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“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#1 Jul 12, 2010
DEAR ABBY: My parents are both in their 80s, and I try to stay in touch with them as often as possible. Unfortunately, one issue I cannot get through to them is when to call 911 for help. Example: If Mom trips and falls, Dad needs to call 911 rather than struggle to help her up. One or both of them could be injured due to lack of strength or ability.

Also, if a stranger rings their doorbell or calls on the phone and asks them questions about checking accounts, etc., this person should be reported. How do I impress upon my parents the need to contact the authorities when something is amiss rather than attempt to handle it themselves?-- ART IN EASTON, PA.

DEAR ART: Trying to parent one's parents long distance can be frustrating and emotionally draining. Part of the problem may be that when people in their golden years begin to slow down, they often don't realize that it's happening.

Please impress upon your father that when your mother falls there may be a reason for it that goes beyond being "clumsy." She may have suffered a small stroke or have an inner ear imbalance and need to be seen by a doctor. Also, when older people fall they can crack a bone, and being lifted by someone other than a professional can cause further injury.

These days there are more "sharks" swimming around out there than ever, poised to take advantage of the gullible and the vulnerable. If you suspect that someone has been asking your parents for information about their personal finances, the police should be informed. Also, if you feel they need protection, then it's time to involve a social worker to help them. Your local Area Agency on Aging or state department of health can guide you.

DEAR ABBY: Many years ago I made a conscious and deliberate decision to leave the dating scene. Whenever I tell a woman I'm not interested or have made other plans, she becomes upset and angry with me. I try to be tactful and diplomatic with women, but it invariably results in acrimonious behavior toward me. I am exasperated with the situation. What's your advice?-- NICE GUY IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR NICE GUY: Of course when a woman hears that you're "not interested" she will be offended. A compliment it's not! And a woman who becomes upset and angry if you say you have other plans isn't someone you would want to be involved with anyway. Next time try this: "I'm sorry, but I'm NOT AVAILABLE." It's the truth -- you're not!

DEAR ABBY: This may seem like a silly question, but what is the proper thing to do if fruit drops on the floor at the grocery store?-- WONDERING IN COLUMBUS, GA.

DEAR WONDERING: There is no such thing as a silly question. I addressed your query to the manager of a major grocery chain in the Los Angeles area. He said: "Because it is assumed that people wash their fruit at home before eating it, the fallen item should simply be placed on its stand.(Of course, if it has split in two, cracked or been crushed, you should bring it to the attention of an employee working the produce department.)"

Now: Speaking as someone who has bought fruit, taken it home and found it to be bruised when I cut into it, it's my PERSONAL opinion that instead of replacing the fruit in the display, a store employee should be informed so the item can be sold at a discount the next day.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#2 Jul 12, 2010

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#3 Jul 12, 2010
LW1 - Maybe you can look up the number of your local first aid squad and put that on your parents phone list. They may feel more comfortable calling that if one of them falls than calling 911.

LW2 - Maybe it is a good thing that you left the dating scene "many years ago" if you still haven't figured this out and are just not writing in to Abby.

LW3 - I don't do the grocery shopping, so I didn't read this question.

“Snow days!”

Since: Nov 08

A winter wonderland

#4 Jul 12, 2010
L1- While I agree with Abby about calling 911 in the event of a fall (Jess- that will bring our local first aid or "rescue" squad), I don't think it's as important to report scam artists to the police as it is to just shut the door in their faces. A lot of older people are afraid of the police & don't want to get involved. We just had some scam asphalt guys in the neighborhood last week. Nobody took them up on their great "offers".
L2- A lot of women don't know how to handle rejection. When I first got back into the dating arena, I found out what a lot of men know- it hurts to be turned down. But the more you try, the easier it gets. Personally, I think the LW is not phrasing it too tactfully.
L3- I have never heard of a store putting damaged produce on sale the next day.

“bELieve”

Since: Jun 09

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#5 Jul 12, 2010
Andie J wrote:
L1- While I agree with Abby about calling 911 in the event of a fall (Jess- that will bring our local first aid or "rescue" squad), I don't think it's as important to report scam artists to the police as it is to just shut the door in their faces. A lot of older people are afraid of the police & don't want to get involved. We just had some scam asphalt guys in the neighborhood last week. Nobody took them up on their great "offers".
L2- A lot of women don't know how to handle rejection. When I first got back into the dating arena, I found out what a lot of men know- it hurts to be turned down. But the more you try, the easier it gets. Personally, I think the LW is not phrasing it too tactfully.
L3- I have never heard of a store putting damaged produce on sale the next day.
I know that calling 911 will bring the rescue squad, but maybe their issue is a mental one about what constitutes an emergency and calling 911. Maybe they would be more comfortable calling the rescue squad directly, believing that will not tie up the "emergency" 911 line (this is how my Grandma thinks).

“Snow days!”

Since: Nov 08

A winter wonderland

#6 Jul 12, 2010
Jess in NJ wrote:
<quoted text>
I know that calling 911 will bring the rescue squad, but maybe their issue is a mental one about what constitutes an emergency and calling 911. Maybe they would be more comfortable calling the rescue squad directly, believing that will not tie up the "emergency" 911 line (this is how my Grandma thinks).
I guess your system differs from mine. The only way to reach the rescue squad is to call 911. Altho I have to say that the hospital you're taken to is less than ideal.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#7 Jul 12, 2010
LW2: Keep on doing what you're doing. Those egotistical beyotches that get mad when you say you're not interested....its great that you're knocking them down a few pegs. They sound like the ones that have never heard "no" and expect men to fall all over themselves chasing her. Nice blow to her ego for mankind.

