You loved your parents and respected their wishes as you chose. But if you chose to go against their wishes, you wouldn't have respected them enough to have a healthy fear of the consequences of having displeased them?<quoted text> What sense does it make to fear the very object of your love. I didn't fear my parents, I respected their wishes as I chose. As I said that's not free will. Using punishment as a bargaining chip is not free will, its extortion. I don't know what world y'all live in. Y'all still thinking like first century peasants fear the king. There is no room for fear in the heart full of love !
Discipline is done out of love if there is an abundance of love to begin with.
Not saying your parents provided no boundaries and were permissive parents, but parents who don't correct and discipline their children actually don't love them as much as you think they do.