“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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#62 Feb 22, 2013
You are still insisting the guy does nothing, cant you even read? He clearly said he pulls his weight, what more can you honestly ask? Your all about partnership and 50/50, but apparently his being retired means that 50/50 is really 80/20, and your STILL ignoring the fact that he says the GF is expecting he do it ALL!

Cmone!
Toj wrote:
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But it would matter, usually. Human nature. And if the guy was surfing all day and the woman was working her pants off, you're right that it isn't his problem that she could not get her laundry done or get dinner b/c she is too busy. It isn't his problem.
Someone who cares about someone, though, would not feel that way.
We don't know if that's the situation.
But for argument sake, let's say he is goofing off all day and feels that it's his right b/c he earned his retirement. Kudos! Whether or not she has a right to get miffed that he doesn't help her doesn't mean she's not going to resent the fact that he doesn't WANT to help her.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#63 Feb 22, 2013
Your wrong!
Its about doing dishes, making dinner, doing laundry. All chores that should be shared.
Being retired is not being unemployed. He paid his dues and is not obligated to do all the chores just because he does not have a job to go to every day.
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
It has to do with energy level and what you can logically do and how much free personal time you feel you have. Do I have that right? That's how I'm taking it.

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#64 Feb 22, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Why should it be equal? She's working all day and he is not? He presumably has more time to do a majority of what needs to be done, and allow his girlfriend a chance to rest and relax when she gets home.
Who are you and what did you do with the mutt?

Toj

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#65 Feb 22, 2013
RACE wrote:
You are still insisting the guy does nothing, cant you even read? He clearly said he pulls his weight, what more can you honestly ask? Your all about partnership and 50/50, but apparently his being retired means that 50/50 is really 80/20, and your STILL ignoring the fact that he says the GF is expecting he do it ALL!
Cmone!
<quoted text>
Are you being a dickhead on purpose? I was responding to YOUR post, not the letter. This is what you said:

RACE wrote:
I dont get that. What diff does it make? If you think its "Fun" then you would feel obligated to do more, but if you think its "Work", you feel you should do less. That makes no sense, your not getting paid for either, and both are your OWN choice to do at all.
How YOU feel about what you do all day is not how the GF feels about what you do all day. She is only looking at the fact that he is retired and she is not, so he automatically should be doing all the household chores.
Whether he is surfing or volunteering in the soup kitchen should not have any bearing on the distribution of housework.

I'm not ignoring anything. You can't read nor understand a discussion that goes into another discussion related but different from the original, obviously.

Reread your POST then reread m post.

You're turning into edog, I swear.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

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#66 Feb 22, 2013
RACE wrote:
Your wrong!
Its about doing dishes, making dinner, doing laundry. All chores that should be shared.
Being retired is not being unemployed. He paid his dues and is not obligated to do all the chores just because he does not have a job to go to every day.
<quoted text>
You sure look different from Redheadwithglasses. How can you tell me that I'm wrong in what Red meant? Are you both Race and Redhead? The post was to her.

Toj

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#67 Feb 22, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Who are you and what did you do with the mutt?
It seems that the mutt took over Race's posts.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#68 Feb 22, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
1- Get off your lazy ass duff and do some housework, you self-centered POS c0ckassdouchebag! Your girlfriend works full time and you expect her to run all the erands and cook, clean, and do laundry so you can jibber-jabber all goddam day at the coffee shop!? Do your girlfriend a favor and move out.
Dog---giving you a Big Sloppy Wet Kiss!(OMG, words I thought I'D NEVER SAY [rofmao]!!!)

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#69 Feb 22, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Who are you and what did you do with the mutt?
If the genders were reversed and dude was the one coming home to unwashed dishes and a pile of laundry while his girlfriend was gabbing at the beauty parlor all day, my responses would be the same.

Not true for everyone else, though.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#70 Feb 22, 2013
RACE wrote:
RACE wrote:
Can you point to any line in the letter where he suggested what her duties should be? I missed it.
<quoted text>
"I get the impression...." "Sounds like..."
You really are very, very stupid!
Are you drunk already? I'm missing your point.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

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#71 Feb 22, 2013
Julie wrote:
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Dog---giving you a Big Sloppy Wet Kiss!
Well hey, hey, why stop there!? I'll show you MY version of "doggie style!"

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#72 Feb 22, 2013
Toj wrote:
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Are you being a dickhead on purpose?... You're turning into edog, I swear.
Are you new here?

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#73 Feb 22, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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Not true for everyone else, though.
Are you referring to the women on here gushing at you, who wouldn't be doing so if the man were working and wanting the stay at home woman to do everything?

Toj

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#74 Feb 22, 2013
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
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Are you new here?
Relatively, I guess. I'm amazed at the rant/anger for something someone's not reading properly or misreading on purpose.

“...,to wit”

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#75 Feb 22, 2013
Toj wrote:
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Relatively, I guess. I'm amazed at the rant/anger for something someone's not reading properly or misreading on purpose.
That is one of the Rules of the Internet.
http://www.cnn.com/2013/02/18/tech/web/more-i...

(The comments are where you will find the good stuff)

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#76 Feb 22, 2013
Toj wrote:
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It has to do with energy level and what you can logically do and how much free personal time you feel you have. Do I have that right? That's how I'm taking it.
I guess it's that I'd treat volunteer work like a job, and that would consume my time to the same degree a paying job would, so I wouldn't agree that I should do more housework.

