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Marriage is a sacred institution and don't get me started about how marriage should mean different things to different people and evryone can make a marriage whatever they want it to be! If your "husband" is just gonna be some guy who's putting a roof over your head and an occassional booty call, then you have no business being "married." People can live their lives however they want, but marriage should be taken seriously. There's no law that says people MUST get married. If people aren't gonna take marriage seriously, then they should stop dickin around and pretending they're living some fantasy that they're not.
Dog you are a romantic. The way things should be is lovely, but the way things play out between 2 people together for a very long time is often very different.
If you make a committment to stay togetehr for the long term, better and worse become particularized to your situation and it is not fair to judge other people's arrangements.

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While I never believed LW's claim that these faults/problems are always his fault, I was too believing that the "silent treatment" was mostly one-sided, but since reading comments here and at the WaPo, while I Find the husband's words to his wife horrible, I have no doubt that this LW is leaving puh-lenty out of her letter and is painting herself in the best light possible.
Wouldn't we all? Even people who are not totally clueless.

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Oh STFU. If you ever get married, you can define your marriage to be what you want it to be. Others are free to define it as they want it to be.
Sorry, you don't get to be the arbiter of marriage. Different strokes for different folks. I don't even know why you care so much what goes on in a marriage to which you are not apart. Go occupy yourself and maybe take up knitting.
Don't give me that line of bull. As someone who's never been married, I feel I have more say on the matter than someone who's been divorced five times. Again, I don't need to have kids to have an opinion on child rearing, I don't need to be married to have an opinion on marriage, just like you don't need to be gay to have an opinion on gays. So YOU STFU! People should NOT be free to define marriage however it suits them, that's my whole point.

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Don't give me that line of bull.
Itís not a line of bull. You have no say, as in zip, zero, zilch, in how two people choose to conduct their marriage. Accept this.
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>As someone who's never been married, I feel I have more say on the matter than someone who's been divorced five times.
Wrong. Neither you nor a person who has been divorced five times has ANY SAY in how two other people choose to conduct their marriage. Accept this.
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<quoted text>Again, I don't need to have kids to have an opinion on child rearing, I don't need to be married to have an opinion on marriage, just like you don't need to be gay to have an opinion on gays.
You can have your opinion, but others are free to have a differing opinion. Accept this.
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<quoted text>So YOU STFU! People should NOT be free to define marriage however it suits them, that's my whole point.
It doesnít matter if you feel they should not be free to define marriage however it suits them. Itís a fact that two married folks can pretty much define marriage however it suits them, at least in this country. Accept this.

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Apr 9, 2013
 
I wish I could remember more of the funny bit I heard this weekend on the right to marry ghosts.

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Sublime1 wrote:
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Itís not a line of bull. You have no say, as in zip, zero, zilch, in how two people choose to conduct their marriage. Accept this.
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Wrong. Neither you nor a person who has been divorced five times has ANY SAY in how two other people choose to conduct their marriage. Accept this.
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You can have your opinion, but others are free to have a differing opinion. Accept this.
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It doesnít matter if you feel they should not be free to define marriage however it suits them. Itís a fact that two married folks can pretty much define marriage however it suits them, at least in this country. Accept this.
And why do YOU get to have a say on how people can conduct their mirage, but I can't?

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People should NOT be free to define marriage however it suits them, that's my whole point.
Ever consider taking up residence somewhere like Saudi Arabia? I think your attitudes would make you fit in perfectly.

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And why do YOU get to have a say on how people can conduct their mirage, but I can't?
Because you have reading comprehension issues.

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And why do YOU get to have a say on how people can conduct their mirage, but I can't?
"mirage"? Was that a freudian slip?

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And why do YOU get to have a say on how people can conduct their mirage, but I can't?
I never said I have any say in how two other people conduct their marriage. I can't go into court and petition the court to divorce a married couple because they are conducting their marriage in a manner I don't approve of. I only have say in how my marriage is conducted.

That's just the way it is. I wouldn't want it any other way, either. That's the difference between you and me. You have a need for two people to conduct a marriage that you are not a part of in a manner you approve of. I don't know why you even care.

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Apr 9, 2013
 
1. Ooooooo, you were hurt and decided to deprive him of something he doesn't want. He is elated you are in the guest bedroom. Try to find some self-respect and get a divorce and move on. If you two are this hostile, everyone aready knows your situation. And they are pitying you. Do something about it.

2. You lost me at promise ring. As long as you talk about things like that, your problems aren't worth talking about.

3. Different people, different ways, no kidding.

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#32
Apr 9, 2013
 
LW1: "My husband and I are on "silent treatment" for close to three months now!"

??? How can you be on "silent treatment?" Was it prescribed by your doctor?

You both sound like total PITAs and you're going to royally f*ck up this child's life. Get some counseling, for her sake.

LW2: What Amy's intern said. Another PITA.

LW3: It was only an "obvious breach" to the original LW, you dolt.

