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Mar 21, 2013
 
DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old daughter became pregnant from a guy she had dated only a few months, but never seriously. After weeks of wondering what she was going to do, she decided that terminating her pregnancy was the best thing to do considering she has limited income and still lives with me. I, however, am pro-life, although I do feel that in cases of rape or incest it is acceptable. My daughter knows how I feel about this. I supported her in her decision, but did not agree with it.

Abby, I have taken this really hard. I have cried every day since she had the abortion, and I'm torturing myself thinking this is my fault because I went against everything I believe in when I supported her in her decision.

Why am I beating myself up about this? Is it because she's my daughter, because I am pro-life or both? How can I stop blaming myself for her decision?-- TORTURED IN THE SOUTH

DEAR TORTURED: The decision about whether or not to terminate the pregnancy wasn't yours to make; it was your daughter's. Being pro-life, you have your own convictions, but you acted as a loving parent should -- you supported your child. If you feel you could benefit from counseling to help you through this, ask your doctor for a referral.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are having a disagreement and I'm wondering if you could weigh in. We keep a handgun hidden in a locked safe in our bedroom.(An access code is required to open it.) We also have a 1 1/2-year-old daughter.

On the recommendations of a co-worker, we recently hired a baby sitter whom we used for an evening while we attended a party. She seemed like a nice young lady.

My problem is, when she arrived, my husband immediately announced that we had a gun upstairs. He felt it was her "right" to know. I think, because the gun isn't accessible, the information was useless to her and actually may have put our family in danger. How do we know she won't mention it to someone who will target us for a break-in in order to steal it?

To me, having a (secured) firearm in our house is no one else's business but ours. What do you think?-- NOT THE WILD WEST

DEAR NOT THE WILD WEST: I think you are correct. This is a subject that should have been discussed before the young woman was hired. Your husband exhibited poor judgment by sharing what should have been confidential information.

DEAR ABBY: My colleagues and I are concerned about a close friend and co-worker. He insists that it's not against the law to read books while driving. He says he does it only on highways because everyone is going the same speed and direction and you only need peripheral vision.

In every other aspect of his life, this man follows the rules to the letter and is a highly respected teacher. Is it true that this is legal?-- CONCERNED IN OHIO

DEAR CONCERNED: Of course not! A distracted driver who is reading books is at least as dangerous as one who is eating, texting, applying makeup, shaving or talking on a cellphone. This "highly respected" teacher doesn't have my respect; he's a menace on the highway.

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LW1: "I'm torturing myself thinking this is my fault because I went against everything I believe in when I supported her in her decision."

Key words: "Her decision".

LW2: I agree with LW.

LW3: He's an f'n moron. Worse than a drunk, because he arrived at this opinion with a clear head. At least the drunks have alcohol to blame.

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L1: Way to go, you killed your grandbaby, NotGrandma.

L2: If I were, yanno, 15 year old babysitter me, I'd kind of be freaked out with that information.

L3: Please don't live near me or near anyone I care about. Please don't live near me or near anyone I care about. Please don't live near me or near anyone I care about. Please don't live near me or near anyone I care about. Please don't live near me or near anyone I care about.

“Derecho”

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1- The abortion thing is just misplaced. What you're *really* upset about is raising a wh0 re.

2- Your husband is an idiot. You don't broadcast to people you own a gun. That's a good way to get burglarized. This is the same reason SMART people are opposed to gun registries. It is nobody's business what kind and how many guns I might or might not own.

3- "Is it true that this is legal?"

THESE are the people who are voting. No wonder we're going down the drain.

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L2: If I were, yanno, 15 year old babysitter me, I'd kind of be freaked out with that information.
Why? A 1 1/2 year old should not be out of your site while you are baby sitting. A 1 1/2 year old certainly has no chance of running up the stairs without you knowing. The gun is not going to walk downstairs and shoot you.

“The two baby belly, please!”

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LW1: You are mourning the loss of the idea of a grandbaby. It will take time but it will pass.

LW2: What Matilda said.

LW3: Proof that you can be really smart and really stupid all at the same time.

Should they call the cops on him?

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L1: What Abby said.

L2: If I was the babysitter I'd be freaked out. I'd be wondering why the hell he is telling me this and, OMG I hope this idiot is somewhat stable. There's been enough freaks in this world that kill their whole family to make you wonder.

L3: Having books smarts doesn't mean you are wise.

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LW1: Itís not your choice to make. Accept this.

LW2: Not sure why he would mention something that you have in a locked safe. Not sure why you are overly concerned that someone would risk breaking into a house where they know the people are armed to steal their gun.

