The only reaction he got was a few people staring at him. He said the relative who he was visiting and who lived in that southern state told him they didn't do that here. NJ interpreted that as racism in the south.<quoted text>
He/she doesn't understand that that type of language is no less offensive than the n-word.
Nevermind it's rude and inappropriate for any man to say that to any woman anywhere.
He was also reminded by a few of us to look at Chicago and Detroit if he's concerned about the plight of blacks. They're moving back to the now southern red states from the northern blue states in droves to have a much better chance of breaking the cycle of poverty - as you rightly pointed out.