Is a 20 yr old REALLY all that more mature than an 18 year old? Problem is, I see it as the same thing. I got the impression the neighbor was "sniffing up" these boys' trees. And in the original letter, it didn't sound like the kids were refusing these gifts. Maybe they were naive and clueless... but isn't that the problem? Do you REALLY think their parent should back off and MYOB? JUST because they're 19 and 20?Oh I don't know, how about an 18yo(barely) girl may or may not be able to handle a guy trying to seduce her. A 20yo man probably could manage to refuse a gift from someone if he were so inclined. Not quite the same thing IMO.
"If the kid is 18 and a girl, then yeah the parent should jump in. But if it's a 20 year old guy, then the parent should butthefuckout." That your argument? Because it sounds pretty weak.