Abby 12-24

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PEllen

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Dec 24, 2012
 
DEAR ABBY: For the last eight years I have been the mother of a star in our local high school. When one of my boys would graduate, the next would take over and be even more athletic or musically talented -- and in my youngest son's case, both.
Now that they are gone I can't stand hearing other parents talk about their children's accomplishments. I also can't stop myself from making some comment about how my sons were better. I know it's wrong, but I still do it.

Sporting events make me sad and my husband depressed. Is this empty nest? We can't seem to figure out how to move on. Have you any suggestions? More children are out of the question.-- SPOTLIGHTS DIMMED IN OHIO

DEAR S.D.: When people peer too long into a spotlight -- whether directly or the reflected glare of someone nearby -- it diminishes their vision for a period of time after the light is extinguished. What you may fail to see is that all parents are proud of their kids, and if you continue to compare other people's children unfavorably with your own, you will soon be as welcome as a polecat at a garden party.

This is why I urge you and your husband to take a little time, refocus your attention to children less fortunate than your own, and invest some of your energy in other youths who need the encouragement and support you can give. If you do, you will be rewarded many times over.

DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband -- who had an affair -- and I have been divorced for three years, but have been forced into a roommate situation due to health issues on my part and financial issues on his. We have two kids together that I have needed his help with. However, there is a potential "new guy" in my life who is uncomfortable that my ex still lives here.

My friends tell me I'm too nice to have let him stay here for so long. I feel it's the charitable thing to do because he has nowhere to go. I'm also afraid my kids will think I'm being hateful if I kick their father out. Oh my God, Abby, what do I do?-- IN TRANSITION IN TENNESSEE
DEAR IN TRANSITION: If you want to stay "stuck" in your predicament, allow your former husband to continue living there. If you would like to go on with your life,
then recognize that very few men would want to date a woman who has another man living with her.

By allowing your ex to stay with you, you have allowed your children to think your marriage could be repaired. If that is not the case -- and search your heart before answering that question -- then set a time limit for him to leave.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I went to a restaurant last night. We were enjoying our meal when a couple came in and sat at a table close to ours. Soon, a bad body odor wafted over to where we were sitting. It was so strong I couldn't finish my dinner.
When we got up to pay our bill, we told the manager about it and asked what could be done. He said that was a tough question and he didn't know the answer. I told him I was going to write to Dear Abby and ask. He said if I got an answer to be sure to let him know. What would you suggest?-- CHOKING IN IOWA

DEAR CHOKING: It was not the responsibility of the restaurant staff to "do" anything about your problem. The thing to do was change to a table in another section. If you were questioned about it -- which I doubt you would be -- the polite response would be that you preferred a table in a different location

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Dec 24, 2012
 

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LW1: "I can't stand hearing other parents talk about their children's accomplishments."

I wonder how many parents felt this way around you when your kids were still in school. You sound annoying as hell.

"I also can't stop myself from making some comment about how my sons were better." Can't? Bullshit. You're petty and weak.

LW2: First you say the reasons he is ther eare both financial on his part and medical on your part, then you proceed to focus only on his part. If you kick him out, fine, but then you still have whatever medical problem he is assisting you with. Do you no longer need his help on that front?

What Abby said.

LW3: What Abby said. Its no more the restaurant's responsibility to control stinky smelling guests than it is for them to control people who swim in perfume and cologne.
PEllen

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Dec 24, 2012
 
Mister Tonka wrote:
LW1: "I can't stand hearing other parents talk about their children's accomplishments."
I wonder how many parents felt this way around you when your kids were still in school. You sound annoying as hell.
"I also can't stop myself from making some comment about how my sons were better." Can't? Bullshit. You're petty and weak.
LW2: First you say the reasons he is ther eare both financial on his part and medical on your part, then you proceed to focus only on his part. If you kick him out, fine, but then you still have whatever medical problem he is assisting you with. Do you no longer need his help on that front?
What Abby said.
LW3: What Abby said. Its no more the restaurant's responsibility to control stinky smelling guests than it is for them to control people who swim in perfume and cologne.
What Tonka said

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Dec 24, 2012
 

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1- I sure hope this is a joke. The first paragraph is... confusing. The line about having more children made me laugh.

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Dec 24, 2012
 
edogxxx wrote:
. The line about having more children made me laugh.
Yep. Nobody was going to tell you that having more children is the answer.

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Dec 24, 2012
 
edogxxx wrote:
1- I sure hope this is a joke. The first paragraph is... confusing. The line about having more children made me laugh.
I missed that line. And it just makes her even more annoying. As if, assuming more children were not out of the question, having more children would obviously result in her having "the star of the school" who would no doubt be better than all the other kids at everything. Arrogant annoying cnut.
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Dec 24, 2012
 

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LW1: You've been living vicariously. I have an idea. How about doing something that YOU like to do, like joining a theatre group, taking a ballroom dancing class, painting, training for a half-marathon, etc. You're going to have one heck of an empty nest syndrome if you don't develop some interests of your own. And please try to be less competitive.

LW2: Funny, I met a guy a while back who was roommates with his ex. I think it's great if you can stay cordial with your ex, but living with your ex implies that you haven't fully moved on. One of you can move out and rent a room fairly inexpensively.

LW3: The only responsibility that the restaurant has is to try and find you another table. I can understand how unappetizing it must have been to be downwind of them.

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Dec 24, 2012
 
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