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“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#21 Oct 18, 2012
and of course I had to wash them with bleach like 5 times before I could wear them....Had to be faded and soft.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#22 Oct 18, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
L1: I went to private school but didn't really become a snob until I moved to south Florida 6.5 years ago.
;)
Tough to be snobby when you go to Jorts U.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#23 Oct 18, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Stina- great point about uniforms, etc.
In some ways, I think the uniforms make it even worse. The kids at private school pay close attention to what other kids wear outside school/at school functions not requiring uniforms/on non-uniform days. In some ways, it's almost even more obsessive than if everyone could wear clothing of their own choosing every day.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#24 Oct 18, 2012
LW1: You may be able to instill in them non-snobish behaviors, but they will always be aware that they are, in fact, being judged by their peers.

LW2: It's time to put the kid first; make sure his father is paying some sort of child support.

LW3: Maybe these people are just inviting too many kids to their kids' parties. Lulu only got about 7 gifts this year and I think there were 12 kids at her party (several were sibs and I firmly believe in the 1 household = 1 gift rule).
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#25 Oct 18, 2012
We live in a very good public high school district. My older girl went to high school there. It was snobby, privileged and all the things LW is worried about. The very top kids came from families which were obsessivly focused on education(think Tiger Mom without the ethnicity limit). Older daughter wound up being friends with kids in an adjacent district HS, where Squishy lives.

BTW there were 5000+ kids there at the time

We sent younger daughter to a private girls high school farther north up the train line.It is a parochial school. There were uniforms. There was much less snobbism but a lot of the materialism was taken for granted (NorthFace jackets, Birkenstock clogs) There was excellent values imparted, a sense of community obligation and service and faith was a part of the curriculum although roughly 40% of the girls were not of the school's faith.There were around 200 girls in the high school, some were boarders. Very few of teh girls had their own cars. There were no behavior scandals in the 4 years she was there no drunk driving, no party house where there were drugs and alcohol. In two adjacent public high school districts that occurred- hazing a softball team in the forest preserve and a couple of kids dead after drinking at a party where teh parents were home.

Kids pick up values from the parents; parental involvement is really key.There is a bigger private high school just west- it doesn't have uniforms per se, but does require specific clothes: khaki or gray slacks for teh boys, white or blue button down collar shirts and a tie. Available at JC Penney or Brooks Brothers, your choice, they all look rumpled at 7 a.m. on the train stop. Girls less restricted, but nothing like the TV show wardrobes- Gossip Girl? No. Not real in the Midwest

Both girls turned out well, stayed out of trouble, got excellent educations, went to 4 year colleges and got out in 4 years with jobs right after graduation in their fields. I don't regret sending Daughter to a private school

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#26 Oct 18, 2012
PEllen wrote:
We live in a very good public high school district. My older girl went to high school there. It was snobby, privileged and all the things LW is worried about. The very top kids came from families which were obsessivly focused on education(think Tiger Mom without the ethnicity limit). Older daughter wound up being friends with kids in an adjacent district HS, where Squishy lives.
BTW there were 5000+ kids there at the time
We sent younger daughter to a private girls high school farther north up the train line.It is a parochial school. There were uniforms. There was much less snobbism but a lot of the materialism was taken for granted (NorthFace jackets, Birkenstock clogs) There was excellent values imparted, a sense of community obligation and service and faith was a part of the curriculum although roughly 40% of the girls were not of the school's faith.There were around 200 girls in the high school, some were boarders. Very few of teh girls had their own cars. There were no behavior scandals in the 4 years she was there no drunk driving, no party house where there were drugs and alcohol. In two adjacent public high school districts that occurred- hazing a softball team in the forest preserve and a couple of kids dead after drinking at a party where teh parents were home.
Kids pick up values from the parents; parental involvement is really key.There is a bigger private high school just west- it doesn't have uniforms per se, but does require specific clothes: khaki or gray slacks for teh boys, white or blue button down collar shirts and a tie. Available at JC Penney or Brooks Brothers, your choice, they all look rumpled at 7 a.m. on the train stop. Girls less restricted, but nothing like the TV show wardrobes- Gossip Girl? No. Not real in the Midwest
Both girls turned out well, stayed out of trouble, got excellent educations, went to 4 year colleges and got out in 4 years with jobs right after graduation in their fields. I don't regret sending Daughter to a private school
You sound kind of snobbish, pe.