LW3: I donít know how you could do that for any length of time and not get in an accident. Are you sure heís not jerking your chain?

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L3. Holy Smoke. What a dope.
Common sense and the law do not necessarily go hand-in-habd. Multi-tasking while driving is not recommended and it is only a matter of time before he rear-ends someone and winds up in the hospital with whiplash, immobilized in a cervical collar and strapped to a backboard.
Sometimes when people find themselves in those situations there is no refusing medical evaluation and treatment, despite what the law says.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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1 Nice way for amby to NOT berate anyone for not using birth control.

2 Your husband is an idiot. Did he also feel the need to tell the sitter that there was jewelry and cash in there as well?

3 Proof that idiots can get teaching degrees too!

“FD&S is no way to be.”

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Mar 21, 2013
 
1. Because you're more concerned with how this makes you look and feel than with what your daughter wanted and what was best for her in her situation.

BTW Race, nice conclusion with no support. You do know that pregnancies still occur even when people use birth control, right?

2. Zero point in mentioning it. Zero.

3. I hope your idiot colleague doesn't take anyone else with him when he has his accident. I don't know what state you're in, but IL law provides:

"(a) A person commits distracted driving when he or she operates a motor vehicle while (i) engaging in text messaging,(ii) reading a newspaper, book, magazine, or map,(iii) applying make-up, or (iv) changing clothes or tying a tie, and the operation of the motor vehicle is in violation of a law or ordinance governing the movement of vehicles.

Plus, something doesn't have to be explicitly illegal to be exceedingly stupid.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
LW1. Unfortunately not your choice. We can only give our children the tools to make informed decisions and Love them, even, when we think they aren't doing that.

LW2. If she didn't have access and she's not allowed to use it in emergencies .. then don't mention it.

LW3. No other way to say it ...he's an idiot.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Toj wrote:
L2: If I was the babysitter I'd be freaked out. I'd be wondering why the hell he is telling me this and, OMG I hope this idiot is somewhat stable. There's been enough freaks in this world that kill their whole family to make you wonder.
That would SERIOUSLY be your thought process?? I'm with tonka, I can't understand why that knowlege would freak you, squish, and matilda out. But I'm also gonna guess all three of you are anti-gun nuts. Goes to show you how irrational your fears are.

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My 22-year-old daughter became pregnant from a guy she had dated only a few months, but never seriously.

Yeah sam, that sounds like a woman who used every available form of BC and probably still had the guy double bag it, but somehow this miracle child was conceived.

Your showing your stupid early today.

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Mar 21, 2013
 
Sublime1 wrote:
Not sure why you are overly concerned that someone would risk breaking into a house where they know the people are armed to steal their gun.
That's why they break in when nobody's home.

“FD&S is no way to be.”

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RACE wrote:
My 22-year-old daughter became pregnant from a guy she had dated only a few months, but never seriously.
Yeah sam, that sounds like a woman who used every available form of BC and probably still had the guy double bag it, but somehow this miracle child was conceived.
Your showing your stupid early today.
Is that what youused to do? Have the girl use the pill, an IUD and a diaphram and you double-bagged it?

You're showing your jackass early today.

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Only with the women who I thought might get pregnant. Broads like yourself I was not worried about because witches cant bear children.

Why are you so interested in my sex life anyway?
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
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Is that what youused to do? Have the girl use the pill, an IUD and a diaphram and you double-bagged it?
You're showing your jackass early today.

“The two baby belly, please!”

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That would SERIOUSLY be your thought process?? I'm with tonka, I can't understand why that knowlege would freak you, squish, and matilda out. But I'm also gonna guess all three of you are anti-gun nuts. Goes to show you how irrational your fears are.
You have no idea what I think.

Can't you just stop with "I don't understand?"

“FD&S is no way to be.”

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RACE wrote:
Only with the women who I thought might get pregnant. Broads like yourself I was not worried about because witches cant bear children.
Why are you so interested in my sex life anyway?
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Only with women you thought might get pregnant? And how in the heck did you make that distinction? You're a gyno? That is absolutely retarded.

And believe me, I am not "interested" in anything having to do with you trying to shove that pathetic skin flap inside some poor victim. But you made the ridiculous assertion that the LW hadn't used birth control, then went on to say how she obviously hadn't used every possible form, and...wait, I guess I didn't need to say anything. Your statement was moronic on its face. Never mind.

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edogxxx wrote:
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That's why they break in when nobody's home.
Are they going to enlist a safe-cracker too? All for a stupid handgun?

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