PEllen

Chicago, IL

#1 Dec 31, 2012
Dear Amy: I am a freshman in high school. Last year, I often had trouble getting up in the morning, which caused me to miss the school bus multiple times. My parents helped me to fix this issue by having me go to bed earlier. This year, I have not missed the bus once and have been getting myself up on time.

The problem is this: My parents still won't let me stay up later. They still make me go to bed at around 9:45, even though I am not at all tired and I usually don't fall asleep for at least another hour (even after reading). All I ask is to be allowed to go to bed around 10:15 after watching some TV. My older brother has been going to bed past 11 p.m. for years.

How can I convince my parents that they are being completely draconian and that they can trust me to get up on time with going to bed later?

Not Tired

Dear Tired: By all means, use the word "draconian" when you are trying to communicate with your parents. We parents love it when our kids use their vocabulary words in the correct context, and this tells me that you've been paying attention in school and that you are rested enough to be articulate. On the other hand, if your folks know what "draconian" means, they might not be too thrilled.

The solution here seems obvious. You negotiate with your parents a "limited-time" offer. Ask them to test you by letting you stay up half an hour later all next week. Tell them that if you oversleep even once all deals will be off and you'll agree to go to bed at whatever time they choose.

Be aware that teens need almost as much sleep as toddlers do, and the fact that they don't get it is one reason they sometimes act like toddlers.

Dear Amy: I am a 30-year-old woman and have been dating a 40-year-old man. He has never been married. I want to be married, but I'm wondering if he will ever settle down. All he cares about is his job and how he looks. He's obsessed with getting new cars, which he says he needs because he thinks they impress women.

I don't want to date him anymore, and I want you to tell me how to break up with him.

Too Tired

Dear Too Tired: Here's how to break up with a commitment-phobe: You say, "Honey, I love you. Will you marry me?" The only hazard here is the need to protect yourself from flying gravel as he peels out of your driveway.

If you lack the nerve to call his bluff in this way, you need only say, "You and I want different things. I need to break up with you."

Dear Amy: I know you took some flak for your response to the "Kissed Consultant," who reported that her brand-new client kissed her straight on the lips after a business lunch. You suggested that the consultant should notify the board of directors about this man's actions.

I thought your comments were right on target, Amy. When something like this happened to me, I reported it to my boss (it was his boss who was the kisser). He talked to his boss who later called me to apologize.

Happened to Me

Dear Happened: Unless this sort of thing has happened to you, I don't know if people can imagine what a violation this is from a business associate who is also a complete stranger. No matter what the intention might have been, this is not an affectionate or friendly act, but one that seems aggressive. It is highly inappropriate and at the very least the perpetrator should be told that it is unacceptable.

Dear Amy: Every year I feel as if I'm the only person on the planet who doesn't have plans for New Year's Eve. Any words of comfort for me?

Alone

Dear Alone: Honestly, I don't know anyone who has plans on this night. So join me (virtually) as we watch the throngs gathered in Times Square on television. I'll be home, playing charades until the ball drops.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#2 Dec 31, 2012
1 Whaaaaa! Teen bed time stuff, dont care

2 So you are now repulsed by the very things that attracted you to him to begin with...Go figure.

3 The lady was asking for it

4 Loser, stick you head in the toilet and flush.

Since: Mar 09

West Palm Beach, FL

#3 Dec 31, 2012
L1: Wordiness aside, the bottom line of advice (suggesting a trial period) Amy gave is solid.

L2: "I don't want to date him anymore, and I want you to tell me how to break up with him." <facepalm> Please don't ever reproduce. Also, Amy's first idea sucks, go with the second one.

L3: Still?

L4: Here's a thought: MAKE some plans. What are you waiting for, engraved invitations? Call up a few friends and invite them over, or ask them to meet you out or something. Geez. It's not rocket science.

