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#42 Jul 9, 2013
j_m_w wrote:
<quoted text>
Some men DON'T like it when a woman picks up the tab, at least not that frequently. Just saying.
Especially on a first date. I'd say you are a complete doofus if you let the woman buy your meal for you.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#43 Jul 9, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>
Human dignity and equality. Note: NOT SAMENESS, equality under the law and treated as fully functioning adults with their own agency and not the property, wards, or semi-literate airheads of the patriarchy.
That's quite a mouth-full. I'll stick with women's lib.

Now fetch me a beer and get me a clean shirt. And dinner better be ready in an hour.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

French Polynesia

#44 Jul 9, 2013
I like simple, inexpensive dates the most.
It puts people on equal footing and lowers some expectations, I think.
But yeah, I get treated regularly. Even when I insist that I pay it is often to no avail, so I don't make much of a fuss anymore.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#45 Jul 9, 2013
Cherish is the word I use to describe.....

love that song.
Kuuipo wrote:
<quoted text>
I like to be treated with respect and cherished.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#46 Jul 9, 2013
What about online dating? The first date is supposed to be a meet and greet thing. I dont mind paying for a couple of drinks and an appetizer, but I think its crazy to expect me to pay for a full meal and a bottle of wine for a woman that I may or not want to see again.
Thats why in those instances it's always a lunch date. I aint blowing $100 on anybody I only just met.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#47 Jul 9, 2013
RACE wrote:
Cherish is the word I use to describe.....
love that song.
<quoted text>
Summer of, what, 1966? The Association.(My once and future ex-husband probably still hates that song as well as Windy and Along Comes Mary...)Saw them in concert at Arie Crown theater- the one before it burned.

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#48 Jul 9, 2013
RACE wrote:
Cherish is the word I use to describe.....
love that song.
<quoted text>
Dude!!!! Edog and I are going to have to come down and confiscate your man card if you keep talking like that.

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#49 Jul 9, 2013
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>
Summer of, what, 1966? The Association.(My once and future ex-husband probably still hates that song as well as Windy and Along Comes Mary...)Saw them in concert at Arie Crown theater- the one before it burned.
LOL ... I thought he was talking about the Madonna version of that song.

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#50 Jul 9, 2013
RACE wrote:
What about online dating? The first date is supposed to be a meet and greet thing. I dont mind paying for a couple of drinks and an appetizer, but I think its crazy to expect me to pay for a full meal and a bottle of wine for a woman that I may or not want to see again.
Thats why in those instances it's always a lunch date. I aint blowing $100 on anybody I only just met.
If I were single, Im not the type of person who would be going out with a ton of women, I dont think. Id just date as many as it took until I found one I liked enough to give it a go with.

Under such a situation, I wouldnt have a problem blowing $100 bucks on a few duds on my way to finding one Id like try making a LTR work with. Id consider it money well spent, in fact.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#51 Jul 9, 2013
$100 of a few duds, or $100 for each dud?
I can tell withing 15 minutes whether I am clicking with someone. Even if its a subtle adversarial date (which I have had a few of and are exciting)
But when you know your going to spend the rest of the date pretending you are interested, your meal is a bust anyway, so its like throwing money away.

Nope, meet for lunch, order a chicken cesear salad and if it works out, get a real meal on the next date.
Sublime1 wrote:
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If I were single, Im not the type of person who would be going out with a ton of women, I dont think. Id just date as many as it took until I found one I liked enough to give it a go with.
Under such a situation, I wouldnt have a problem blowing $100 bucks on a few duds on my way to finding one Id like try making a LTR work with. Id consider it money well spent, in fact.

“What's it to ya?”

Since: Mar 09

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#52 Jul 9, 2013
RACE wrote:
What about online dating? The first date is supposed to be a meet and greet thing. I dont mind paying for a couple of drinks and an appetizer, but I think its crazy to expect me to pay for a full meal and a bottle of wine for a woman that I may or not want to see again.
Thats why in those instances it's always a lunch date. I aint blowing $100 on anybody I only just met.
Dude I am not coming to FL without the promise of grilled rib eye, crab or lobster, mango salad and a nice wine. J/S

Oh and a moonlight ride on the boat. <nod nod>
Steve

United States

#53 Jul 9, 2013
Sublime1 wrote:
<quoted text>
Dude!!!! Edog and I are going to have to come down and confiscate your man card if you keep talking like that.
Funny.

Since: Jan 10

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#54 Jul 10, 2013
RACE wrote:
Cherish is the word I use to describe.....
love that song.
<quoted text>
By The Association! I love it, too!

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#55 Jul 10, 2013
You are no blind date Missy! You are just the woman I have not had a date with yet. Oh, and the boat is back in action. Just $100 plastic hose.
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Dude I am not coming to FL without the promise of grilled rib eye, crab or lobster, mango salad and a nice wine. J/S
Oh and a moonlight ride on the boat. <nod nod>

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#56 Jul 10, 2013
Oh...And I Promise!
Mimi Seattle wrote:
<quoted text>
Dude I am not coming to FL without the promise of grilled rib eye, crab or lobster, mango salad and a nice wine. J/S
Oh and a moonlight ride on the boat. <nod nod>
Pippa

Hancock, NY

#57 Jul 10, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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The women's lib movement won't be too happy about this.
.

I agree but you don't mention any of the reasons. Men often in the past felt that paying for a date (meal, movie, dancing, whatever) gave him the right to have sex (or at least sexual activity - "necking," "fooling around"). A woman's paying for some of the dates shows reciprocity and removes the "right" some men were looking for. Of course nowadays, both men AND women seem to think that a "date" means having sex. How sad. Of course there are other reasons that others could explain better than I; this is just one I feel is important.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#58 Jul 10, 2013
I had no idea madonna did a cover of it.
Guess I am showing my age again.
Sublime1 wrote:
<quoted text>
LOL ... I thought he was talking about the Madonna version of that song.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#59 Jul 10, 2013
Pippa wrote:
<quoted text>.
I agree but you don't mention any of the reasons. Men often in the past felt that paying for a date (meal, movie, dancing, whatever) gave him the right to have sex (or at least sexual activity - "necking," "fooling around"). A woman's paying for some of the dates shows reciprocity and removes the "right" some men were looking for. Of course nowadays, both men AND women seem to think that a "date" means having sex. How sad. Of course there are other reasons that others could explain better than I; this is just one I feel is important.
Glad to see you again, Pip. But I just disagree with this. I think it's more about chivalry and not sex.

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#60 Jul 10, 2013
RACE wrote:
Even if its a subtle adversarial date (which I have had a few of and are exciting)<quoted text>
I hope "subtly adversarial" doesn't involve chloroform, lol.
RACE wrote:
Nope, meet for lunch, order a chicken cesear salad and if it works out, get a real meal on the next date.
<quoted text>
I don't think that's a bad idea, either. My comments were mostly directed to who pays. I think if you both wanna do lunch or something light, that's fine too.

Since: Aug 08

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#61 Jul 10, 2013
Pippa wrote:
<quoted text>.
I agree but you don't mention any of the reasons. Men often in the past felt that paying for a date (meal, movie, dancing, whatever) gave him the right to have sex (or at least sexual activity - "necking," "fooling around"). A woman's paying for some of the dates shows reciprocity and removes the "right" some men were looking for. Of course nowadays, both men AND women seem to think that a "date" means having sex. How sad. Of course there are other reasons that others could explain better than I; this is just one I feel is important.
I disagree. I don't think most guys today expect sex if they take a woman out on a first date to dinner and pay for it. I also don't think everyone is looking to hook up on the first meet, either. Sometimes it may happen, but it's not the norm.

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