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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#1 Aug 22, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My friend was at a local event, a child's graduation. There was a woman whose rear end was exposed sitting in the row ahead. Several people took pictures and posted them on Facebook.

My concern is for the woman's family. My friend couldn't think of an easy way to tell her. My question is, how do you tactfully tell someone about her (or his) exposed buttocks without offending the person?-- JUST ASKING IN ILLINOIS

DEAR JUST ASKING: The person who designed low-rise pants for women, frankly, should be taken to the stocks for public punishment. They flatter no one, particularly when the wearer bends or sits. If it's not the flesh dropping over the waistband, it's the Great Rift Valley visible from the rear.

Robert Burns, a Scottish poet, wrote in 1786 (I am paraphrasing) that if some power would give us the gift to see ourselves as others see us, it would free us from "many a blunder"! How right he was.

Had your friend informed the woman in the row ahead that her pants had slipped so low that people were photographing the view, she probably would have been less offended than embarrassed. The message should have been conveyed quietly by another woman if one felt enough compassion to do it.

DEAR ABBY: I was married for 22 years. My husband was verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive to me. I took it for my kids' sake.

My daughter recently had a son, and my ex wants nothing to do with him. He says if we don't name the baby after him, the baby doesn't need him in his life. My heart hurts for my grandson. My daughter is not with the baby's daddy. All the baby has is my daughter, my son and me. I don't know how a grandparent can't want to be a part of an innocent baby's life.

My ex is 45 and living with a 23-year-old. I just want him to at least give the baby a chance to know who his grandfather is. If there is no love there when they meet, we won't pursue a relationship. He is upset with me. I don't know why, because he's the one who asked for the divorce. What do you think about this?-- CONFUSED IN PHOENIX

DEAR CONFUSED: Your ex-husband may be upset with you because he feels some guilt about the divorce, and rather than accept it, he is blaming you for it.

If you think this baby might somehow smooth over the years of abuse you experienced from him, please forget it. It is perfectly logical that your daughter wouldn't want to name her child for him after witnessing what he put you through for so many years -- so please don't let her be coerced into it.

Because your ex is the kind of person he is, it would be better for all of you if the little boy doesn't get to know him. You married a self-centered, selfish, controlling individual. Consider yourself lucky that he's not pushing for involvement, because if that happens he will continue to treat all of you exactly the way he used to.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#2 Aug 22, 2012
LW1: HAHAH! I was at my sister's graduation. On the upper floor outside. I looked down and saw this amazing set of....:)

I had to snap a picture. Never posted it to facebook or anything.

As far as telling this person her ass is showing, don't be naive. She knows.

"My concern is for the woman's family."
Really? How so?

LW2: Why does it concern you so much? No knock on grandparents, but I feel that while having a great grand parent relationship can be very rewarding, the absence of one is no big deal. YOu should be more concerned with the fact that the child's FATHER is out of the picture.

Since: Jan 10

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#3 Aug 22, 2012
L1: People who show their asses like that know they're doing it, they just don't care. They either think they're hot and they're doing the rest of us a favor, or they've let themselves go so completely, they still don't care. If you're going to look like a complete dipstick in public, be prepared for photos to be taken and posted on the internet. That's the way of the world today.

Otherwise, we wouldn't have People of Walmart.

L2: WHy on earth would this break your heart? Be glad that your nasty ex wants nothing to do with the kid. It's a plus. You're a mess. Get therapy.

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#4 Aug 22, 2012
Mister Tonka wrote:
LW2: Why does it concern you so much? No knock on grandparents, but I feel that while having a great grand parent relationship can be very rewarding, the absence of one is no big deal. YOu should be more concerned with the fact that the child's FATHER is out of the picture.
Agreed.

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#5 Aug 22, 2012
L1: OMG...your life is really so dull that you have time to write for advice on something like this, that didn't even involve you?
Wow.
I got nothing else. Just...wow.

L2: Why, exactly, would you want to draw this obnoxious d-bag into your grandson's life? Or your daughter's? Is it because you want him back in yours? If so, why? And who cares who he is living with? Just be glad it isn't you anymore, and embrace life without the abuse.

