“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Dec 11, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My husband wears a hairpiece. Unfortunately, it doesn't look very real. Nearly every time we are in a public place, I notice somebody staring or laughing at it. I have talked to him about it only a couple of times, but each time he tells me how attached he is to it and how good it feels on his head. I want him to be happy, but I do not want him to be publicly ridiculed. Should I throw it away?-- WIFE OF A MAN WITH A "SECRET"

DEAR WIFE: Absolutely not. If you want to help your husband, start talking with some hairstylists. There may be a product on the market that is more convincing than what your husband is wearing.(Depending upon how much hair he has on the back of his head, a transplant of some follicles may also be possible.) This isn't just about him having something on his head that "feels good." If it was only that, he'd be wearing a hat.

DEAR ABBY: I am recently married, and my husband and I have not consummated our marriage. I made it very clear that this would not be a part of our life together, and he agreed long before we took our vows. We sleep separately.

Recently, my husband has become sullen and passive-aggressive. He tries to push the issue, to the point of making unwanted physical contact. He knew going in that I am extremely uncomfortable with this form of intimacy and that my views would not change.

We love each other, but his behavior is starting to take a toll on me and the stress is straining our relationship. Please help.-- ASEXUAL IN LOVE

DEAR ASEXUAL: You and your husband are obviously not on the same page as far as what your expectations are about your marriage. How uncomfortable for you and how frustrating for him. He may have thought that after your wedding, with time, he could change your mind -- or he may regard your lack of interest in sex as personal rejection.

For the kind of marriage you envisioned, both parties must feel the same way about sex. Because he agreed to something he can't live with, it might be better for both of you if you separated.

DEAR ABBY: Would you please settle a disagreement I'm having with my mother's boyfriend?

The three of us go out to eat together often. Most times we "go Dutch" and pay for our own meals. The problem arises when he pays for my meal. He'll request the senior price for all of us because he's paying.

I believe the senior discount should apply to the seniors in the group only, and mine should be the regular price. I don't think it's wrong to ask for the senior discount for theirs when I'm paying, but do not feel right claiming it for mine.(I'm more than 20 years away from qualifying.)

It embarrasses me when he does it. I'd much rather pay the full adult price. Even if it's only 50 cents, I still feel like it's cheating.

Shouldn't a senior discount apply to items being purchased for the senior, or should the senior be able to apply their discount for everyone at the table, even if the person is underage?-- KIM IN IOWA CITY

DEAR KIM: Senior discounts are intended to accommodate people who are presumably retired and living on a fixed income. That said, various restaurants make their own rules. If they are willing to comply when your mother's boyfriend asks that everyone be included in the discount, it's no reflection on you if he's the one doing the asking and paying the bill.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#2 Dec 11, 2012
L1: Sigh. I HATE hair pieces on men. I can spot them every time because the men are doing such a bad job of (1) picking fake hair to match their head and (2) accepting aging and losing hair. Take him to a very good hair place and see what you can find.

L2: Tell him to get some sex on the side. Give him permission.

L3: I'm surprised the waitstaff is letting this happen. But I don't really care.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#3 Dec 11, 2012
1 Thankfully balding is not in my genes, going gray is, but if it was, I think I would be ok with that too. I am not very vain.

2 Your husband is an idiot, and you need to find out why your such a cold fish.

3 For .50?? let it go already!

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#4 Dec 11, 2012
1 Rugs are out, and shaved heads are in. Any ninny wearing a rug needs to chug on down to Mamby Pamby Land and get some self-confidence!

2 Either do the deed or divorce him. It's not fair to demand no sex.

3 Jeezus, find something worthy of worrying about.

“No. 1 Stunna”

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#5 Dec 11, 2012
LW1: Talk him into shaving it.

LW2: You deserve to spend your life living alone with cats.

Your husband deserves to spend his life laying outside in front of some person's door, so people can wipe their feet on him before they enter.

LW3: It wouldn't be my choice, but if they give it to him, who really cares? Quit being an ingrate.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#6 Dec 11, 2012
L1: I like bald guys. I can't say I can spot a hairpiece everytime on a guy b/c if a guy has a good one perhaps I didn't notice. But I have noticed PLENTY of bad ones.

L2: Have you gotten your hormone levels checked? You don't know what you're missing! But hey, the LW was upfront with him from the beginning so I'm not going to fault the LW for that.