Since: Jan 10

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#4 Dec 31, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
L1: Wordiness aside, the bottom line of advice (suggesting a trial period) Amy gave is solid.
L2: "I don't want to date him anymore, and I want you to tell me how to break up with him." <facepalm> Please don't ever reproduce. Also, Amy's first idea sucks, go with the second one.
L3: Still?
L4: Here's a thought: MAKE some plans. What are you waiting for, engraved invitations? Call up a few friends and invite them over, or ask them to meet you out or something. Geez. It's not rocket science.
Ditto.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#5 Dec 31, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
L4: What are you waiting for, engraved invitations?
Yes. She's waiting for her Prince Charming to invite her to the ball.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#6 Dec 31, 2012
Gotta go with JMW also, although not only should L2 not reproduce, she shouldn't cross the street alone.
Kuuipo

Salinas, CA

#7 Dec 31, 2012
LW1: This one brought back fond memories. Get a little TV and some headphones for your room. Or a laptop.

LW2: Amy's first answer was funny!
Slip out the back, Jack, Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy...

LW3: We covered this one.

LW4: You should've made plans weeks ago if you want to go out. But check the local hotspots and see where the parties are or invite a friend or two over for a low-key celebration. And Happy New Year everyone!

Since: Dec 09

Smalltown, Colorado

#8 Dec 31, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
L1: Wordiness aside, the bottom line of advice (suggesting a trial period) Amy gave is solid.
L2: "I don't want to date him anymore, and I want you to tell me how to break up with him." <facepalm> Please don't ever reproduce. Also, Amy's first idea sucks, go with the second one.
L3: Still?
L4: Here's a thought: MAKE some plans. What are you waiting for, engraved invitations? Call up a few friends and invite them over, or ask them to meet you out or something. Geez. It's not rocket science.
LW2 - I love Amy's first idea. Watch him go screaming out of the room. On second thought,pray he doesn't say yes.

Since: Feb 08

Location hidden

#9 Dec 31, 2012
Shari23 wrote:
<quoted text>
LW2 - I love Amy's first idea. Watch him go screaming out of the room. On second thought,pray he doesn't say yes.
It would be SO funny if she set up a scene with a fake preacher, friends and all and dress up in a wedding gown.... he walks in, she says "Darling! SURPRISE! It's our wedding!"
I'll bet he'd leave a trail of flame getting out of there, like in the cartoons...

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#10 Dec 31, 2012
NWmoon wrote:
<quoted text>It would be SO funny if she set up a scene with a fake preacher, friends and all and dress up in a wedding gown.... he walks in, she says "Darling! SURPRISE! It's our wedding!"
I'll bet he'd leave a trail of flame getting out of there, like in the cartoons...
It reminds me of the running joke about how to get rid of a man early on in dating but you don't want to actually tell him you're no longer interested: TEll him how you have your wedding all planned out and how you're just meant to be together. He'll disappear all on his own.
Kuuipo

Salinas, CA

#11 Dec 31, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
It reminds me of the running joke about how to get rid of a man early on in dating but you don't want to actually tell him you're no longer interested: TEll him how you have your wedding all planned out and how you're just meant to be together. He'll disappear all on his own.
Did you ever see that movie, "How to lose a man in 10 days?"

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#12 Dec 31, 2012
Kuuipo wrote:
<quoted text>
Did you ever see that movie, "How to lose a man in 10 days?"
Heh, no, but it seems bring to mind Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Anniston.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#13 Dec 31, 2012
Ugh. I google. Kate Hudson.

She's adorable but she can't act and her kid is ugly.
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#14 Dec 31, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
It reminds me of the running joke about how to get rid of a man early on in dating but you don't want to actually tell him you're no longer interested: TEll him how you have your wedding all planned out and how you're just meant to be together. He'll disappear all on his own.
A girlfriend in grad school used to talk about the color of bridesmaids dresses she wanted. Did teh trick

Since: Dec 09

Smalltown, Colorado

#15 Dec 31, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>A girlfriend in grad school used to talk about the color of bridesmaids dresses she wanted. Did teh trick
I think we have all solved LW2's problem. Also, I liked "trail of fire".

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