That is sad which is why I agreed with ScarletandOlive. I can think of very few reasons for carrying on the silent treatment - such as perhaps a pedophile or serious abuse type situation. I simply couldn't speak to a person who had abused one of my parents (or anyone else for that matter) in such a manner even if that person was invited to family functions. I'd ignore the person and have as little conversation as possible. But to carry that over to their children would be too far. I would have to suppose there are some other things that would also give me pause, but I can't think of them at the moment. And if the person had really changed and was sorry for past behaviors, I would probably rethink the situation. My mom's sisters were often arguing with each other and could get very angry. I don't recall that any of them ever actually stopped talking to each other though - even after the worst fights. I suspect it was a dynamic they grew up with and they always got past the anger. That's one thing I respected them for.<quoted text>
My MIL and her siblings are constantly fighting. The dysfunction stems from their mother who would get mad and give them the silent treatment (often for years) when she didn't agree with them. There are 5 siblings still alive and we can't keep track of who is talking to who, so we don't even try.
I was talking to my husband's oldest aunt on Monday and she told me that he and I are her favorites because we always talk to her at family functions. That made me a little sad because being civil shouldn't be such a big deal.
My one year older sister has a way of deciding at various times she isn't going to talk to me and I never know why. She never tells me why. It will just be that try to call her and she isn't home or she's taking a nap or she already went to bed. I leave a message asking her to call when she's able and still I don't hear from her for months. I decided that when she's in these moods, I'll call her perhaps no more often than once every two weeks or so on the off chance that she'll talk to me. The thing is, she's all happy and chirpy when she does finally talk to me and acts as though she hasn't been avoiding my calls for months. She does it with other family members as well and they are as clueless as I. I do suspect she may have a mental health problem such as bipolar (I can hardly get a word in the conversation once she's in a "good" mood and decides we are once again loving sisters). I am not a mental health professional though and at this point, I don't think she would appreciate my telling her she should talk to a psychiatrist. Anyway, I've decided I have to take her as I find her and I refuse to respond in any way that will make her feel worse. My husband is irritated beyond anything and insists that she treats me horribly. I just remember my mom insisting that "little children love one another" (how I hated hearing her say that!) and that we needed to get along because we would always be sisters and would have each other even if friends failed us through life. I think my mom would roll over in her grave if she knew how our relationship is now. I really want to keep our relationship on the positive side and it would bother me if this thing were to continue through our children and grandchildren's generations.