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#77 Feb 22, 2013
Toj wrote:
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Are you being a dickhead on purpose? I was responding to YOUR post, not the letter. This is what you said:
RACE wrote:
I dont get that. What diff does it make? If you think its "Fun" then you would feel obligated to do more, but if you think its "Work", you feel you should do less. That makes no sense, your not getting paid for either, and both are your OWN choice to do at all.
How YOU feel about what you do all day is not how the GF feels about what you do all day. She is only looking at the fact that he is retired and she is not, so he automatically should be doing all the household chores.
Whether he is surfing or volunteering in the soup kitchen should not have any bearing on the distribution of housework.
I'm not ignoring anything. You can't read nor understand a discussion that goes into another discussion related but different from the original, obviously.
Reread your POST then reread m post.
You're turning into edog, I swear.
Good post.

I don't think he's that attached to this girlfriend. I don't think the relationship is what I'd want.

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#78 Feb 22, 2013
My opinion would be the same if the genders were reversed.

Howeve,r change it from "retired" to "stay at home parent" and the kids are in school all day, and I'm all over that: Get the damn house clean. It's your JOB.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#79 Feb 25, 2013
???
This is what you wrote
But it would matter, usually. Human nature. And if the guy was surfing all day and the woman was working her pants off, you're right that it isn't his problem that she could not get her laundry done or get dinner b/c she is too busy. It isn't his problem.
Someone who cares about someone, though, would not feel that way.
We don't know if that's the situation.
But for argument sake, let's say he is goofing off all day and feels that it's his right b/c he earned his retirement. Kudos! Whether or not she has a right to get miffed that he doesn't help her doesn't mean she's not going to resent the fact that he doesn't WANT to help her.

I read this 3 times and I still dont see how your talking to me and not the LW.

and for clarification....
Whether or not she has a right to get miffed that he doesn't help her doesn't mean she's not going to resent the fact that he doesn't WANT to help her.

What part of you saying

" he doesn't help "

and

"he doesn't WANT to help her. "

conflicts with me saying your wrong because he clearly said he does do his share and she is expecting he do his share and hers too?

Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
Are you being a dickhead on purpose? I was responding to YOUR post, not the letter. This is what you said:
RACE wrote:
I dont get that. What diff does it make? If you think its "Fun" then you would feel obligated to do more, but if you think its "Work", you feel you should do less. That makes no sense, your not getting paid for either, and both are your OWN choice to do at all.
How YOU feel about what you do all day is not how the GF feels about what you do all day. She is only looking at the fact that he is retired and she is not, so he automatically should be doing all the household chores.
Whether he is surfing or volunteering in the soup kitchen should not have any bearing on the distribution of housework.
I'm not ignoring anything. You can't read nor understand a discussion that goes into another discussion related but different from the original, obviously.
Reread your POST then reread m post.
You're turning into edog, I swear.

Toj

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#80 Feb 25, 2013
RACE wrote:
???
This is what you wrote...
I read this 3 times and I still dont see how your talking to me and not the LW.
and for clarification....
Did you take lessons from Fox News? You need to read what YOU wrote that I responded to.(jesusmaryandjoseph) Let me break it down for you.

You said: I dont get that. What diff does it make? If you think its "Fun" then you would feel obligated to do more, but if you think its "Work", you feel you should do less.

I said: But it would matter, usually. Human nature.

You said: How YOU feel about what you do all day is not how the GF feels about what you do all day. She is only looking at the fact that he is retired and she is not, so he automatically should be doing all the household chores.

I said: And if the guy was surfing all day and the woman was working her pants off, you're right that it isn't his problem that she could not get her laundry done or get dinner b/c she is too busy. It isn't his problem.
Someone who cares about someone, though, would not feel that way.

You said: Whether he is surfing or volunteering in the soup kitchen should not have any bearing on the distribution of housework.

I said: We don't know if that's the situation.
But for ARGUMENT SAKE, let's say he is goofing off all day and feels that it's his right b/c he earned his retirement. Kudos! WHETHER OR NOT SHE HAS A RIGHT TO GET MIFFED that he doesn't help her doesn't mean she's not going to resent the fact that he doesn't WANT to help her.

The caps are to especially point out things. Personally, I don't care if you think I'm wrong. Because I'm not.:)

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Neda, stay with me!

#81 Feb 25, 2013
Toj, I still dont get you
1 what would matter? I never said anything did not matter, I just asked what the diff was. You did not answer me, you stated something totally unrelated to what I wrote.

2 Sorry, but I connect the dots to these statements either.

How YOU feel about what you do all day..
and you replied....

you're right that it isn't his problem that she could not get her laundry done or get dinner b/c she is too busy. It isn't his problem.

WTF problem? Where in the flipping letter does it say the GF is wearing dirty clothes?

3 I said: We don't know if that's the situation

YOU ARE WRONG, we do know the situation, he told us the situation and you keep ignoring the situation and substituting your own view of the situation.

Wanna know what the situation is? Here's the situation. "she wants him to do all the chores"
How do I know this? Because its written IN THE LETTER.

sheesh!

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