PEllen

Chicago, IL

#21 Oct 23, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
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My town, I think, is from 6-8. I think that's too short.
We plan our meal around it. I do something easy, like crock pot chili and we usually end up eating on the landing right inside the door while we put the glow stick necklaces together.
Chicken cacciatore. Best compliment I ever got was when I answered the doorbell to hand out candy and this kid in a costume sniffed the kitchen smells and said that smelled good
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#22 Oct 23, 2012
1. Teach them a lesson? Yeah, that'll work. I'm sure they walked away reconsidering their view on the universe.

2. Oh my God so see a goshdarn doctor instead of asking a hack advice columnist geez you people make my head hurt.

3.
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#23 Oct 23, 2012
Sam I Am wrote:
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2. Oh my God so see a goshdarn doctor instead of asking a hack advice columnist geez you people make my head hurt.
3.
Ease up Sam-
She is 14 and may not have a regular pediatrician.
Some pediatricians won't shoo a parent out of the room for an exam even for adolescents so she might not have an opportunity to ask.
She is embarrassed and writing here is anonymous.
Clearly she didn't even know that there are treatments, much less to ask about them.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#24 Oct 23, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
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I agree, Halloween hours are a little too Big Brother. And it's inconsistent: if there are Halloween hours, there should be Girl Scout Cookie hours, etc. too.
Anyway, regarding the letter, if you don't want to deal with trick-or-treaters, go out for the night on Halloween. That's what I usually do and it's fun to go to bars and people-watch the adult costumes.
Well, it might be too Big Brother but everywhere I've lived in the last 20+ years they have had Halloween hours. If some kid comes knocking on my door before or after, I don't say anything. Usually it's a few minutes early or a half hour late. Doesn't bother me but some people do need guidelines b/c they are too stupid to use their common sense.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#25 Oct 23, 2012
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Chicken cacciatore. Best compliment I ever got was when I answered the doorbell to hand out candy and this kid in a costume sniffed the kitchen smells and said that smelled good
Mmm...that would smell good.

Frick, that would be such an easy dinner for tonight or tomorrow night. Thanks PE!

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Chicago, IL

#26 Oct 23, 2012
j_m_w wrote:
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I agree, Halloween hours are a little too Big Brother. And it's inconsistent: if there are Halloween hours, there should be Girl Scout Cookie hours, etc. too.
Seriously? Big brother? Having set hours gives you a chance to plan around then, instead of everything being willy nilly. And girl scout cookie hours? WTF is that about?
dahgts

Chicago, IL

#27 Oct 23, 2012
Hordes of teens, hordes of kids from distant neighborhoods,and baby mamas with their one year olds.

Turn off the lights and watch tv in bedroom.
Happy for the limited hours here.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#28 Oct 23, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
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Seriously? Big brother? Having set hours gives you a chance to plan around then, instead of everything being willy nilly. And girl scout cookie hours? WTF is that about?
It's unenforceable anyway and I think everyone should just be prepared that on Halloween evening, your doorbell might ring any time and if you don't like it, don't be home.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#29 Oct 23, 2012
dahgts wrote:
Hordes of teens, hordes of kids from distant neighborhoods,and baby mamas with their one year olds.
Turn off the lights and watch tv in bedroom.
Happy for the limited hours here.
I don't mind that kids come from distant neighborhoods. In fact, I'm flattered. But we looooove Halloween anyway. But yeah the "It's for the baby" parents are stupid. No it's not. It's for you. And if it is for the baby, you suck then, too. And the older kids not dressed up. You're pushing it. I trick-or-treated as an older teenager (read: 19!) but we had awesome costumes. It was a shizzy night, so people were just excited to see *anyone* out.
Community Disorganizer

Florham Park, NJ

#30 Oct 23, 2012
LW 1: One extra hour one day a year, you're an old bag.

LW 2: You think it's bad now, wait until you start drinking.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#31 Oct 23, 2012
Set trick ot treating hours? That's craziness!!!

I still can't get used to kids not trick or treating till dark. I think that's lame, too.

Generally, it seems we stop getting callers around 9 here.

LW1 is a beyotch.
Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#32 Oct 23, 2012
LW1: No, you didn't. It's Halloween. You either turn the lights out and don't participate, or turn the lights on and hand out candy. You don't send kids away.

LW2: Abby is right. You have a treatable medical condition and you need to see a doctor.

