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#21 Jun 17, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
A boyfriend and I house/cat sat for friends while they were on their honeymoon. We had so much trouble trying to figure out how to watch TV on their convoluted system (the husband is a total tech geek), no one else who house sat could figure out how to get the TV and cable to work after us. Husband had to figure it out when he got back from the honeymoon (and honestly, he seemed awfully amused that so many people were disappointed that they weren't able to enjoy his big screen surround sound den)(they'd told all of us we were welcome to hang out and watch movies, etc.).
I had to create an instruction sheet for my mother in law on what the steps are to watch cable, watch a dvd, play a cd, etc. She still could not figure it out and we came home 3 days later to find her watching tv in our bedroom the whole weekend cause she could not figure out the living room.

Since: Jan 10

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#22 Jun 17, 2013
Mister Tonka wrote:
"If showing good manners isn't incentive enough, remember this: These are the people you will be inviting to weddings, baby showers, and your own children's graduations and weddings in the not-so-distant future."
Don't be too sure about that.
"write thank you notes to keep getting more gifts from people like us who keep track of thank you notes."

No thanks.

Since: Jan 10

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#23 Jun 17, 2013
FWIW: I have no problem with large families. My mom is the youngest of seven. but my grandma wasn't that thrilled with her husband, and took 20 years to churn out those seven kids. Most Catholics do it way faster.:)

But this woman sounds EXHAUSTED -- physically and emotionally. I wouldn't recommend birth control for a person who is religious and having children because of her religion. But I think it would save her life in this instance.

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#24 Jun 17, 2013
Dahgts wrote:
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have five kids, all under 6 years of age. The youngest are 7-month-old twins. A family in our church has offered to watch them so my husband and I can go out on a date. We haven't been alone together in a year. We have no family or friends nearby to offer respite.
I would like to accept their kind offer, but two things are holding me back. First, I don't think they realize the enormity of the task, and it feels like we might be imposing.
Second, I don't have anything to say to my husband. A date would be awkward and most likely consist of "relations." I like my husband, but I'd rather be left alone. What would you do?-- FRAZZLED MOM WITH NO SUPPORT
DEAR FRAZZLED: Before placing your small children in the care of others, invite the family over to see exactly how much work would be involved in watching them. Then discuss with your husband what date night will entail and see if you can agree on what would be a fun night out.
You definitely need a break, and some alone time should be something to look forward to. That it isn't is of concern to me. It's possible you could benefit from marriage counseling to help re-establish a line of verbal communication. And equally important, because you suspect the evening "might" result in relations, make sure you have birth control to prevent an accidental pregnancy.
Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no! No way, you've got 18 years minimum of "it ain't your life no more". You are the suckle me, hold me , nurture me, bathe me, nurse maid. You signed up for it and it is your job. Beware anyone offering to take your burden, except maybe your own mothers. Mothers who do not and will not trust others with their young, never have to worry about the child being molested. If your child is not welcome in any place, then you don't go either. And yes, I am a mother, of 4, I have also taken in 4 more children, over 30 years time.
Look to the hen, that lowly chicken who will attack and hurt even the one who has given her every bite of food, she has ever eaten. She will protect her young, and she will allow those chicks to learn to walk away from her, but she won't walk away and leave her little ones to any one else's care.
Look at a dog, with a first litter she will growl and or nip, to suggest that even her beloved master, leave the babies alone, and if she is disciplined for it, she will be ashamed to act in the manner that is what she knows as the right way to guard her offspring. Shouldn't the human be as good a parent as the critters are?

