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“reign in blood”

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Mar 11, 2013
 
DEAR ABBY: I am a semi-retired widow in my 60s. A few months ago I started spending time with a man I work with. We would see each other once or twice a month, strictly as friends. Our "dates" ended with a platonic hug.

About a month ago, a hug turned into an embrace. A week later, the embrace became a passionate kiss. Since then, whenever we get together -- now once or twice a week -- we spend a good portion of our time together "making out." We love the way each other kisses.

The problem is, we're still just friends. There is no desire on the part of either of us to take the relationship up a notch. What do we do? We should not be kissing a friend the way we do, but we can't seem to stop.

We're not hurting anyone. We have tried meeting only in public places, but there is still the goodnight kiss. I never thought I'd need this kind of advice at my age. Must we stop spending time together?-- FLABBERGASTED IN WISCONSIN

DEAR FLABBERGASTED: Not in my opinion. I assume you're both eligible. This is the way relationships develop, and you would be foolish not to see where it leads. As of now, a kiss is still a kiss. Let me hear from you in a month.

DEAR ABBY: I am writing on behalf of hairstylists. We are busy people. Our time is money. We rarely even stop for lunch. Clients who come in talking on their cellphones are a real problem for us because they slow us down.

I have had clients jump up from my chair to answer their cellphone in the middle of a haircut -- hair flying everywhere. I have had to do a haircut around a cellphone, with the client switching the phone from ear to ear! These are not even important calls -- just casual conversations.

The lack of courtesy is ridiculous, and it seems to be getting worse. I would like people who do this to think twice before subjecting their stylist to it. They should put their phones on silent, get their hair cut or colored, and talk on their own time!-- FED UP IN NEBRASKA

DEAR FED UP: You are not helpless. This is happening because you have allowed it. If you can't find the gumption to tell your customers you don't want them using their cellphones while they're in your chair, then post a sign on your mirror that reads "Cellphones Not Allowed."

DEAR ABBY: I am a new bride. I love my husband very much, but I've encountered a problem I don't know how to handle. My husband and I were together for six years before we got married and were engaged for three. We eloped to Las Vegas (it wasn't planned) and had a "proper" celebration with friends and family later.

My husband makes comments that suggest I dragged him and tricked him into marrying me. I know he's only kidding, but it's very hurtful. I don't know how to let him know his comments really hurt my feelings. It makes me feel like he's ashamed of our marriage.-- NEWLYWED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR NEWLYWED: The squeaky wheel gets the grease. The next time your husband does it, speak up. Explain that his attempts at humor are hurtful, not to mention insulting. Ask him if he regrets marrying you.(If the answer is yes, it's important that you know it now.) Clear communication is the key to a strong marriage, and so is respect for one's partner, which he appears to be lacking.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

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1 Bleck! old peeps swapping spit!

2 good advice hope you use it.

3 You husband has a hooker if vegas before the marriage and is trying to make it your fault.

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L1: Is he single? Then go for it. Do whatever feels good.

L2: So stand up for yourself, or have your salon owner do it for you.

L3: If you can't talk to him, why did you marry him?

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Mar 11, 2013
 
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3 You husband has a hooker if vegas before the marriage and is trying to make it your fault.
I can see this.

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LW1: What exactly is the problem? You enjoy each other's company. You enjoy making out. Neither of you wants to turn it up a notch(I think you're both liars). So why do you feel like something needs to change?

LW2: If you have a problem with it, address YOUR customers. Writing to Abby is not going to make anyone change their behavior.

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LW1: Are you sure your 60 and not 6?

LW2: Post a sign.

LW3: Have you changed since you two were married?

“reign in blood”

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1- Gah! Pass the brain bleech!

2- "I've had clients jump from the chair to answer the phone...had to do a haircut around the phone..."

I don't believe you.

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1 Go on and get your freak on Granny!

2 Use your words and stop being accomodating, or charge them more.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
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1 Bleck! old peeps swapping spit!
My initial thought as well. But then I thought, there's some pretty nice looking 60 year olds in hollywood. So googled hot 60 year olds.

Goldie hawn
Susan Saranandon
Sigourney Weaver

Not Kate Upton, but not bad either.

The one that popped up on a few lists that I don't get is Helen Mirren. Who finds this woman attractive?

