“Checks and Balances”

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#21 Apr 17, 2014
They have time for showers after practice, but normally they shower before school if they aren't running around outside the night before. Their bedtime is 8:30.

My husband and I also have soccer exec board meetings every 2nd Monday of the month at 7:30 pm, so we bring them with us. They go to bed a little late that night.

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#22 Apr 17, 2014
ScarletandOlive wrote:
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If he was an involved father, I don't think that his wife would be so focused on his drinking. It wouldn't be such an issue that she was nagging him and afraid that he was going to die young. If she didn't see any change in his attitude while he was drinking, I doubt that she would be so focused on his health. I could be wrong, but my take away is that the drinking is his priority, not just an incidental.
ScarletandOlive wrote:
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It is totally possible that she is a teetotaler and any alcohol is bad in her eyes, but when it comes to kids, I tend to err on the side of caution.
It sounds like she is more concerned about his health, not his parental involvement. I think thatís understandable on her part. Drinking that much every day is probably not healthy.
ScarletandOlive wrote:
<quoted text>If your wife was commenting often that she had a problem with your drinking, wouldn't you at least step back and see if she had a valid concern?
Honestly, no. My wife is a worrier by nature, and Iím pretty independent. I also know when I am drinking more regularly than I should. If I am drinking more regularly than I should, itís just a phase. Just like it doesnít mean that I am a non-drinker when I go through phases where I donít touch alcohol for months, it doesnít mean I have a problem when I go through a phase where I am drinking more regularly than I should.

Everyone is different, tho. For some people, it could lead to dependency. You have to know and be honest with yourself.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#23 Apr 17, 2014
How often and how much you drink is not an issue unless it impairs your ability to function at a normal level. In France, having a bottle of wine with your lunch is the norm. Americans view on drinking are very different than the rest of the worlds.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#24 Apr 17, 2014
loose cannon wrote:
L1. He sounds like a chronic alcoholic. He's probably got a decent sized beer belly going on too.
But alcoholism is not a disease. It is a weakness.
I guarantee that if alcoholism was not as prevalent as it is, it would not be considered a disease but rather a crime similar to that of narcotics abuse.
Awesome.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#25 Apr 17, 2014
2: Aw. I hate teen letters when I'm off-suty but I have so many students this could be. Good, conscientious kids who want to do their best.

They are reading novels and grading all as a group. I had a couple kids dock a point off themselves today for "not focusing." So cute.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#26 Apr 17, 2014
squishymama wrote:
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Ha! You're right about that.
When my gram died, the funeral was in a southern suburb, but the family plot is in a south side cemetery, so we had a LONG drive (like on the expressway long). And the only people that really paid any attention were the kids, and most of them waved. Very cute.
Eh...then you have the weirdos like me who have heightened senses and notice everything (seriously, it's a curse). I remember noticing everything when I was driving to the cemetary.

I just wish people pulled over. Lights can stay off but don't zoom by rudely. So gross.
cheluzal