Since: Jan 10

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#25 Jun 18, 2013
Reason Personified wrote:
<quoted text>Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no! No way, you've got 18 years minimum of "it ain't your life no more". You are the suckle me, hold me , nurture me, bathe me, nurse maid. You signed up for it and it is your job. Beware anyone offering to take your burden, except maybe your own mothers. Mothers who do not and will not trust others with their young, never have to worry about the child being molested. If your child is not welcome in any place, then you don't go either. And yes, I am a mother, of 4, I have also taken in 4 more children, over 30 years time.
Look to the hen, that lowly chicken who will attack and hurt even the one who has given her every bite of food, she has ever eaten. She will protect her young, and she will allow those chicks to learn to walk away from her, but she won't walk away and leave her little ones to any one else's care.
Look at a dog, with a first litter she will growl and or nip, to suggest that even her beloved master, leave the babies alone, and if she is disciplined for it, she will be ashamed to act in the manner that is what she knows as the right way to guard her offspring. Shouldn't the human be as good a parent as the critters are?
WTF are you ranting about? She's tired of her husband pawing at her ("relations" is the main aspect of their rare alone time?) and she's churned out a lot of kids in a short time. She needs some major intervention.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#26 Jun 18, 2013
Reason Personified wrote:
<quoted text>Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no! No way, you've got 18 years minimum of "it ain't your life no more". You are the suckle me, hold me , nurture me, bathe me, nurse maid. You signed up for it and it is your job. Beware anyone offering to take your burden, except maybe your own mothers. Mothers who do not and will not trust others with their young, never have to worry about the child being molested. If your child is not welcome in any place, then you don't go either. And yes, I am a mother, of 4, I have also taken in 4 more children, over 30 years time.
Look to the hen, that lowly chicken who will attack and hurt even the one who has given her every bite of food, she has ever eaten. She will protect her young, and she will allow those chicks to learn to walk away from her, but she won't walk away and leave her little ones to any one else's care.
Look at a dog, with a first litter she will growl and or nip, to suggest that even her beloved master, leave the babies alone, and if she is disciplined for it, she will be ashamed to act in the manner that is what she knows as the right way to guard her offspring. Shouldn't the human be as good a parent as the critters are?
And wolves and lions will leave their cubs with one female while the rest of them go hunting.

Is it too much to ask for this mom to get a few hours of no responsibilities? It shouldn't be.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#27 Jun 18, 2013
Reason Personified wrote:
<quoted text>
Look to the hen, that lowly chicken who will attack and hurt even the one who has given her every bite of food, she has ever eaten. She will protect her young, and she will allow those chicks to learn to walk away from her, but she won't walk away and leave her little ones to any one else's care.
Look at a dog, with a first litter she will growl and or nip, to suggest that even her beloved master, leave the babies alone, and if she is disciplined for it, she will be ashamed to act in the manner that is what she knows as the right way to guard her offspring. Shouldn't the human be as good a parent as the critters are?
Mother dogs--even their their first litter--will generally stop with that maternal protection before their puppies even lose their milk teeth. So, human kids lose their milk teeth starting around age 5. What does that indicate we should be doing?

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#28 Jun 18, 2013
Reason Personified wrote:
<quoted text>Mothers who do not and will not trust others with their young, never have to worry about the child being molested.
You're a bit over the top on everything but this is blatantly untrue. Most molesters are family members or close family friends. Your theory here doesn't work.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#29 Jun 18, 2013
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
You're a bit over the top on everything but this is blatantly untrue. Most molesters are family members or close family friends. Your theory here doesn't work.
This particular person sounds like someone who randomly spews all over another board I participate in. That woman claims she wouldn't even leave her kids alone with their own father.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#30 Jun 18, 2013
pde wrote:
<quoted text>
This particular person sounds like someone who randomly spews all over another board I participate in. That woman claims she wouldn't even leave her kids alone with their own father.
Sad. So the kids are isolated. That's not good parenting either.
pde

Homer Glen, IL

#31 Jun 18, 2013
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
Sad. So the kids are isolated. That's not good parenting either.
Either this is the same person, or this person has read the same "how to be a martyr of a mom" crazy book the other person has read.

I've seen the hen and the dog rants before. And they are as stupid this time as they were the first. Comparing 30 days of care (before the hen kicks out the chicks) to 18 years of care is kind of bizarre.

Also, did you know that if you forcefully keep rooster chicks with their mother hen for longer than the mother hen wants the chicks around, chances are the rooster will then mate with his mother?

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#32 Jun 18, 2013
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
<quoted text>
WTF are you ranting about? She's tired of her husband pawing at her ("relations" is the main aspect of their rare alone time?) and she's churned out a lot of kids in a short time. She needs some major intervention.
She needs to teach her husband that the children are his too. He needs to do some diapering, mopping, cooking too. They both need to get over the "I need me time" crap, and deal with what they have done. They made a family.

