BS. They can be disciplined, and they should, from as early an age as other children. Their mental/emotional age.<quoted text>You can't really discipline a person with Down's syndrome, but you can take them away from the area and engage them in something else when the really important parts of the wedding are taking place, that way everyone can enjoy the wedding and to co-operative effort in taking care of the cousin will draw the family closer together rather than creating a gap and leaving the parents of the cousin on an island.
The parents put themselves on that island, they need to put some work in getting off it. I'll just bet that any time anyone said anything about his behaviour when it WAS controllable and he was small, it was ignored, or they spouted off the same crap as above.
Nope. Not buying it. I'm there, and I see how well behaved adults with DS and other cognitive disabilities can be.
I've seen adult kids and parents like those the LW describes, too, and they're usually there because they just couldn't bear to tell little Johnny "no", because "he has so many other problems".
Yeah, the biggest being parents who won't parent.