“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#1 Jul 13, 2013
DEAR AMY: I am an 18-year-old girl headed off to college and, as a precaution, wanted to start using birth control.

Although I have never had sex, and the last boyfriend I had was two years ago, I think it would be good to start using it. However, my mother remains skeptical. Although she and I have a close relationship and she knows I have never been promiscuous, she thinks that if I use birth control it’s an open invitation for me to have sex with whomever I want whenever I want. Her exact words were:“What’s going to stop you from having sex the first night you get there?”

The fact that she even thinks this hurts my feelings deeply. The only reason I want to start using birth control is because I want to remain safe during the next four years. She thinks that if I start using it, I will just get my heart broken by boys and get a reputation. What should I do?-- A Touchy Subject

DEAR TOUCHY: You and your mother have probably heard the statistic that half of all teenagers are having sex. That statistic also goes like this: Half of all teenagers are not having sex. Using birth control is not the guy magnet your mother might imagine, and I have never heard that birth control brings on sudden bouts of promiscuity to otherwise levelheaded and responsible college girls.

A spokesperson for Planned Parenthood suggests that you visit a clinic or your doctor, get a thorough checkup and educate yourself about birth control but not necessarily go on it. Planned Parenthood wants to remind you to carry a condom; they are inexpensive, safe and (if properly used) effective. They also guard against STDs.(Of course, not having sex is also a great way to avoid unplanned pregnancies and STDs — and I hope you’ll consider that.)

It’s great that you are so responsible and concerned about your mother’s feelings, but the fact is, you are a grown young woman, headed off to college, and you should rightly start taking responsibility for your own body and actions.(2003)

DEAR AMY: I am a big dancer, and a school dance is coming up. I am not the biggest extrovert, and I’m not very popular. My friends are too shy to even dance together in front of everybody. My friends won’t dance, so I have nobody to dance with in a circle.

What should I do? I’m not going to sit down when my favorite songs are playing because of my friends, and I am not just going to join a circle of people I don’t know.-- Dreaming of Dancing

DEAR DREAMING: If you could get your non-dancing friends to relocate their comfort zone as close to the dancing action as possible, that might help. They can hang together, and if you are on the fringes of the non-dancing group, it might be easier for you to drift toward the dancers and mix in with them.

A good DJ can help a lot here by playing group dance songs such as the “Electric Slide” or “Cotton-Eyed Joe.” Group dances are a good way to get warmed up and perhaps meet a dancing buddy. You should definitely put a request in.

I like your spirit, and your determination to dance. Take it from me — in life, she who dances most wins.(2005)

DEAR AMY: I’m a teenager and I have an awkward question:

How do you know when a guy is really interested in you? Can you help me?-- Rosie

DEAR ROSIE: If a guy bumps into you accidentally-on-purpose, puts you on his buddy list or IMs you “wazzup,” there’s a good chance he’s interested. But are you? That’s the most important question.(2003)

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#2 Jul 13, 2013
1- "As a precaution." Precaution to what? Getting drunk at a frat party and letting 10 guys run a train on you? I think you know you're gonna wh0 re it up once you go away to college.

It's 10 years later. I'm curious to know where she is now. She's 28, probably dropped out of college after getting pregnant her freshman year, and has five kids.

2- Why are your friends going to a dance if they don't dance? Anyway, don't worry about it. There will be plenty of people dancing, hang with them.

3- When he keeps starring at your breasts.
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#3 Jul 13, 2013
LW1 doesn't need her "mommy's" permission to get
birth control or a well woman exam at the college
clinic.

LW2 sounds odd.

LW3 should look at boys for friendship first. She's young and has time to learn.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#4 Jul 13, 2013
L1. Calicification of the costo-cartilage is one of the potential side effects of long term BC use. There may be others.
You should fully educate yourself about any and all medications you may take, or may be adviced to take by a physician.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#5 Jul 13, 2013
Oh my. A teen-letter day....

LW1 - When you get to college, go to the student health center and get a prescription for bc. Your mom is stu- sorry, not acting very smart. You are.

LW2 and 3 - Don't care.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#6 Jul 13, 2013
Girl stuff....So dont care

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#7 Jul 13, 2013
loose cannon wrote:
L1. Calicification of the costo-cartilage is one of the potential side effects of long term BC use. There may be others.
You should fully educate yourself about any and all medications you may take, or may be adviced to take by a physician.
Seriously, there is a whole lot of cartilage in the rib cage between the ribs themselves and I assume where the attachment to the sternum occurs. So what happens, you can't breathe because you can't expand the rib cage to inflate the lungs?

We have all heard about the blood clot risk. I started on b/c pills in the mid 60's and have paid a fair amount of attention to women's medical issues but this is a new one on me.

I'm calling you on this one, LC. Cut and paste the journal article/articles citations that support your contention. PubMed is free to all of us.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#8 Jul 14, 2013
loose cannon wrote:
L1. Calicification of the costo-cartilage is one of the potential side effects of long term BC use. There may be others.
You should fully educate yourself about any and all medications you may take, or may be adviced to take by a physician.
I wonder what the incidence of dangerous side effects of hormonal BC is. Cartilage ossification, apparently, is part of the aging process. I agree that before taking any medication or supplement, one should educate oneself, but you need a prescription for any hormonal BC in the U.S. anyway, so you get physician advice by default.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#9 Jul 14, 2013
Cass wrote:
<quoted text>
I wonder what the incidence of dangerous side effects of hormonal BC is. Cartilage ossification, apparently, is part of the aging process. I agree that before taking any medication or supplement, one should educate oneself, but you need a prescription for any hormonal BC in the U.S. anyway, so you get physician advice by default.
Cartilage degeneration is part of normal aging. That is mostly what happens when older people get bad knees. Cartilage ossification means cartilage turning into bone. That is not that common in either the peer reviewed medical lit' or popular web medicine articles. I am not saying it doesn't happen, but I do want her cites. Every other adverse effect gets its 15 seconds of press fame from some Foundation for Transparent Medicine or other. LC is trained and active in the field. She'll know how to support her contention.

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