“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Jul 8, 2014
DEAR ABBY: May I comment about the question from "Unsure in the West" (April 6), who wanted to create scrapbooks out of all the cards and letters she received over the years? My generation (30s) is all about social media. "Unsure" mentioned that all the items she wanted to include were pre-Facebook. I am a bit old-fashioned (or maybe stubborn) so I don't do Facebook or Twitter, and I don't understand the importance of a "hashtag." I have no idea how to Skype, nor do I pay my bills online.

I think the scrapbook idea is wonderful. There is something special about having tangible items to go along with important milestones and memories. Even if the gifts themselves don't strike a chord with her friends, surely the consideration and time she puts into the scrapbooks will make her loved ones realize how important they are to her. I say, proceed with confidence. Your friends are lucky to have you.-- L.K. IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR L.K.: Like you, readers overwhelmingly support "Unsure" in her efforts to create scrapbooks of memories for her friends. Read on:

DEAR ABBY: I have also saved cards, letters, wedding photos and pictures of newborns, etc., for several decades. A few years ago, I simply returned them to the people who had sent them. Nearly all of the recipients squealed with delight as they thanked me, having realized I had gifted them with "time capsules" of their lives. Only one friend was offended that I had returned her items. She said she was "appalled" that I didn't cherish them myself. The joy expressed by the others superseded the angry friend. "Unsure," return those items to the senders!-- LINDA IN INDIANA

DEAR ABBY: I did the same thing with photos. But instead of returning them to the person(s) who gave them to me, I gave them to the children who were pictured in the photos. Others I saved and presented to the now-grown child's spouse as a wedding gift. So far they have been well-received. Most people are surprised to learn that I actually kept all these photos of them or their children for so long and appreciated the effort I put into the scrapbooks.-- MEMORY KEEPER

DEAR ABBY: I am not a crafter and I'm not very sentimental. I don't enjoy what I consider clutter. As I've grown older, I have done my best to pare down and eliminate things I no longer have use for. I have embraced technology. If "Unsure" were my friend, I would appreciate it more if she scanned anything she wanted to give back to me. Either way, I would probably view the scrapbook or e-book, and then deep-six it after the viewing. It crossed my mind that perhaps "Unsure" is cleaning out, and this is her way of getting rid of her "clutter." -- MAUREEN IN FLORIDA

DEAR ABBY: Yes! Bundle and return the cards and letters with a note about what the correspondence has meant to you over the years. As a young adult, I lived all over the world and frequently wrote my friends and family about my life and what I was experiencing. Over the last few years I have received bundles from my mother, my sister and a friend -- all letters they had hung onto for 20 to 30 years. What a surprise and a joy. Reading these old cards and letters gave me a window into a world that no longer exists, and reminded me of who I was then and what my life was like. Yes, please give back the correspondence.-- MARIANNE IN CALIFORNIA
boundary painter

Waco, TX

#2 Jul 8, 2014
okay

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#3 Jul 8, 2014
If it's something you want to do, why wouldn't you just do it? Do you really need a decision by committee?

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#4 Jul 8, 2014
Toj wrote:
If it's something you want to do, why wouldn't you just do it? Do you really need a decision by committee?
Right?

Although maybe that's how it works in the world of a 30-something who doesn't pay bills online.....

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#5 Jul 8, 2014
j_m_w wrote:
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Right?
Although maybe that's how it works in the world of a 30-something who doesn't pay bills online.....
Heh. I can't remember the last time I wrote an actual check. What I can't pay on an online site or paypal, I use my bank's online payment.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#6 Jul 8, 2014
They did a whole rehash about THIS????

Since: Mar 09

Hollywood, FL

#7 Jul 8, 2014
Toj wrote:
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Heh. I can't remember the last time I wrote an actual check. What I can't pay on an online site or paypal, I use my bank's online payment.
I pay my rent via check, but the leasing office - with a dropbox - is just down the hall from my apartment. It's literally easier than paying online, but only in this case!
Kuuipo

Marina, CA

#8 Jul 8, 2014
Toj wrote:
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Heh. I can't remember the last time I wrote an actual check. What I can't pay on an online site or paypal, I use my bank's online payment.
There are two or three things I pay with actual checks, but online bill pay is way faster and more convenient.

Since: Jun 09

Saint Petersburg, FL

#9 Jul 8, 2014
Kuuipo wrote:
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There are two or three things I pay with actual checks, but online bill pay is way faster and more convenient.
Yeah, I only pay my daughter's school and our music lessons by check because I have to. EVerything else is on-line.

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