L3: You must lead a blessed life if this is what you have to worry about.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#7 Dec 11, 2012
L2: I don't understand LW2 and her husband. He knew the deal going in, so in that way, I'm on her side -- but maybe he thought she just was super uptight and it would take a while to get in her pants?

I wonder if LW2 is a virgin, or whether she's tried sex and just has no interest. I know there are asexual people out there, and if they can pair up and get married and be happy together, more power to 'em.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#8 Dec 11, 2012
L1: Sat behind a guy at a hockey game with a terrible hair piece. Snapped a picture and sent it to two friends who were at the game but not sitting near me. Probably a douche move, but *shrug*. His wife was a bottle blonde that tanned too much.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#9 Dec 11, 2012
1- Lady, noboy cares about a stranger's hairpiece.

2- He knew the deal going in, did he think you would change? Divorce him or let him get some on the side.

3- The servers shouldn't be ringing you up at the discount price, no matter who pays.
Community Disorganizer

Trumbull, CT

#10 Dec 11, 2012
LW 1: I think he looks very handsome, I don't know why he would be publicly ridiculed.

http://wac.450f.edgecastcdn.net/80450F/98kool...

LW 2: A BJ now and then wouldn't kill you!

LW 3: Who cares

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#11 Dec 11, 2012
LW1: Tell him you really wish he would just go au naturale. Show him pictures of all the really hot bald guys out there and there is no shame in it.

LW2: WTF??? Either give this guy a hall pass or an annulment.

LW3: I just can't seem to care about this.

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#12 Dec 11, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
L2: I don't understand LW2 and her husband. He knew the deal going in, so in that way, I'm on her side -- but maybe he thought she just was super uptight and it would take a while to get in her pants?

I wonder if LW2 is a virgin, or whether she's tried sex and just has no interest. I know there are asexual people out there, and if they can pair up and get married and be happy together, more power to 'em.
He is horny and regardless of their tacit understanding, he's no longer okay with it. Poor guy just needs to get laid! I feel sorry for her, and hope she's in therapy.
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#13 Dec 11, 2012
1. Get one of his buddies to talk to him.

2. You're both morons. Expecting him to give up sex forever? That's realistic. And he expected you to change. I am curious as to why you don't want go get your freak on. But this is not going to get better unless someting changes. Either give him permission for some side (which you don't sound like that kind of person) or end it.

3. Um, it's the restaurant's call. There is no law.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#14 Dec 11, 2012
L1: Embrace the baldness.

L2: Whaaaaat... I got nothing, I can't relate at all.

L3: You pay too much attention to other people paying the bill.
Cass

Upland, CA

#15 Dec 11, 2012
LW1 - Rugs are pathetic. But if your husband doesn't mind being ridiculed, just keep reminding yourself - it is not you who are the object of the ridicule, it's him.

LW2 - Weird. I can sort of see both sides: he knew going in that she didn't want to have sex ever; she was unrealistic expecting him to give up sex for life. Still, I think it's on her to make some adjustments. Asexuality means lack of interest in sex, not inability to have it. If she is truly just asexual, she can accommodate her husband once in a while. If, on the other hand, she has a fear of sex or is disgusted by it, she needs therapy. The could both look for a good sex therapist to help them.

LW3 - I presume the servers at those restaurants are not blind and can see that you are not yet a senior. If they are willing to give you a discount, what's your problem with it?

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#16 Dec 11, 2012
Cass wrote:
LW3 - I presume the servers at those restaurants are not blind and can see that you are not yet a senior. If they are willing to give you a discount, what's your problem with it?
I'm looking forward to the senior discount!

I'm just disappointed that Phar-Mor isn't in business anymore in my area. They had 5% discounts on Wednesdays when I was a liquor salesman. The commission checks were awesome....
Allena

Montréal, Canada

#17 Dec 18, 2012
for the second one i'm sorry to break it to her but there is a strong chance that her husband is cheating on her. she should check out www.marriagesherpa.com or www.paranoogle.com to see more signs of this. lol
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#18 Dec 18, 2012
Allena wrote:
for the second one i'm sorry to break it to her but there is a strong chance that her husband is cheating on her. she should check out www.marriagesherpa.com or www.paranoogle.com to see more signs of this. lol
More to the point , an unconsummated marruage is subject to annulment in some places
Kerry

Chicago, IL

#19 Dec 21, 2012
actually, i found that paranoogle.com site to be pretty insightful. just sayin

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