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Kuuipo

Monterey, CA

#62 Mar 8, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text> It takes a special person to want to adopt older children. I applaud them. I'm not one of them. If my wife could not conceive and we turned to adoption, I highly doubt that we would be considering older children. We would want a BABY. We would want to have as close to the typical child raising experience as possible. Am I outside the norm in my approach? I don't think so, which is why I think its apples and oranges to compare the cost of surrogacy to the cost of government adoption. Surrogacy vs private adoption is a more likely consideration.
Personally, I would prefer an older child, one that is at least old enough to talk. Babies require 24/7 care and communicate by crying. But I think more people hold your opinion than mine.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#63 Mar 8, 2013
Kuuipo wrote:
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Personally, I would prefer an older child, one that is at least old enough to talk. Babies require 24/7 care and communicate by crying. But I think more people hold your opinion than mine.
I think a big reason why people want babies is because older children are likely to be more "damaged" and would not necessarily act like a typical 4-year-old or whatever.

My friend M and her husband were starting the adoption process a few years ago and then stopped because she got pregnant (wasn't supposed to be able to) but they were looking to adopt an older child. They know non-babies are harder to place and M and her husband have HUGE hearts and understand that an older child would likely be more work. They still might do it in the future when their daughter is a little older.
NicoleK

Lucens, Switzerland

#64 Mar 10, 2013
LEtter #1 is insane... the woman obviously DOES want to be a mother, but can't. While adoption can be a great way to have a family, it isn't for everyone. She's obviously struggled with her fertility stuff and has come to terms with her fate. To nag her about it would be beyond cruel.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

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#65 Mar 10, 2013
NicoleK wrote:
LEtter #1 is insane... the woman obviously DOES want to be a mother, but can't. While adoption can be a great way to have a family, it isn't for everyone. She's obviously struggled with her fertility stuff and has come to terms with her fate. To nag her about it would be beyond cruel.
Not only that, but teh letter was from teh father in law, not teh husband.

P.S. Stop by occasionally. Your comment is on point. Fresh voices are always welcome.

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