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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

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Oct 23, 2012
 
DEAR ABBY: Since Halloween is nearly here, I have a question about trick-or-treating. Last year on Halloween I was sitting down for an early dinner that was planned for 5 p.m. so we wouldn't be disturbed by trick-or-treaters.

Suddenly the doorbell rang. When I answered, I was bombarded with requests for candy from three boys who live down the street. It was still light outside.

I told them to come back later, when I wasn't eating dinner. I wanted to teach them that they shouldn't overextend the holiday and disrupt other people's lives. An hour later I received a call from the boys' mother scolding me for sending them away.

I was just trying to get a bit of peace and quiet before the festivities. Was I wrong not to give them candy and ask them to come back later?-- TREAT CHEATER IN CONCORD, CALIF.

DEAR TREAT CHEATER: I think so. The boys' mother may not have wanted them out after dark, which is why she started them on their rounds early. Halloween is the day for trick-or-treating, and part of the "treat" is seeing the children's excitement and their costumes. To have expected peace and quiet with kids in the neighborhood was unrealistic. Think back to your own childhood and, when the doorbell rings, answer it and be welcoming.

DEAR ABBY: I am a 14-year-old girl and still wet the bed. I have tried to stop, but it doesn't do any good. Some of my family members know about my situation, but none of my friends do. I'm not sure how to stop because I have tried not drinking anything two hours before I go to bed, but wake up every three hours to use the bathroom.-- EMBARRASSED IN HOUSTON

DEAR EMBARRASSED: If your pediatrician doesn't know about your problem, he or she should be told so you can be examined to make sure there is nothing physically wrong with you. There are medications that can help you overcome your problem. There are also devices called bedwetting alarms that can solve the problem. To find out more about them, search for "bedwetting alarm" on Google.

DEAR ABBY: We have two family weddings coming up soon. One of our cousins has Down syndrome, among other medical problems. He's a grown man, but he has the mental capacity and manners of a 7-year-old. His parents don't discipline him and he is out of control. He screams and talks loudly and will jump around on the dance floor and run into couples while they are trying to dance. His parents bring him to special occasions, even when it's "adults only."

The upcoming weddings will have receptions afterward and adult-only dances. Don't his parents have any common sense? This family has the attitude that if he isn't invited, then they won't go. I have reached the point that it is fine with me. How do we make it clear that he is not welcome? It would be a shame to pay thousands of dollars for a wedding and have it ruined by his behavior. Most people probably won't understand my point of view. What do you think?-- NERVOUS IN UTAH

DEAR NERVOUS: Regardless of your cousin's age, because of his parents' inability to control his behavior he should not be invited to the weddings. Because they have the attitude that if he is not invited they won't go, that's their choice. Make your wishes clear, and your problem will be solved.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

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Oct 23, 2012
 
1- I think the Halloween hours around here are between 4 and 7. You sound like a Halloween Scrooge.

2- There's a pill for that?

3- Abby's advice only works assuming you're in control of the guest list.

Toj

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Since: Jul 12

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Oct 23, 2012
 
L1: Most towns do have Halloween hours. Personally, I don't mind the early trick-or-treaters, it's the after hours crew that drives me nuts who are usually older and not as cute.

L2: Wow, that'll hurt your self esteem. Yes, go see a doctor.

L3: Gotta go with the Dog. You can't control anything but your own guest list. If you're a guest you need to suck it up and be gracious or not go when he's there. You might want to ask the parents what you can do to make him more comfortable if you're feeling generous.

“...,to wit”

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Oct 23, 2012
 
edogxxx wrote:
1- I think the Halloween hours around here are between 4 and 7. You sound like a Halloween Scrooge.
2- There's a pill for that?
3- Abby's advice only works assuming you're in control of the guest list.
1 around here, if your porch light is off, the kids will not ring the bell.
2. yes, and I believe there is a nose spray method of administration as well
3agree

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

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Oct 23, 2012
 
LW1: You sound like a grumpy old pain in the ass.

LW3: "This family has the attitude that if he isn't invited, then they won't go. I have reached the point that it is fine with me."
And the problem is what?

"How do we make it clear that he is not welcome?" Use your words.

You want a wave a magic wand and have them leave him at home and have no hard feelings for you. Keep dreaming. You can't control other people's behavior or their emotions. You have a right to feel hoe you feel about not wanting him there. They have a right to feel differently. SO what's more inportant to you? Not being the bad guy or having a problem free wedding?

“I Am Mine”

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Oct 23, 2012
 
edogxxx wrote:
3- Abby's advice only works assuming you're in control of the guest list.
This is a great point. The letter started out with me assuming she was a guest, then ended with her speaking as if it were her wedding. But you're right. She never actually says its her wedding. So it could be that she is just another guest and it bothers her when Corky creates havoc. Too f'n bad. If the B&G don't have a problem with Corky, shut your pie hole.

