“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Aug 29, 2014
DEAR ABBY: I am sick to death of hearing about people who have too many kids and the hardship it imposes. Common sense for the women is to use birth control, but why don't men step up to the plate and have a vasectomy? I had one years ago and it has worked well for me.

I never hear it mentioned on talk shows or read it in any advice columns, including yours. Men of America, wake up!-- JOSEPH IN LAS VEGAS

DEAR JOSEPH: I'm sure the word "vasectomy" has been used in previous Dear Abby columns, but I'm glad to remind my male readers. While I have never taken a poll on this subject, I'll hazard a guess or two about why men are reluctant to have them:

One, they equate it with castration; two, they think at some point they might change their mind or their partner; and three, they're afraid it will be painful. Drumroll: For any men out there who are worried that some tragedy might wipe out your family and you will have to start over, sperm can be banked for up to 20 years and used should the need arise.

P.S. There are also more options open to women than the pill. These include IUDs and, if they're sure they want to be finished with childbearing, tubal ligation.

DEAR ABBY: I raised three kids in a normal household, putting them to bed between two sheets. Now my two younger ones no longer sleep between sheets, but wrapped up in a blanket on a sheetless mattress. One of them has children, and is passing the habit on to them.

The only thing I can conclude is that it's laziness, and I'm wondering where I went wrong. Has anyone else encountered this?-- TAKEN ABACK IN MISSOURI

DEAR TAKEN ABACK: People have varying sleep "styles." If, when your children lived with you, you taught them to launder their sheets and make their beds, then you didn't go wrong.(One can only hope they wash those blankets regularly.)

If possible, invite your grandchildren for sleepovers so they can experience how the "other half" lives. You would be doing them a favor because children can't learn what a parent hasn't taught them.

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 25-year-old woman and lonely. I'm interested in a guy I have known for years. He's my older brother's friend, and we're only six years apart. When I expressed my interest in him, he politely let me know that he would not date me because of my brother.

Is there a secret code that I'm missing? Is it taboo for a man who is your older brother's friend to date the younger sibling? I am confused as to why it would matter since we are both adults.-- LONELY IN WISCONSIN

DEAR LONELY: While it isn't "taboo" to date the sibling of a close friend, it can lead to complications if the relationship doesn't work out. Friendships have become strained or ended because of it.

Not knowing the man you have your sights set on, I can't speculate whether the reason he gave you was the truth. It could also be that the feelings you have for him are not reciprocated, but regardless -- now that you know he isn't interested, it's time to look elsewhere for someone to assuage your loneliness.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#2 Aug 29, 2014
1- Women can't bear children after menopause. Men can bear children until the day they die. Ain't life grand?

2- Oh for the love of... DON'T F*CKING WORRY ABOUT IT!!!

3- Yes, man-code #485, you don't date your friend's sister, mother, daughter, etc. Find someone else

Since: Mar 09

Pittsburgh, PA

#3 Aug 29, 2014
edogxxx wrote:
1- Women can't bear children after menopause. Men can bear children until the day they die. Ain't life grand?
Hee hee, I'm channelling a scene from Home Improvement right now.

Tim and Wilson are talking about why men feel the need to be creative, and Wilson tells him, "Oh, it's because we can't bear children."

Tim just does a little double-take and comes back with, "Oh, I don't mind the boys that much!"

Funny stuff!

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#4 Aug 29, 2014
LW1: It’s called liberalism. It involves no standards, no expectations, and taking from those who made good decisions and giving to those who act like irresponsible morons. When you get to pass a majority of the cost of poor decision making off onto society at large, instead of bearing it yourself, it incentivizes poor decision making.

LW2: That’s kind of ghetto.

LW3: If you were smoking hot with a cool personality instead of a lonely cat lady in training, your brother wouldn’t stop him from dating you. He’s not into you.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#5 Aug 29, 2014
3 bro's before ho*s
Judge Janie

Eagle Butte, SD

#6 Aug 29, 2014
LW2: What the EFF do you care how your GROWN children, and their own children sleep? And you're obsessed with it enough to actually write a dam advice columnist about it? Seriously? It has nothing to do with "laziness", it's just personal style and preference. You're as bad as people who obsess over what others eat and how they eat it. Come back to us when you have a REAL problem, like your kids or grandkids are into drugs, alcoholism, beating or cheating their spouses, can't find or keep a job, etc. Sheesh.
LW3: One of the few, very few, reasons I should be glad I'm an only child. Actually, I'm not and have always hated it and hate it even more now that I'm middle-aged, my parents and stepparents are aging with health issues and I'm the only one who can deal with them.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#7 Aug 29, 2014
LW1: Most people who don't want kids now, but will probably want them later are not going to get a vasectomy regardless of the option to freeze some sperm. Rolling the dice with birth control is the preferred method.

LW2: "I'm wondering where I went wrong."
Do you also take credit for their successes in life?

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#8 Aug 29, 2014
Sublime for the win!!!
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#9 Aug 29, 2014
LW1: I am also appalled at the number of very young men and women who don't use any birth control and have "surprise" pregnancies. in the 21st century. We'll see if things improve when the male birth control pill becomes available.

LW2: Team Judge Janie in that I don't think it's your business, but personally, I cannot imagine a mattress without sheets.

LW3: You remind me of a high school classmate of mine. She had a crush on her friend's brother for years. They did marry in their mid-20s.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#10 Aug 29, 2014
LW2: What the EFF do you care how your GROWN children, and their own children sleep? And you're obsessed with it enough to actually write a dam advice columnist about it? Seriously? It has nothing to do with "laziness", it's just personal style and preference. You're as bad as people who obsess over what others eat and how they eat it. Come back to us when you have a REAL problem,

**********
Judge Janie for the win.

LW, you sound like a controlling-as-hell lunatic.
pde

Bothell, WA

#11 Aug 29, 2014
LW2: In my household, beds still have two sheets, and the kid goes to bed every night between two sheets. He wakes up in the morning cocooned in one fuzzy fleece blanket.(Thankfully, the bottom sheet is still on the bed, where the top sheet ends up is wondrous.) I can't control how my preteen sleeps, you expect to control how your adult children sleep?

Tell me when this thread is updated:

Subscribe Now Add to my Tracker

Add your comments below

Characters left: 4000

Please note by submitting this form you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

Chicago Discussions

Title Updated Last By Comments
News Barack Obama, our next President (Nov '08) 3 min Homer 1,263,323
News BARACK OBAMA BIRTH CERTIFICATE: Suit contesting... (Jan '09) 10 min Enter 194,507
Fun Song Combos (Sep '12) 28 min boundary painter 454
abby7-31-15 54 min RACE 3
Ask Amy July 31 1 hr Mister Tonka 3
News Once slow-moving threat, global warming speeds ... (Dec '08) 1 hr Brian_G 54,351
Topix Chitown Regulars (Aug '09) 1 hr Mister Tonka 100,297
More from around the web

Personal Finance

Chicago Mortgages