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“It made sense at the time....”

Since: May 09

Schaumburg, IL

#21 Apr 16, 2013
LW2 -Yes, LW, you suck it up... you'd have just as much success at getting her to change her eye color as you will at getting her to change her core personality. Maybe find out what hobbies or interests besides the family she has and try to do somethign wtih that. My mom, SIL and i like going to plays, and the guys not as much (except my dad - he has more interest in plays), so it's started to be a girls day when SIL is in town. Sometihgn like this could be lower key, so an introvert should be able to be more comfortable with it.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#22 Apr 16, 2013
It's not bickering, its pointing out her hypocrisy. I cant help it if she refuses to admit when he is wrong. I feel I would be doing myself a disservice by not pointing out these things.
Aisle Sitter wrote:
please stop the bickering... even thoguh i can skim overt the converstaion, this introvert is starting to find the bickering exhausting. Since the Bickersons do have good comments when not addressed to each other, i scan teh comments so i don't miss teh good stuff in teh midst of hte arguing and name calling.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#23 Apr 16, 2013
perfect example of sams circular thinking.

A) Show me where I said she should leave him holding the bag?
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
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Um, yeah I told her to move out. Never said I didn't.
Please sam, make up your friggin mind already.
You either are telling her to move out or not. If not, then your above statement is a lie. If you are telling her to leave then that means the guy is now responsible for the full rent.

Wow, you are just totally scrambled. Smoke some good shiet over the weekend?

Oh, please dont reply, I am already bored.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

United States

#24 Apr 16, 2013
Aisle Sitter wrote:
please stop the bickering... even thoguh i can skim overt the converstaion, this introvert is starting to find the bickering exhausting. Since the Bickersons do have good comments when not addressed to each other, i scan teh comments so i don't miss teh good stuff in teh midst of hte arguing and name calling.
And it'd be one thing if their bickering was mildly entertaining. Instead it's a yawnfest.
EJG

East Hartford, CT

#25 Apr 16, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
DEAR AMY: My daughter-in-law is a good person, a good wife and a very good mother. The problem is that she is basically an introvert with a limited personality.
She is not mean-spirited or mean. She basically speaks when she's spoken to, answers questions, etc. She rarely initiates a conversation.
My son says that he has tried talking to her, but other than that, there is little he can do about it. He says that's the way she is.
My husband says I have to learn how to accept her the way she is and not take everything she does (or doesn't do) personally. She loves our son and her children. She is a working mother but finds the time to cover all bases with the kids.
I don't know what to do, or if I should "suck it up." Do you have any suggestions?-- Frustrated Mother-in-Law
DEAR FRUSTRATED: Not only should you find a way to accept your daughter-in-law for being herself, but you should also personally work harder to celebrate her role in your son and grandkids' lives.
There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. People who are quiet offer a wonderful balance against the noise of the rest of the world. Please don't try to "fix" this wonderful wife and mom. Your job is to offer a supportive, warm and welcoming family wherein she can occupy her own quiet place.
FRUSTRATED could be trying to "fix" something that is NOT broken at all. Some people were actually raised as children to have manners. One basic rule was that children should not speak unless they were spoken to. Could Frustrated's DIL be trying to set the right example for her children, as her parents did for her? Would Frustrated rather be writing Amy to complain that her DIL is a doormat and that the grandchildren are a bunch of mouthy, rude, out of control brats instead? just wondering ....:-(

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#26 Apr 16, 2013
So sayeth the king if idiotic comments.
edogxxx wrote:
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And it'd be one thing if their bickering was mildly entertaining. Instead it's a yawnfest.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#27 Apr 16, 2013
of....not if

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

United States

#28 Apr 16, 2013
RACE wrote:
perfect example of sams circular thinking.
A) Show me where I said she should leave him holding the bag?
<quoted text>
Please sam, make up your friggin mind already.
You either are telling her to move out or not. If not, then your above statement is a lie. If you are telling her to leave then that means the guy is now responsible for the full rent.
Wow, you are just totally scrambled. Smoke some good shiet over the weekend?
Oh, please dont reply, I am already bored.
Again, you keep ignoring "... then tell him and let him know you'll work with him for a couple months to help find a roommate." And you also have had no response to the points I made about where he has fallen down. But that's just because it's mud in your eye.

“FD&S is no way to be.”

Since: Feb 13

United States

#29 Apr 16, 2013
edogxxx wrote:
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And it'd be one thing if their bickering was mildly entertaining. Instead it's a yawnfest.
Then conserve what little brain power you have and don't read it.

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#30 Apr 16, 2013
give it up stool, you give stupid people a bad name.
Sam I Am GEAM wrote:
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Again, you keep ignoring "... then tell him and let him know you'll work with him for a couple months to help find a roommate." And you also have had no response to the points I made about where he has fallen down. But that's just because it's mud in your eye.
Julie

Chicago, IL

#31 Apr 16, 2013
LW2: "My daughter-in-law is a good person, a good wife and a very good mother. The problem is that she is basically an introvert with a limited personality."

LW: In your very own words, your DIL is "a good person, a good wife and a very good mother."

Newsflash, you dumb btch: The problem is *not* that she is "basically an introvert"--the problem is YOU!

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