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Toj

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#41
Jun 14, 2013
 
Kuuipo wrote:
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My boyfriend and I were walking down the wharf last weekend and there were a group of older teen girls walking behind us. They were talking and giggling loudly and their conversation was inane. I can't imagine how any grown man could tolerate that long enough to get with one of them, but whatever floats your boat.
I agree with you. A 18-19 or anyone that was more than 10 years younger than me would drive me crazy. I think even 10 years, for me, is too young. 5-6 years difference either way I am comfortable with, personally.
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Jun 14, 2013
 

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I don't understand people who object to the hpv vaccine for 'moral' reasons. But then, I also don't understand people who object to other people having sex. No one is asking you to lay back and think of England, so butt out.

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#43
Jun 14, 2013
 
I remember my parents not being too thrilled to get the insurance statement from my freshman year of college when I got dangerously drunk and my friends (only slightly less drunk) took me to the ER to have me checked out.

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#44
Jun 14, 2013
 
Toj wrote:
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I agree with you. A 18-19 or anyone that was more than 10 years younger than me would drive me crazy. I think even 10 years, for me, is too young. 5-6 years difference either way I am comfortable with, personally.
I think a lot of it would depend on how old *I* was as to whether the "more than 10" years would bother me. For example, at this point, ten years younger is 40 so not a big deal, even 15 years is 35 and if they aren't a grown up who can have a conversation by 35, they are so never going to be. OTOH, 60 is still too icky for me. <shrug>

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#45
Jun 14, 2013
 
I've dated 10 years younger (me 40 him 30) and I've dated 20 years older (me 20-ish, them - 40ish). I prefer someone about 10 years older. Nick is six years younger. We all get our preferences, I just don't want to be so rigid that I rule someone really great out because he's a little beyond my age guidelines.

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mogget wrote:
I don't understand people who object to the hpv vaccine for 'moral' reasons. But then, I also don't understand people who object to other people having sex. No one is asking you to lay back and think of England, so butt out.
And even with the "moral" reasons: Do you think being moral and a virgin means your daughter won't get raped? Do you think your son will marry a virgin? Those things also can put people at risk.

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Jun 14, 2013
 
Mimi Seattle wrote:
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Really? I mean ok I get that, but when Chris turned 18,(actually about a month before) I had a talk with him telling him that he was going to be legally responsible for this kind of stuff and I wasn't going to interfere in his stuff (my mom did that...childhood issues) but anything he wanted me to still take care of for him (like dealing with Soc Sec for his dad's survivor benefits) I would do. I also told him that anything he wanted me to do, he would likely (in the case of SS and the medical people definitely yes) need to give them express permission to talk to me and tell me stuff.
He didn't want to do anything like that so really he just had to sign a couple of things that said "please tell my mom whatever she wants to know and she can make decisions for me." <shrug>
Then again, he knew he could trust me. He knew that my particular brand of crazy isn't deceptive or dangerous and that I would never take advantage of him. He also knew people who were like that (my mom...sister...etc) and so he had a really good frame of reference.
Interesting. I never had any such talk with my parents. Of course, I've never been in the habit of going to the doctor for checkups. However, I still had braces when I left for college. Any medical correspondencw tjat may have come to the house addressed to me, I would not have known or cared what my mom did with. Had she given it to me, I would likely wondered why and given it back or thrown it away. I was still a dependent, being supported by them, not working. Insurance? Not my concern(at least that would have been my mindset)

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Jun 14, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I remember my parents not being too thrilled to get the insurance statement from my freshman year of college when I got dangerously drunk and my friends (only slightly less drunk) took me to the ER to have me checked out.
There was no keeping me on their insurance after 18. After 17 actually because I got married then, so anything medical after that point was all me. Plus I'm pretty (read: VERY) private, and my mom always over reacted to everything so I wasn't sharing anything with my parents anyway. The only reason I ever told them I was pregnant was because I couldn't figure out a way around it. I mean I was married and all that (had already been for 3 years) and figured it was really not their business.<shrug>

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Jun 14, 2013
 
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When I turned 18, my mom immediately started dumping every single piece of mail addressed to me on my desk.
when i turned 18, i was already away at college.