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Mar 11, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>My initial thought as well. But then I thought, there's some pretty nice looking 60 year olds in hollywood. So googled hot 60 year olds.
Goldie hawn
Susan Saranandon
Sigourney Weaver
Not Kate Upton, but not bad either.
The one that popped up on a few lists that I don't get is Helen Mirren. Who finds this woman attractive?
I know men who think she's gorgeous. They tend to be over 50.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
LW1: Not really seeing a problem here...

LW2: The conversations might not be important to *you* just as the client doesn't think your time is important. So either post a sign or STFU.

LW3: If after all the time that you two have been together, you cannot open up your mouth and tell him this hurts, you should not be married.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>My initial thought as well. But then I thought, there's some pretty nice looking 60 year olds in hollywood. So googled hot 60 year olds.
Goldie hawn
Susan Saranandon
Sigourney Weaver
Not Kate Upton, but not bad either.
The one that popped up on a few lists that I don't get is Helen Mirren. Who finds this woman attractive?
I didn't think Susan Sarandon and Sigourney Weaver were hot when they were in their 30s. Goldie Hawn never did much for me, either.

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We really do seem to have too much free time on our hands, dont we?
(not you, all of us.)
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>My initial thought as well. But then I thought, there's some pretty nice looking 60 year olds in hollywood. So googled hot 60 year olds.
Goldie hawn
Susan Saranandon
Sigourney Weaver
Not Kate Upton, but not bad either.
The one that popped up on a few lists that I don't get is Helen Mirren. Who finds this woman attractive?

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Mar 11, 2013
 
L1: Sounds like you would have a perfect relationship if it went a little further. Twice a week and you don't have to put up with his crap 24-7. Don't question, ride this train.

L2: So you're a flippin' hairstylst. Everyone's time is money (usually). Use your words.

L3: I don't see the "problem" here. Use your words.

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I didn't think Susan Sarandon and Sigourney Weaver were hot when they were in their 30s. Goldie Hawn never did much for me, either.
Didn't said they were HOT, but they're certainly nice looking. Are you saying you would not understand someone being attracted to them, be it young or old? Everyone can't be a playboy playmate.

Just saying,(as a 40 year old) the thought of making out with a 60 year old does not sound very appealing, but when you put one of those faces to the 60 year old, doesn't seem nearly as unappealing.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Didn't said they were HOT, but they're certainly nice looking. Are you saying you would not understand someone being attracted to them, be it young or old? Everyone can't be a playboy playmate.
Just saying,(as a 40 year old) the thought of making out with a 60 year old does not sound very appealing, but when you put one of those faces to the 60 year old, doesn't seem nearly as unappealing.
No, I'm not saying I can't understand someone being attracted to them. I wouldn't consider them hot, which is what you googled. I wouldn't consider them hot in their prime.

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Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Didn't said they were HOT, but they're certainly nice looking. Are you saying you would not understand someone being attracted to them, be it young or old? Everyone can't be a playboy playmate.
Just saying,(as a 40 year old) the thought of making out with a 60 year old does not sound very appealing, but when you put one of those faces to the 60 year old, doesn't seem nearly as unappealing.
You can make out with Oldie Hawn and Susan Sureisdumb all you want.

I'm gonna make out with Emma Watson.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
L1: What's the escalation of a hug to an embrace? Isn't an embrace just a fancy word for hug?

L2: What edog said. Maybe someone jumped up to answer the phone once, but I don't believe for one second that a client talked on the phone during the haircut and forced you to work around the phone. That's basically impossible, and if a client TRIED, I would hope you'd put down the scissors until they put down the phone.

L3: What everyone else said.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
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I wouldn't consider them hot, which is what you googled.
Gotcha.

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Mar 11, 2013
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
LW1: What exactly is the problem? You enjoy each other's company. You enjoy making out. Neither of you wants to turn it up a notch(I think you're both liars). So why do you feel like something needs to change?
LW2: If you have a problem with it, address YOUR customers. Writing to Abby is not going to make anyone change their behavior.
She does not want to rik alienating the custmer with a direct confrontation. It is an accepted tactic to cut out an Abby column and tape it to the mirror or at the reception desk. Then it is not directed at any one person, and malefactors(great word) can be pointed to the posted notice.

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