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#33 Jun 18, 2013
squishymama wrote:
<quoted text>
And wolves and lions will leave their cubs with one female while the rest of them go hunting.
Is it too much to ask for this mom to get a few hours of no responsibilities? It shouldn't be.
As I said "Beware anyone offering to take your burden, except maybe your own mothers.", that is what Grannies are for (in small doses only, Granny has done her time too).

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#34 Jun 18, 2013
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
You're a bit over the top on everything but this is blatantly untrue. Most molesters are family members or close family friends. Your theory here doesn't work.
So where is Mom when these things happen? Watching?

Yeah, I am over the top, children are my top priority, and I damn sure didn't suggest she leave them with them same people who molested her and her siblings. I strongly suggested that she not leave them.

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#35 Jun 18, 2013
pde wrote:
<quoted text>
This particular person sounds like someone who randomly spews all over another board I participate in. That woman claims she wouldn't even leave her kids alone with their own father.
The dimwit who spews all over the board you participate in, needs to rethink who her old man is. If he can't be left alone with his own offspring, the woman should have been just a bit more discriminating, when it came to picking who she'd bed down with. Even after the fact, there is the ever popular "kicking him to the curb" option.

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#36 Jun 18, 2013
Toj wrote:
<quoted text>
Sad. So the kids are isolated. That's not good parenting either.
Being there with them does not mean isolating them, it just means being with them, everywhere they go. They can be allowed to toilet themselves, but in a public place either a parent goes in with them or they stand right outside the door.

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#37 Jun 18, 2013
pde wrote:
<quoted text>
Mother dogs--even their their first litter--will generally stop with that maternal protection before their puppies even lose their milk teeth. So, human kids lose their milk teeth starting around age 5. What does that indicate we should be doing?
The protection is still there. The puppies get teeth, and they bite. The mother then starts weaning them, most human mothers wean around age 1, earlier if the kid likes to bite.

At age 5 the child will absolutely be assured that the parents are THERE for them!
But milk teeth is not what we humans gauge our children's maturity on is it?

“Citizen_Patriot_ Voter_Atheist!”

Since: May 09

Earth,TX

#38 Jun 18, 2013
pde wrote:
<quoted text>
Either this is the same person, or this person has read the same "how to be a martyr of a mom" crazy book the other person has read.
I've seen the hen and the dog rants before. And they are as stupid this time as they were the first. Comparing 30 days of care (before the hen kicks out the chicks) to 18 years of care is kind of bizarre.
Also, did you know that if you forcefully keep rooster chicks with their mother hen for longer than the mother hen wants the chicks around, chances are the rooster will then mate with his mother?
A 30 day old chick is about 4 inches tall, partially feathered out, still snuggling under mom at night, the hen is still scratching up the baby's food, and calling them to her, but the chick is learning to forage a bit away from her in daylight, and you are still in danger of getting attacked by the hen, if you get too close.
Nowhere did I even imply that the 18 year old needs the same attention that the 1 year old does. Children mature, and will need to step out of mom's shadow, it is how they learn to function on their own, and how they learn to parent, too.
Did you know that it may be 4 - 6 months between the time the hen quits watching over the chicks, before they are fully mature? Do you know that if you forcefully (forcefully?) keep the male chicks with the flock, the father(rooster) will whip the youngsters bloody, when they start maturing and challenge the rooster for the hens?
Did you know that extra male chickens often end up in a pot of chicken and dumplings?
Did you know that in a free range flock, the biggest baddest rooster will be the mate to all the hens?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#39 Jun 18, 2013
Reason Personified wrote:
Being there with them does not mean isolating them, it just means being with them, everywhere they go. They can be allowed to toilet themselves, but in a public place either a parent goes in with them or they stand right outside the door.
So you're a helicopter parent? Way to teach children about independence. These are the children who don't even get a drivers license til they turn 20, don't move out of the house until they're 25, move directly in with their girlfriend who they marry, pop out a kid, and divorce all within a year, then sulk at the bars crying in their beers and becoming alcoholics and wonder why they can't find a woman and where their life went wrong. Then they marry the first white trash that gets drunk enough to get knocked up by them and the cycle starts all over again.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#40 Jun 18, 2013
Reason Personified wrote:
<quoted text>As I said "Beware anyone offering to take your burden, except maybe your own mothers.", that is what Grannies are for (in small doses only, Granny has done her time too).
And what if, as in the LW's case, there is no Granny? She just has to deal with it and never get a break for 18+ years?

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