LW3: Speaking of bringing it to the attention of an employee...I was at Lowes yesterday. Buying lawn fertilizer. Grabbed a bag and it had a hole in it and started spilling out like crazy. Put hte bag down and grabbed another. Told the workers about it. While paying, I could see the other worker simply taping the hole shit with duct tape. Wonder if they marked down the price of that bag.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#8 Jul 12, 2010
Jess in NJ wrote:
local first aid squad
What is that? I've never heard of such a thing.

“Snow days!”

Since: Nov 08

A winter wonderland

#9 Jul 12, 2010
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> What is that? I've never heard of such a thing.
Around here we have a volunteer rescue squad. They make the determination whether or not to transport to the hospital. They really are a great bunch of well-trained people.

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

Since: Dec 08

Twin Cities, MN

#10 Jul 12, 2010
L1: Boring.

L2: They make a scene? Weird. I'm not quite buying that.

L3: Depends on the fruit. Grape? Leave it or throw it away. Apple or banana? Well, they'll be bruised but edible, so return them. Watermelon? Walk away quickly and hope they blame someone else.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#11 Jul 12, 2010
Andie J wrote:
A lot of older people are afraid of the police
What are they afraid of? I don't get this?

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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#12 Jul 12, 2010
AngelaMN wrote:
L2: They make a scene? Weird. I'm not quite buying that.
I buy it. I listen to a show called "Second Date Update"(you go on a date, things seem ok, andhte guy(or girl) never calls back). The show calls him up and finds out what went wrong, thens says "oh, by the way, she's on the line with us". I can't tell you the number of times some of these chicks say verbatim that if anyone should be blowing anyone off it should be them and not the guy and that they are really out of the guy's league(yet here they are calling cause they really wanted a second date). Many of these women have a very inflated ego. Certainly that's not the norm, but the ones that ARE like that, it makes me smile when their ego takes a big hit. What could be worse that thinking you are slumming it by allowing this guy to go out with you and he blows you off?

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

Since: Dec 08

Twin Cities, MN

#13 Jul 12, 2010
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> I buy it. I listen to a show called "Second Date Update"(you go on a date, things seem ok, andhte guy(or girl) never calls back). The show calls him up and finds out what went wrong, thens says "oh, by the way, she's on the line with us". I can't tell you the number of times some of these chicks say verbatim that if anyone should be blowing anyone off it should be them and not the guy and that they are really out of the guy's league(yet here they are calling cause they really wanted a second date). Many of these women have a very inflated ego. Certainly that's not the norm, but the ones that ARE like that, it makes me smile when their ego takes a big hit. What could be worse that thinking you are slumming it by allowing this guy to go out with you and he blows you off?
I am glad I don't know what it's like to have (1) an overinflated sense of self or (2) such low self-esteem that I'd behave that way.

“Snow days!”

Since: Nov 08

A winter wonderland

#14 Jul 12, 2010
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>What are they afraid of? I don't get this?
I grew up in an area that had a lot of Holocaust survivors. Most were terrified at the thought of having to deal with police of any kind. I know my mother hated the idea of ever having to need a cop. She'd be 84 now.

“Snow days!”

Since: Nov 08

A winter wonderland

#15 Jul 12, 2010
AngelaMN wrote:
<quoted text>
I am glad I don't know what it's like to have (1) an overinflated sense of self or (2) such low self-esteem that I'd behave that way.
I think it's #1. They don't like to lose face in front of their friends. And what could be more humiliating to a woman who thinks she's "all that" than to be turned down for a date?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#16 Jul 12, 2010
1 Abby was ok I guess

2 Yeah, I hate that too.

3 Just push it under the table with your foot. Or step on it, slip/fall/sue.
pde

Arlington Heights, IL

#17 Jul 12, 2010
Andie J wrote:
L3- I have never heard of a store putting damaged produce on sale the next day.
The grocery where I shops puts damaged/aging produce into the discount carts up front. Sometimes you can get a great deal on a whole bunch of bananas just about ready for banana bread or pie, for example.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Peoria, IL

#18 Jul 12, 2010
LW1: Put them in a home if you're so damn concerned about them.

LW2: Get over yourself. How many women are really crying in their beers because you've turned them down? I think your REAL problem is women are rejecting you, you're just trying to turn it around back on them.

LW3: I just put it back in the bin. I don't think I've killed anyone yet.

Since: Jan 09

Chicago Heights, IL

#19 Jul 12, 2010
LW1: See if you can convince your parents to give you financial power of attorney. You can set things up so that even if they give out account numbers, etc., the criminals can't access anything. And make sure they know that there is NEVER any reason to give out their SSN to someone who has called them or showed up at their door.

LW2: I'm with Angela.
Many years ago I made a conscious and deliberate decision to leave the dating scene.
If the guy has been giving off the vibe that he's not interested for YEARS, then there's no way women are throwing themselves at him and then getting mad when he says he's not interested. I can't believe I'm the first person to call "fake" on this letter.

LW3: Why not ask a produce employee AT THE TIME? They'll be able to see the fruit and the extent of the damage and they'll know that store's policy. Duh.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#20 Jul 12, 2010
RACE wrote:
Or step on it, slip/fall/sue.
lol

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