'm so annoyed and frustrated. Serenity now....

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#74481 Oct 12, 2012
So, the woman who has been in charge of coordinating Republican poll clerks in our town for years became very ill several months ago, had to be hospitalized, then did rehab in a nursing home and is now back in her home with her son but no one has been able to contact her for a month.

I was asked to be the poll clerk coordinator and given one week to get the names in to the county Board of Elections. We have 150 spots to fill. We usually have 20 - 30 of those spots filled with registered Democrats because there aren't enough Republicans who are willing to work the polls and because Mrs. G. was a 90 year old mostly deaf lady who didn't really look for anyone new, she just kept calling the same people (even though she was supposed to give priority to any registered Republicans who wanted to work).

This is the first election that we don't have any Democrats working for us. It is really none if my business how people want to register and the beauty of this country is that we are free to make our own choices, but the system only works if there are checks and balances and if both sides are represented fairly.

I talked to one of the long time Dem poll workers tonight who was going to be on my reserve list. She called me evil, accused me of trying to suppress votes (by not having a Dem work as a Rep poll worker even though there are already 2 Dem poll workers at the table?) and told me that she was going to contact the media because she didn't believe that there wasn't a single Democrat working as a Republican poll worker.

*sigh*

Since: Mar 09

Boynton Beach, FL

#74482 Oct 12, 2012
And I'm sorry all I talk about lately is my stuff and my friend's stuff... I promise, I care about other people and other things!

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#74483 Oct 12, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
And I'm sorry all I talk about lately is my stuff and my friend's stuff... I promise, I care about other people and other things!
Don't apologize! That's what we are here for :)

Your friend's situation does sound worrisome, but maybe it's good that you can't meet her bf tomorrow. Your life doesn't revolve around him. Her life *shouldn't*, but you can't tell someone else how to live her life.

BTW, sometimes I feel very self-absorbed when I read my posts here. Then I think about why I'm posting here vs. FB or talking to one of my RL friends. Sometimes I just need to see my vents written out. If someone else has another perspective to add, even better. If people choose to skip my posts, that's ok, it still did me good to let it out where my RL people won't run across them. I expect others to do the same.

Since: Feb 08

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#74484 Oct 12, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
And I'm sorry all I talk about lately is my stuff and my friend's stuff... I promise, I care about other people and other things!
Don't sweat it. Rant and vent all you need here. People don't want to read it, they can scroll on past.

Since: Aug 08

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#74485 Oct 12, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
Ugh! My friend A's boyfriend, who she almost broke up with last night, announced this evening that he was coming up to her place.

She was supposed to look at condos with me tomorrow but has to work, so she had already backed out of that. While I was at dinner just now, she left me a message asking about dinner tomorrow night, and I could meet G for the first time. But I can't, because of the concert.

I'm so annoyed and frustrated. Serenity now....
Ugh

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#74486 Oct 12, 2012
I could...But I wont.
Sam I Am wrote:
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Both twins born with the same severe disability? Wow. My problems get less significant every day.

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