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Jun 14, 2013
 
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
I've dated 10 years younger (me 40 him 30) and I've dated 20 years older (me 20-ish, them - 40ish). I prefer someone about 10 years older. Nick is six years younger. We all get our preferences, I just don't want to be so rigid that I rule someone really great out because he's a little beyond my age guidelines.
Well I don't apply age guidelines too strictly, it's just that 30 seems a bit too young for the most part they seem too vague intellectually and anyone too close to Christopher's (would be 26) age is too icky in that weird Oedipal way. Most 60+ have wildass eyebrows and no actualass. Yes, I am that shallow. <shrug>

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#51
Jun 14, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> Interesting. I never had any such talk with my parents. Of course, I've never been in the habit of going to the doctor for checkups. However, I still had braces when I left for college. Any medical correspondencw tjat may have come to the house addressed to me, I would not have known or cared what my mom did with. Had she given it to me, I would likely wondered why and given it back or thrown it away. I was still a dependent, being supported by them, not working. Insurance? Not my concern(at least that would have been my mindset)
I get that. My parents never did that with me either and I resented it immensely. I got married 2 months after I turned 17. At that point I thought I was an adult (read: thought) and I was making my way in the world, had my own home (apartment) and so didn't feel that they had any place being in my business.

When Chris was turning 18, I wanted to make sure he knew that I respected his autonomy, even though he was still dependent and at least *I* knew he wasn't really all grown up. I also knew that some things (like medical and Soc. Sec....) wouldn't talk to me without his say so and I knew I would need him to either start taking care of it on his own (so I would educate him if need be) or just tell them to let me keep taking care of it until he was old enough to understand it better and take over for himself. <shrug>

For the record I did take the time between 18 and (almost) 23 to teach him because he really needed to take care of things on his own, but I still did the lions share for him because he preferred it that way. Good? Bad? I don't know, then again he killed spiders for me even though I knew how to do it myself.
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#52
Jun 14, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>No, but your chief complaint seemed to be her age, not her relationship with my daughter.
<quoted text>Technically, 18 & 19 are still teens, but they ain't children. So are you just as skeeved by women hot for Taylor Lautner?
Yep. Absolutely. Even though he is not a teen, he is not much past his teen years, and he looks, like, 14.
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#53
Jun 14, 2013
 
Toj wrote:
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I agree with you. A 18-19 or anyone that was more than 10 years younger than me would drive me crazy. I think even 10 years, for me, is too young. 5-6 years difference either way I am comfortable with, personally.
I think it depends on how young a person is. I am in my mid 40s. If I were to date, a man in mid 30s wouldn't put me off. Younger than 30? Definitely not my cup of tea.

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#54
Jun 14, 2013
 
Mimi, at 45, an under-40 guy would have to stand out as being pretty special and created just for me in order for me to talk to him (onlkine dating).

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Jun 14, 2013
 
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Mimi, at 45, an under-40 guy would have to stand out as being pretty special and created just for me in order for me to talk to him (onlkine dating).
That's what I'm saying. You know who the husband is (from my Facebook) right? If not inbox me there and I'll link you. He's 35. He's gorgeous. I'm shallow. He's also smart so I *can* talk to him. I really don't think I would spend any (non physical) time with him otherwise and I certainly would not have married him. BUT, it was an individual thing---that one individual, because generally speaking, I really have noting in common with someone that young.

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My rule was never date someone younger then my oldest kid.

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Jun 14, 2013
 
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Jun 14, 2013
 
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Toj

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Jun 14, 2013
 
Since the time when my kid could read well I gave him his mail. I have never opened anything of his without him saying -- go ahead, open it.
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Jun 14, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>when i turned 18, i was already away at college.
I turned 18 during my senior year of high school.

After I went to college, she put it all in an envelop every couple of weeks and sent it.

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