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Oct 23, 2012
 
Toj wrote:
Most towns do have Halloween hours.
I think this came up last year, but it just seems strange to me. As if there is some government agency enforcing when kids can go knock on doors.

“I Am Mine”

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Oct 23, 2012
 
PEllen wrote:
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1 around here, if your porch light is off, the kids will not ring the bell.
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I think that's an universal unwritten rule.

Since: Mar 09

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Oct 23, 2012
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
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I think this came up last year, but it just seems strange to me. As if there is some government agency enforcing when kids can go knock on doors.
I agree, Halloween hours are a little too Big Brother. And it's inconsistent: if there are Halloween hours, there should be Girl Scout Cookie hours, etc. too.

Anyway, regarding the letter, if you don't want to deal with trick-or-treaters, go out for the night on Halloween. That's what I usually do and it's fun to go to bars and people-watch the adult costumes.

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Oct 23, 2012
 
L1:'The boys' mother may not have wanted them out after dark" RETARDED. It's dark early on October 31. And trick or treating should be done in the dark, not the daylight.

Des Moines, Iowa does trick or treating on October 30. STUPID STUPID STUPID.

personally, I"m done with handing out candy. Here in MN, it gets COLD (and usually rainy) on 10/31, and after 20 minutes, it's no longer fun.

L2: Research has found that many to most bed wetters do so because they are constipated. Tell your parents you want to see a pediatrician about this.

L3: He likely has autism or some other issue adding to his Down syndrome (which is a common combination), because of the people I've known with developmental disabilities (including playing on a softball team--they threw tantrums like they were 2 years old), the Down syndrome people seem to be more highly functioning than many others.

Since: Mar 09

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Oct 23, 2012
 
L2: If your parents know about this and haven't talked to your doctor, they are dropping the ball big-time. Some kids/people sleep so deeply that the "I have to pee" signal doesn't break through and wake them up and it can just be a matter of training your body.

L3: What edog & Tonka said. Heh... Corky.

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Oct 23, 2012
 
Toj wrote:
L1: Most towns do have Halloween hours. Personally, I don't mind the early trick-or-treaters, it's the after hours crew that drives me nuts who are usually older and not as cute.
And they're usually costume-free.

Nick's youngest will be spiderman, and his 10yo is going to be a baseball player (my suggestion, since he has his uniform from this summer)... but he wants to be a zombie baseball player ! Nice job, kid! Dad bought makeup and will practice on the kid this weekend.

“Licensed to Ill”

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Oct 23, 2012
 

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LW1: Oh poor wittle you Ö having to get off your a$s for 25 seconds, answer the door, and hand out some candy. What a huge inconvenience. I donít know how you even managed. I suggest you seek therapy to help you process this and recover from this disturbing episode.

LW2: Dr.

LW3: I would just send an invite for them and let them decide if just they want to come.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

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Oct 23, 2012
 

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1 You do know that if you dont provide a treat, you are asking for the trick....You are gonna get so egged.

2 Well, that blows. have you tried masturbating?

3 unless it's your wedding, deal.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

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Oct 23, 2012
 
L1: Halloween: ur doin it rong.

L2: On the plus side, I bet you're really good at doing your own laundry.

L3: What...everyone else said.
pde

Schaumburg, IL

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#16
Oct 23, 2012
 
Where is 5pm outside trick or treating hours? Even when I was growing up in a place that didn't set hours back then, the little kids went out from 4-6pm, and the bigger kids from 6-8pm.

Our current town has set hours from 3pm-7pm.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

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Oct 23, 2012
 

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L1. You are just begging to get your house egged.
Halloween is not all about candy and treats.

“On Deck”

Since: Aug 08

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Oct 23, 2012
 
We think a lot alike, Race.
Halloween is my birthday.
lc

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

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Oct 23, 2012
 

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pde wrote:
Where is 5pm outside trick or treating hours? Even when I was growing up in a place that didn't set hours back then, the little kids went out from 4-6pm, and the bigger kids from 6-8pm.
Our current town has set hours from 3pm-7pm.
My town, I think, is from 6-8. I think that's too short.

We plan our meal around it. I do something easy, like crock pot chili and we usually end up eating on the landing right inside the door while we put the glow stick necklaces together.
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Oct 23, 2012
 

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Matilda77 wrote:
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My town, I think, is from 6-8. I think that's too short.
We plan our meal around it. I do something easy, like crock pot chili and we usually end up eating on the landing right inside the door while we put the glow stick necklaces together.
Yea, that's too short.

Growing up, I used to supervise my younger sibs trick-or-treating soon after school, return them safely home, then go out with my friends in the early evening. That's how everybody did it. The little kindergarteners don't need to be out with the big kids. And it was milestone of growing up to get to the point of going out later with the big kids.

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