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Dec 31, 2013
 
DEAR ABBY: Have you any advice for how a person can handle mornings better? No matter what I do, I start off every work day irritated and grumpy.

I love the mornings, and even get up early so I can enjoy sitting with my coffee and relax before heading out the door. But as soon as I get out into traffic, I'm immediately in a bad mood. Then, sitting down at work and facing all the emails that come in from my global associates -- usually about some emergency that is plopped in my lap -- puts me in more of a foul mood.

I actually like my job, despite what it sounds like. I just hate starting off every day like this. Telecommuting is not an option for me. What can I do?-- MS. GRUMP IN DENVER

DEAR MS. GRUMP: OK, so you're fine until you leave the house. Many people who find morning rush hour to be nerve-wracking find it calming to listen to audio books or music during their commute. If that doesn't help you, and it is feasible, consider using another form of transportation that's less stressful.

And when you arrive at work, take a little time to decompress before turning on your computer, whether it is with meditation or deep-breathing exercises for the first 10 or 15 minutes. Both can do wonders for a person's outlook.

DEAR ABBY: A cute little girl lives up the street from my husband and me and attends the same church we do. A few years ago we taught her in a Sunday school class. At the time, she developed a crush on my husband. We both laughed about it then and thought it was sweet.

Fast-forward three years, and it's not so sweet anymore. It's downright awkward. She runs up to my husband multiple times while we're at church, while ignoring me. Last Sunday, she turned to me as she did it and announced, "He's mine!" I stood there thinking, "Uh, no -- he's mine."

I know this jealous reaction may seem silly and I'm trying hard not to feel this way, but it felt like I was fighting over my husband with an 8-year-old. He is aware of her crush and how I feel about it, but he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. Her mother knows about the crush, and we shared a laugh early on.

What can I do? Would speaking to the girl's mother help? What should I say? Or would it make things more awkward?-- NO LONGER AMUSED IN OGDEN, UTAH

DEAR NO LONGER AMUSED: The cute little neighbor girl is no longer 5. Three years is a long time for a child to hang onto a crush. Because her behavior bothers you, tell her mother you find it excessive at this point and ask her to tell her daughter she's getting too old to act that way. It's the truth, and your husband should back you up.

DEAR ABBY: I thought I'd share my own New Year's resolution with you. For the past 25 years I have made the following resolution: Each day I will ask myself, "What is the kindest, most loving thing I can say or do at this particular moment?" I invite your readers to consider this.-- WAYNE IN PUYALLUP, WASH.

DEAR WAYNE: I consider it a refreshingly positive way to start a day, and I'm sure others will agree and add it to their list of New Year's resolutions. Thank you for sharing it.

CONFIDENTIAL TO MY READERS: A word to the wise: If you plan to toast the New Year tonight, please appoint a designated driver. And on this night especially, designated drivers should remember to drive defensively. To one and all, a happy, healthy New Year!-- LOVE, ABBY
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Dec 31, 2013
 
LW1 - Coffee. Lots and lots of coffee. And a chocolate or two. And music you enjoy, whether it is Brahms, Metallica, or Ke$ha. No news. No controversial talk shows (they rile you up no matter which side you are on).

Oh, and you may need a vacation during which you will resist the temptation to check how things are going on at work.

LW2 - "Jenny dear, you are now a big girl, and it is inappropriate for you to hug and touch people who are not your family like that."

"Jerry, you old goat, somebody is going to accuse you of child molestation. Don't be afraid to hurt her feelings. You can be polite and fatherly in teaching her public manners."

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Dec 31, 2013
 

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LW2 - That kid is creepy. Talk to her mother and your husband. Put a stop to it.

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Dec 31, 2013
 
LW2 - Actually, I can see Lifetime channel movie coming out of this letter. And it does not have a good ending.

“reign in blood”

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Dec 31, 2013
 

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1- Slip a little Kahlua in your coffee. Keep a flask at your desk.

2- Utah, huh. Wouldn't happen to be flds members would you?

3- And I start every morning asking myself "How can I pzz someone off today?!"

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

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1 You can just learn to deal with it, or quit. And abby, 15 minutes every morning?? She better be at work 15 minutes early for that cause the boss is not paying her to practice yoga, she is paid to do a job.
Personally I think you need to figure out how to be excited about you job and consider them challenges, not problems.

2 I noticed that you did not mention the girls father at all. Maybe she is acting out on that? How about you start acting like the christian you profess yourself to be?

3 Well wayne, if you ask yourself that while still lying in bed, its pretty easy to do that aint it? Now try doing that in the checkout line.

“The two baby belly, please!”

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Dec 31, 2013
 

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LW1: If you get up so early, try leaving for work early too. Less people to get in your way and irritate you. Or public transportation, then you can get irritated by rude people and offensive body odors, but they're easier to ignore than other cars on the road.

And perhaps talk to your supevisors about the "some emergency that is plopped in my lap" problem you seem to be having. Perhaps it's something that can be fixed or at least mitigated.

LW2: So you see the girl, what, once maybe twice a week? For the few minutes that you have to interact with this, may I remind you, child, you need stop seeing her as some sexual threat. When she said "he's mine" you know that is patently false, so why do you even let it get to you?

LW3: And now I'm thinking "what can I think about that will stop me from puking?"

“I Am Mine”

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Dec 31, 2013
 
RACE wrote:
1 You can just learn to deal with it, or quit. And abby, 15 minutes every morning?? She better be at work 15 minutes early for that cause the boss is not paying her to practice yoga, she is paid to do a job.
Personally I think you need to figure out how to be excited about you job and consider them challenges, not problems.
2 I noticed tha´t you did not mention the girls father at all. Maybe she is acting out on that? How about you start acting like the christian you profess yourself to be?
3 Well wayne, if you ask yourself that while still lying in bed, its pretty easy to do that aint it? Now try doing that in the checkout line.
lw1: and how many office jobs involving a computer can you do any work without turning your computer on? Abby's pretty much telling her to slack off for 15 minutes

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Neda, stay with me!

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Exactly! Wish I could slack off for 15 minutes every day. Maybe post some drivel on some online forum or something....
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<quoted text> lw1: and how many office jobs involving a computer can you do any work without turning your computer on? Abby's pretty much telling her to slack off for 15 minutes

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Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> lw1: and how many office jobs involving a computer can you do any work without turning your computer on? Abby's pretty much telling her to slack off for 15 minutes
It would be OK if she got to work 15 minutes early.

And I do most of my work on the computer, but I still have non-computer jobs that still need to get done. Filing, copier/printer maintenance, filing. She could potentially do stuff like that first thing in the morning, but you know she won't. She's gotta get on topix!

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