LW3: What RWG said. The Down's syndrome kids and adults that I've met have been very sweet, kind, and well-mannered. He has other issues. Proper discipline from his parents early on would have helped. The next letter to Abby will come from them complaining that their cousin didn't invite them to the wedding because their son has Down's syndrome. Wait for it.
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#33 Oct 23, 2012
PEllen wrote:
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Ease up Sam-
She is 14 and may not have a regular pediatrician.
Some pediatricians won't shoo a parent out of the room for an exam even for adolescents so she might not have an opportunity to ask.
She is embarrassed and writing here is anonymous.
Clearly she didn't even know that there are treatments, much less to ask about them.
She's old enough to know, or at least learn, that Abby is not where to go for medical advice.

“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#34 Oct 23, 2012
LW1 - turn off the lights in the front of hte house until you're "ready" for trick or treaters. it was even dumber of you to open the door and tell the kids to come back later... our frontroom light is on a timer until about 11, so we pull teh plug on it wehn we "give up" on it. i have no idea how many kids to expect; the weather has been all over the place since we moved in.

LW3 - treat this cousin as you would any other person you don't want invited. we drew jerrymandered boundaries after the fact when i didn't want one particular cousin at my weddign. since then, he's calmed down (once, before hte wedding, he was still climbing the washer when he already had a broken arm) and grown into a wonderful & thoughtful young man. The person in question in LW3 is beyond that stage though it seems.

“Surfs up!”

Since: May 11

Location hidden

#35 Oct 23, 2012
L1: Bah humbug on you! It's a day of catering to the trick or treaters not catering to your schedule. Either find a way to enjoy the day or turn off the light and do your own thing.

L2: Please see a urologist if your pediatrician has no solution.

L3: If your family can't band together at these functions to support your cousin then I suggest you spend some time with someone with down's syndrome and see for yourself how hard it is to take care of someone afflicted with this disease.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#36 Oct 23, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
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Having set hours gives you a chance to plan around then, instead of everything being willy nilly.
It's called turn off your lights and don't answer the door, then. Just cause some folks are modern day scrooges, doesn't mean they should get to ruin it for everyone else.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#37 Oct 23, 2012
Maverick 808 wrote:
L2: Please see a urologist if your pediatrician has no solution.
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Excellent suggestion.

Now consider that you are 14. Did you even know there were doctors who specialize in problems peeing?
Would you know where to find one?
How would you pay?
What would you do when teh urologist says he/she can't tret you unless your mom gives written permission.

At 14 she has 2 options: her parents as a gatekeeper or a school nurse. When you were 14 (or younger) would you have gone to the school nurse if this was you?

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#38 Oct 23, 2012
I didn't read it as lack of empathy for the cousin, but rather the way the parents have a total hands off approach in dealing with his tantrums. The lw could have been talking about any unruly child that the parents did not attempt to discipline. And by discipline, I am not talking about punishment or time out, rather finding ways to keep the child entertained and engaged without letting them run amok.
Maverick 808 wrote:
L3: If your family can't band together at these functions to support your cousin then I suggest you spend some time with someone with down's syndrome and see for yourself how hard it is to take care of someone afflicted with this disease.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#39 Oct 23, 2012
PEllen wrote:
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Excellent suggestion.
Now consider that you are 14. Did you even know there were doctors who specialize in problems peeing?
Would you know where to find one?
How would you pay?
What would you do when teh urologist says he/she can't tret you unless your mom gives written permission.
At 14 she has 2 options: her parents as a gatekeeper or a school nurse. When you were 14 (or younger) would you have gone to the school nurse if this was you?
Kids have Google nowdays. She should use WebMD and come to the conclusion that she has stage 4 terminal cancer, like I do every time I have any sort of weird symptom.

“Surfs up!”

Since: May 11

Location hidden

#40 Oct 23, 2012
PEllen wrote:
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Excellent suggestion.
Now consider that you are 14. Did you even know there were doctors who specialize in problems peeing?
Perhaps not but her parents should know.
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>Would you know where to find one?
Usually your doctor can recommend one or you can look for a specialist in your area.
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>How would you pay?
Medical Insurance would cover most if not all of it if it were a referral. Other than that they would have to consult with whoever does the billing.
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>What would you do when teh urologist says he/she can't tret you unless your mom gives written permission.
She is a minor, no doctor can treat her without parental / guardian permission.
PEllen wrote:
<quoted text>At 14 she has 2 options: her parents as a gatekeeper or a school nurse. When you were 14 (or younger) would you have gone to the school nurse if this was you?
A school nurse should recommend to the parents/guardian that the child should be taken to her pediatrician and not treat the child at the school.

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