Since: Jan 10

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#27 Oct 18, 2012
I think she sounds very matter-of-fact, not snobbish at all.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#28 Oct 18, 2012
1. Well, what have you been doing up until now? Do your children have a good foundation and perspective? If yes, then they have a chance of keeping that. If not, then you're in for a rough ride.

2. What is your question? Do men think with their little head? Yes. Do guys in the entertainment biz do this moreso than other men? Probably. Did you know he was like this? Yes. Did you stay with him? Yes. Should you have seen this coming? Yes. Do I feel sorry for you. Not a bit. Any sympathy I have is for your child for having two selfish morons as parents.

3. Yes, because 5-yr.-olds should have to address charity concerns. Good grief, let the kids be kids for a bit.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#29 Oct 18, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
You sound kind of snobbish, pe.
An insecuremartyrishjealousperson sezwhat?

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#30 Oct 18, 2012
LW1 - it is what you make it..,. fi youre senidng the kids to private school for the academics, stress that. There is enough stuff that kids in uniform wear or drag around to still make a difference. i was in uniform but sooo wanted a pair of Nike gyms shoes after years of K-Mart knock offs. To this DAY i stay away from discount store shoes and house brand shoes as much as i can.

LW2 - if he "rebounded" so soon after you moved your crap out, it was long over for him by then... make you & your kid priorities #1 for awhiel.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#31 Oct 18, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
You sound kind of snobbish, pe.
Yes...how dare she care about her children's education and be involved with that...
JamaicaJoe

Palm Bay, FL

#32 Oct 18, 2012
LW2:
You dumped him, not the other way way around. I guess you miscalculated.

Where is your 11yo son? Is he with your ex? Did you forget to bring him with you when you packed your clothes and ran off in a huff? Or maybe they are with the grand parents?

Methinks you are the immature one in the relationship.

Buy yourself a mirror before you go to trouble hiring a lawyer.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#33 Oct 18, 2012
Sublime1 wrote:
LW1: I think unless you go to a really crappy school, school is what you make of it. I doubt I would have been more educated, more intelligent, or whatever had I gone to private school.
Exactly! I had many superb teachers in public schools; teachers who knew how to engage students and present material in an interesting way. You absolutely can get a good education in a public school.

I have a friend who sent her son to a private school because he wasn't doing well in a public school. Guess what? He didn't do well in the private school, either.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#34 Oct 18, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>That's easy. TJ Maxx, Ross, & Marshall's.
You're talking my language. ;)
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#35 Oct 18, 2012
L2: Frankly, he doesn't sound like much of a prize, nor a candidate for Father of the Year. Let him go and set your standards higher. Whoever gets him is the loser.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#36 Oct 18, 2012
L1: Private schools are snobby in the snobby areas. Move somewhere else if you're worried about that. There are all different private schools as there are all different kinds of public schools. Neighborhoods usually are key to what kind of school you're going to get.

Try to raise your kids right. Some kids tend toward their parents, some kids take on what they learn from their friends. It's part environment, part personality.

L2: You're stupid. You left, although that probably was the best thing to do. Maybe not though since you seem to be ditzy.

L3: If people are that worried, don't have that kind of birthday party. Keep it to immediate family.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#37 Oct 18, 2012
LW2: Do the world a favor and jump off a cliff before you reproduce again, you dumb tw*t.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#38 Oct 18, 2012
You have such a flair for words....This is why I like you.
Julie wrote:
LW2: Do the world a favor and jump off a cliff before you reproduce again, you dumb tw*t.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#39 Oct 18, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I think she sounds very matter-of-fact, not snobbish at all.
FYI, the larger private school I described is Republicans of Tomorrow from WaPo

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