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“I Am Mine”

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#61 Jun 14, 2013
Cass wrote:
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Yep. Absolutely. Even though he is not a teen,
He was when the first twilight movie came out and the craze began.

“I Am Mine”

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#62 Jun 14, 2013
Cass wrote:
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Yep. Absolutely. Even though he is not a teen, he is not much past his teen years, and he looks, like, 14.
This guy in the picture is doing something right.

http://www.scienceworldreport.com/articles/75...

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#63 Jun 14, 2013
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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I get that. My parents never did that with me either and I resented it immensely. I got married 2 months after I turned 17. At that point I thought I was an adult (read: thought) and I was making my way in the world, had my own home (apartment) and so didn't feel that they had any place being in my business.
When Chris was turning 18, I wanted to make sure he knew that I respected his autonomy, even though he was still dependent and at least *I* knew he wasn't really all grown up. I also knew that some things (like medical and Soc. Sec....) wouldn't talk to me without his say so and I knew I would need him to either start taking care of it on his own (so I would educate him if need be) or just tell them to let me keep taking care of it until he was old enough to understand it better and take over for himself. <shrug>
For the record I did take the time between 18 and (almost) 23 to teach him because he really needed to take care of things on his own, but I still did the lions share for him because he preferred it that way. Good? Bad? I don't know, then again he killed spiders for me even though I knew how to do it myself.
Younger daughter is 23 and she definitely needs to be coached on real life things. I had one of those conversations with her this morning as it turns out. On "business" type things, I expect that will go on for a while yet.

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#64 Jun 14, 2013
PEllen wrote:
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Younger daughter is 23 and she definitely needs to be coached on real life things. I had one of those conversations with her this morning as it turns out. On "business" type things, I expect that will go on for a while yet.
I pretty much had it down by that age, but I'd been on my own a long time by then and could never rely on my parents to help out so I *had* to learn. I think most kids that age don't have a whole lot of experience dealing with business type aspects of life and can use some coaching.

Otherwise it can feel overwhelming and like you're kind of lost at sea (I still feel that way) and when you have no one to turn to for help, direction, advice, it really really really blows.

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#65 Jun 14, 2013
I got married at 19. My husband was 21. I was till in college and he had a good full time job as a TV engineer. His parents were sensible people who I was very fond of. My mom was and is a ditz and a princess- a nice lady who brought up kids well but could never handle the practicalities of life. Somehow we figured out how to budget, pay bills, negotiate insurance and stuff like that. Me learning to cook was a stitch- the neighborhood grocery store had a real butcher shop in it. Visualize (cute, innocent/clueless) 20 year old earnestly asking the difference between a capon and a chicken and three middle aged guys in bloody aprons looking at each other to pick which one was going to explain.(Eventually they gave me one of their knives when they learned all I had was steak knives;I still have it and use it. I reciprocated by bringing my baking experiments to them. The pumpkin chiffon pie turned out good- hey ,it was 1970)

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#66 Jun 14, 2013
So...Did you ever learn to cook?
PEllen wrote:
I got married at 19. My husband was 21. I was till in college and he had a good full time job as a TV engineer. His parents were sensible people who I was very fond of. My mom was and is a ditz and a princess- a nice lady who brought up kids well but could never handle the practicalities of life. Somehow we figured out how to budget, pay bills, negotiate insurance and stuff like that. Me learning to cook was a stitch- the neighborhood grocery store had a real butcher shop in it. Visualize (cute, innocent/clueless) 20 year old earnestly asking the difference between a capon and a chicken and three middle aged guys in bloody aprons looking at each other to pick which one was going to explain.(Eventually they gave me one of their knives when they learned all I had was steak knives;I still have it and use it. I reciprocated by bringing my baking experiments to them. The pumpkin chiffon pie turned out good- hey ,it was 1970)

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Since: Jun 09

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#67 Jun 14, 2013
RACE wrote:
So...Did you ever learn to cook?
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Well, I can make mashed potatoes.
pde

Davis Junction, IL

#68 Jun 15, 2013
PEllen wrote:
Me learning to cook was a stitch- the neighborhood grocery store had a real butcher shop in it. Visualize (cute, innocent/clueless) 20 year old earnestly asking the difference between a capon and a chicken and three middle aged guys in bloody aprons looking at each other to pick which one was going to explain.(Eventually they gave me one of their knives when they learned all I had was steak knives;I still have it and use it. I reciprocated by bringing my baking experiments to them. The pumpkin chiffon pie turned out good- hey ,it was 1970)
I have heard so many stories like this that I am very grateful that I barely remember not knowing how to bake or cook.

By the time I was eight, I was responsible for almost all the baking that went on in my mom's house (I did all the Christmas baking for example, made cookies at least once a week because my mom didn't believe in buying cookies, knew how to bake bread).

By 13, I could cook up a full dinner for my entire family and did so once a week. I also handled some of the grocery shopping because the store was in walking distance (well, if you consider a mile each way walking distance ...)
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#69 Jun 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> He was when the first twilight movie came out and the craze began.
Gawd. I've never seen any of those, and never will. Yech.
Cass

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#70 Jun 15, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>This guy in the picture is doing something right.
http://www.scienceworldreport.com/articles/75...
Okay, that's just vomitous - to me.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#71 Jun 15, 2013
LW1: Honey, you're 18--you don't need your prudish mother's consent to get this potentially life-saving vaccination. Grow up. And btw, your mother is making it abundantly clear that she puts her moralistic views ahead of your HEALTH.
LW2: Geez, I can't imagine why your son calls another woman "ma," you controlling, manipulative btch <rolling eyes>
Julie

Chicago, IL

#72 Jun 15, 2013
LW1: Oh, and p.s., LW, since you seem very naive and uninformed--if your Dr. tells your mother--without your consent--that he has given you this vaccine, he can be disbarred under Federal HIIPA regulations (look it up).
Good luck to you with your overbearing, judgmental mother. Sounds like you're going to need it for the rest of your life.

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