Plant City, FL

#27 Apr 17, 2014
Kuuipo wrote:
LW1: This was the life of my aunt and uncle. They also had 4 kids, and my uncle drank nothing but beer, mostly at home. He didn't have a beer belly; in fact, he was one of the skinniest people I've ever known.(I'm fortunate to have skinny genes on both sides of my family.) But that man could sure put the beer away, and all my aunt used to do was nag him about it. After the kids grew up, got married, and left home (and they all married young), she left him and got a divorce. I predict the same outcome for LW.
Sad they wait until the kids are grown. I would never allow my kids to think that is acceptable behavior.
Of course, I don't drink and tend not to date people who do.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#28 Apr 17, 2014
cheluzal wrote:
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Eh...then you have the weirdos like me who have heightened senses and notice everything (seriously, it's a curse). I remember noticing everything when I was driving to the cemetary.
I just wish people pulled over. Lights can stay off but don't zoom by rudely. So gross.
Perhaps they were not aware it was a funeral procession. I honestly think the only time I've ever seen one is on tv. I've never seen one in Orlando and I know that police here only offer funetal escorts in rare instances(I looked it up once during a discussion). Add in that nowadays many cars come equipped with daytime running lights, some might not think anything of driving by some cars going to slow.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#29 Apr 17, 2014
cheluzal wrote:
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Sad they wait until the kids are grown. I would never allow my kids to think that is acceptable behavior.
Of course, I don't drink and tend not to date people who do.
I totally agree, but 3 out of 4 of my cousins from this family (all female) chose non-drinking husbands.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#30 Apr 17, 2014
I could never date a woman who found my drinking offensive. It's not about them afterall. besides, I would like a reason afterall, not some generic oppositon to drinking. I make good money, I am not a slouch, nor am I lazy, so you tell me... Why is that unacceptable.
Also to refute tonka. I have seen many, many, many funerals where the cops pull up and block and intersectionh to allow the funeral cars to pass, then the cop in the back races forward to the next intersection and the game of leap frog happens again.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#31 Apr 17, 2014
RACE wrote:
Also to refute tonka. I have seen many, many, many funerals where the cops pull up and block and intersectionh to allow the funeral cars to pass, then the cop in the back races forward to the next intersection and the game of leap frog happens again.
You refute what?

That **I've** never seen a funeral procession in Orlando?
That police in Orlando only do escorts in rare instances because you've seen them in Lauderdale?

http://articles.orlandosentinel.com/2005-07-2...

"While funeral processions aren't a thing of the past, the marked cars and motorcycles of local police or sheriff's offices make fewer appearances alongside them. These days, most law-enforcement agencies charge for their services. Many only guide large processions and those for public officials and fellow officers."

“Checks and Balances”

Since: Apr 13

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#32 Apr 18, 2014
RACE wrote:
I could never date a woman who found my drinking offensive. It's not about them afterall. besides, I would like a reason afterall, not some generic oppositon to drinking. I make good money, I am not a slouch, nor am I lazy, so you tell me... Why is that unacceptable.
Also to refute tonka. I have seen many, many, many funerals where the cops pull up and block and intersectionh to allow the funeral cars to pass, then the cop in the back races forward to the next intersection and the game of leap frog happens again.
You date people who have similar values and who respect you as you are.

I couldn't be with someone who drinks regularly because having beer in the house all the time would be a threat to my sobriety. My husband understands why this is such a big deal and since drinking alcohol isn't a priority for him, he only drinks when we are out. I wouldn't have married him if we weren't on the same page about it.

People who are so desperate to be with *anyone* that they date a person, then nag them and try to change them, are the ones who are offensive.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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#33 Apr 18, 2014
Yes that.
Mister Tonka wrote:
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You refute what?
That **I've** never seen a funeral procession in Orlando?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#34 Apr 18, 2014
RACE wrote:
Yes that.
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On what basis? You have a spy cam on my car?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#35 Apr 18, 2014
on the basis that it is statistically impossible not to have seen one.
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>On what basis? You have a spy cam on my car?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#36 Apr 18, 2014
RACE wrote:
on the basis that it is statistically impossible not to have seen one.
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uh...ok.
Hey, your beer looks empty. Go get another.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#37 Apr 18, 2014
RACE wrote:
Also to refute tonka. I have seen many, many, many funerals where the cops pull up and block and intersectionh to allow the funeral cars to pass, then the cop in the back races forward to the next intersection and the game of leap frog happens again.
I have NEVER seen police cars involved in a funeral procession

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#38 Apr 18, 2014
I am quite sure you are wrong.
edogxxx wrote:
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I have NEVER seen police cars involved in a funeral procession

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#39 Apr 18, 2014
Ha! ok, it's 5:00 somewhere!
Actually thats not true.

http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/custom....

Sort by time, no 5:00 exactly.
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>uh...ok.
Hey, your beer looks empty. Go get another.

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

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#40 Apr 18, 2014
I've seen police cars do the leep frog thing. When my parents died (not on the same day, years apart).

Where I live now I'll see it only once in awhile if the procession is a fairly large one.

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