Dog you are a romantic. The way things should be is lovely, but the way things play out between 2 people together for a very long time is often very different.<quoted text>
Marriage is a sacred institution and don't get me started about how marriage should mean different things to different people and evryone can make a marriage whatever they want it to be! If your "husband" is just gonna be some guy who's putting a roof over your head and an occassional booty call, then you have no business being "married." People can live their lives however they want, but marriage should be taken seriously. There's no law that says people MUST get married. If people aren't gonna take marriage seriously, then they should stop dickin around and pretending they're living some fantasy that they're not.
If you make a committment to stay togetehr for the long term, better and worse become particularized to your situation and it is not fair to judge other people's arrangements.