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#22 Apr 15, 2014
ScarletandOlive wrote:
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That might be because you are judgmental, so people are not anxious to share their vulnerabilities with you.
I think her advice is actually pretty good. It's not really about her so much as people in general. Fact is, some people are judgmental and that's not something you can control. You don't know how others might perceive it. It's possible they might view it neutrally or even positively, but it's also possible that some will view it as a negative and it could affect your career.
pellen

Deerfield, IL

#23 Apr 15, 2014
ScarletandOlive wrote:
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That might be because you are judgmental, so people are not anxious to share their vulnerabilities with you.
No, I agree with LC on this one. Organizations which have EAP's with outside vendors are okay, but whet an employee asks for an accommodation or says they are seeking help, it becomes an intangible tick mark against them. Better to keep it quiet and seek help.

Activism and the way things should be is all well and fine, but the workplace isn't like that.
ScarletandOlive

Indianapolis, IN

#24 Apr 15, 2014
pellen wrote:
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No, I agree with LC on this one. Organizations which have EAP's with outside vendors are okay, but whet an employee asks for an accommodation or says they are seeking help, it becomes an intangible tick mark against them. Better to keep it quiet and seek help.
Activism and the way things should be is all well and fine, but the workplace isn't like that.
This is a high stress environment in which I would expect people who work there to need some counseling or mental health checks occasionally. The people who run it would be remiss to ignore their employees' emotional well being after working with crises all day. I would compare this to law enforcement, where counselors are highly visible and certain situations require mandatory counseling sessions.

Corporate environments are completely different and shouldn't be compared to the LW's situation.
Zap Brannigan

United States

#25 Apr 15, 2014
Cash transactions are not as rare as you seem to think. Also, here are a few other plausible reasons for money being "missing".

1. New bills (from the ATM or bank cashier) can stick together and it is very easy to overpay. This is especially true with the new 100s, they really tend to stick to each other.

2. She used the cash to pay bills, maybe she put money in rent envelopes, etc.

3. Were they staying the weekend at a hotel? It would not be the first time hotel staff helpe them to money from a wallet or purse.

4. Did she comapre the ATM receipt to the amount thatr was actually withdrawn? If the ATM is getting low no cash and you ask for $500, sometimes you will only get $400 and you may not know unless you count it right there or look at the receipt.
PEllen wrote:
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Let's see. Telling her she picked up a round in the bar for cash or spent it at McDonald's. Telling her that her favorite street guy hit her up for money and instead of giving him a single she gave him a $20. That she gave it to him to put gas in h his car. She left her purse for a moment o the counter on Walgreens and doesn't she remember the kid who bum-rushed them?
Since she took it out via ATM there would be a record, so he would not be able to say she never withdrew the money; we are confined to cash transactions that are plausible.
Cash transactions are increasingly rare so this might require some imagination. But if a guy is taking money from his girlfriend's purse he has a good store of BS. I guarantee it.

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

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#26 Apr 15, 2014
On Star trek the next generation, counselor Troy is smoking hot. I would bare my all to her.
Even if I did'nt have a problem.
ScarletandOlive wrote:
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This is a high stress environment in which I would expect people who work there to need some counseling or mental health checks occasionally. The people who run it would be remiss to ignore their employees' emotional well being after working with crises all day. I would compare this to law enforcement, where counselors are highly visible and certain situations require mandatory counseling sessions.
Corporate environments are completely different and shouldn't be compared to the LW's situation.

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