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#6 Aug 22, 2012
L1: Girl butt cheek showing stuff..don't care, but at least she has a place to hold her pencil.

L2: With Tonka on this one. The father not being in the picture is far more of a concern than the a-hole grandfather.
LW has passed on at least some degree of her dysfunction to the kids. Well done! Not.

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#7 Aug 22, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
Otherwise, we wouldn't have People of Walmart.
WalMartians...YES!!!

Since: Nov 10

New York, NY

#8 Aug 22, 2012
L2- Why do I get the feeling that her husband left the LW and not the other way around?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#9 Aug 22, 2012
1 Can you tell who someone is by looking at the crack of their ass? I cant either. Ta-tas, sure!

2 Lady you are a wreck if you think this kid needs a grand parent like that in his life. Get therapy, get you daughter on the pill and get the baby daddy involved.

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#10 Aug 22, 2012
Renee J wrote:
L2- Why do I get the feeling that her husband left the LW and not the other way around?
Because she said that he is the one who asked for a divorce? ;-D
I'm sure it isn't from her apparent clinging to him, or the unrelated comment about living with a much younger woman.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#11 Aug 22, 2012
itser wrote:
L1: OMG...your life is really so dull that you have time to write for advice on something like this, that didn't even involve you?
Wants to make sure she's prepared and knows what to do next time she see's ass crack

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#12 Aug 22, 2012
Renee J wrote:
L2- Why do I get the feeling that her husband left the LW and not the other way around?
Could this have something to do with it?

"because he's the one who asked for the divorce"

Since: Dec 09

Smalltown, Colorado

#13 Aug 22, 2012
Snark alert! People who show their asses in public do not get sympathy from me.

Since: Dec 09

Smalltown, Colorado

#14 Aug 22, 2012
LW2 - The LW doesn't know a good thing when she sees it. Why in the world would you want this jerk in your lives? He left you all - you should throw a party.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#15 Aug 22, 2012
LW1: Who cares? And I'm pretty sure she intentionally dresses that way so her a$s shows.

LW2: Yeah, good luck with that.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#16 Aug 22, 2012
1- She knew damnwell how she looked.

2- You're a double failure. You failed in your marriage and raised a wh0 re. Why do you care that your ex wants nothing to do with this bass terd? Screw him.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#17 Aug 22, 2012
LW1: I do have to say I hate the low-rise pants. They are so uncomfortable and rarely look good, even on people with great bodies. And, for someone like me, with no hips, they "slide", so they really don't work.

LW2: Holy cow - not seeing this grandfather is a BLESSING for this child. You need serious counseling. And I agree with Tonka - you should worry about the FATHER not being around. Of course, if the LW's daughter has "daddy" issues because of the abuse she witnessed, the baby daddy might be just like her dad. Maybe it's just as well.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#18 Aug 22, 2012
L2. You have your head screwed on backwards.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#19 Aug 22, 2012
LW1: Nice way to not answer the LW's question. This poor person needed a script for telling someone nicely that their ass is showing, not a paraphrase of Robert Effing Burns!

I personally wouldn't say anything, and I'm a person who *will* tell folks their tag is hanging out or they spilled lunch down the front of them, because if they can't feel the breeze down their rumpus then they're either to dumb to notice or care. Not worth getting into an altercation over.

LW2: Like everyone else has said, why do you WANT this azzhole in your grandchild's life? Let him go knock up his 23 yo girlfriend and then you can explain to your grandson why he has an aunt or uncle that is younger than him. Good times!

Toj

“Equality”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#20 Aug 22, 2012
L1: I wouldn't want the view. If I had a cardigan sweater or jacket I didn't need to have on, I would have hung it up on the back of her chair.

L2: This woman is a complete idiot. Why would you want him to be in your grandson's life? Bet this LW butts into everyone's life. If she is so concerned about it, why doesn't she find an old geezer, marry him and then the baby can have a granddaddy.

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