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"mirage"? Was that a freudian slip?
Auto correct, but "mirage" is probably more fitting.

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I never said I have any say in how two other people conduct their marriage. I can't go into court and petition the court to divorce a married couple because they are conducting their marriage in a manner I don't approve of. I only have say in how my marriage is conducted.
That's just the way it is. I wouldn't want it any other way, either. That's the difference between you and me. You have a need for two people to conduct a marriage that you are not a part of in a manner you approve of. I don't know why you even care.
Hey, I am not the one who dictates the rules on marriage. There's a case in front of the supreme court on this very issue. The rules are already laid out and defined. Either you're gonna take them seriously, or you're not. If you're not, then you have no business entering in to such a union. Individuals do not get to make up their own rules.

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edogxxx wrote:
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Hey, I am not the one who dictates the rules on marriage. There's a case in front of the supreme court on this very issue. The rules are already laid out and defined. Either you're gonna take them seriously, or you're not. If you're not, then you have no business entering in to such a union. Individuals do not get to make up their own rules.
The case before the Supreme Court concerns what classes of people can get married, not about how one must conduct themselves in their marriage. Apples to oranges ... apples to oranges.

Folks who are eligible for marriage do get to make up their own rules in terms of how they will conduct their marriage. If you don't approve, what can you do about it? You can do nothing, except express your disapproval.
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edogxxx wrote:
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Hey, I am not the one who dictates the rules on marriage. There's a case in front of the supreme court on this very issue. The rules are already laid out and defined. Either you're gonna take them seriously, or you're not. If you're not, then you have no business entering in to such a union. Individuals do not get to make up their own rules.
The case in front of the Supreme Court is about gay marriage.

You're trying to pass judgement on who should enter into and remain in a heterosexual marriage. Which in the US, is currently any consenting male+female of particular age who gets a marriage certificate.

What other "rules" do you refer to here? What US laws are a man+woman who are legally married but its mainly all about the occasional booty call violating?

THOSE are the rules you're trying to define.

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edogxxx wrote:
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Marriage is a sacred institution and don't get me started about how marriage should mean different things to different people and evryone can make a marriage whatever they want it to be! If your "husband" is just gonna be some guy who's putting a roof over your head and an occassional booty call, then you have no business being "married." People can live their lives however they want, but marriage should be taken seriously. There's no law that says people MUST get married. If people aren't gonna take marriage seriously, then they should stop dickin around and pretending they're living some fantasy that they're not.
You really don't know your history, do you?

For hundreds, if not thousands, of years, people were married because of what family they belonged to. These marriages were arranged by their respective families and often these people did not love each other, hell in some cases they didn't even *know* each other. But they stayed together because it was what was *expected* of them (thanks to the church, btw) and they found ways to live together without killing each other. Once they fulfilled their expected duty, ie, producing an heir, they often had separate lives; separate bedrooms, separate houses, separate social interactions.

So this statement of yours: "If your "husband" is just gonna be some guy who's putting a roof over your head and an occassional booty call, then you have no business being "married."" is complete fantasy. For many many many people, this was (and still is) in fact, a definition of their marriage.

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edogxxx wrote:
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Individuals do not get to make up their own rules.
Yes, they do. As long as people have met the legally required contractual obligations (pay for and file a marriage license) HOW they conduct their private lives in nunya.

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You really don't know your history, do you?
For hundreds, if not thousands, of years, people were married because of what family they belonged to. These marriages were arranged by their respective families and often these people did not love each other, hell in some cases they didn't even *know* each other. But they stayed together because it was what was *expected* of them (thanks to the church, btw) and they found ways to live together without killing each other. Once they fulfilled their expected duty, ie, producing an heir, they often had separate lives; separate bedrooms, separate houses, separate social interactions.
So this statement of yours: "If your "husband" is just gonna be some guy who's putting a roof over your head and an occassional booty call, then you have no business being "married."" is complete fantasy. For many many many people, this was (and still is) in fact, a definition of their marriage.
Exactly. Those who don't know their history.... I didn't even take issue with his presumption that the husband was providing the "roof over her head" idea.

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edogxxx wrote:
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Marriage is a sacred institution and don't get me started about how marriage should mean different things to different people and evryone can make a marriage whatever they want it to be! If your "husband" is just gonna be some guy who's putting a roof over your head and an occassional booty call, then you have no business being "married." People can live their lives however they want, but marriage should be taken seriously. There's no law that says people MUST get married. If people aren't gonna take marriage seriously, then they should stop dickin around and pretending they're living some fantasy that they're not.
I believe Marriage is sacred, Defined as a union between 1 man and 1 woman. But do not tell me how within my marriage we are to act. You are making HUGE aSSumptions here that you are not qualified to make. You sound sexist by thinking "he" is the one putting a roof over my head. Shame on you ....LOLOLOL !! He seems pretty happy with his "occassional" booty call too ... to freaking funny !!!

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