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“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Braidwood, IL

#1 Jul 24, 2014
DEAR ABBY: Is it acceptable to bring a teacup-sized dog to a wedding? The excuse was, "Well, the wedding was at the beach." The pre-dinner and dancing were inside a high-end resort on the beach. The dog was taken inside these establishments.

After a guest -- a family member of the dog's owner -- asked the owner to remove the animal because the occasion was not about her and her dog but the bride and groom's day, the owner put the dog in a carrying case and the dog returned to the wedding for the rest of the night. Only this one couple made an issue of it and they weren't in the wedding party, but relations of the dog owner. What do you think?-- DOGGONE DISGUSTED

DEAR DOGGONE DISGUSTED: The rule of etiquette states that nothing should distract attention from the happy couple -- and especially the bride -- at the wedding. However, if the dog owner had first asked for and received permission to bring the animal to the festivities, then it wasn't rude and the relatives of the dog owner were wrong to intervene.

DEAR ABBY: We were recently at dinner with longtime friends whose political views are different from ours. I believe in the rule of etiquette about avoiding the topics of politics and religion in mixed company. Well, somehow the conversation turned political. Voices were raised and I stood up and ended it.

There are now many hurt feelings with the parties involved still disagreeing about what happened and how it was handled. I know my actions were extreme, but things were out of control and I was upset. How do I deal with this if we are invited to future events?-- KEEPING THE PEACE

DEAR KEEPING THE PEACE: You may be worrying needlessly, because you may not be invited to future events -- at least until the next election is over. Whatever your friends were arguing about, while you had a right to speak up and say it was making you uncomfortable, because your reaction was "extreme," you may have been as rude as the others. If you caused hurt feelings that evening, you should apologize, if you haven't already.

DEAR ABBY: A sibling died recently and I have received numerous sympathy messages in the form of cards, gifts and online posts. Do the people who send them typically expect a response? I feel a little overwhelmed with the amount of attention, and I worry that they'll think I'm not appreciative if I don't respond in kind. What is your advice?-- GRIEVING BUT GRATEFUL

DEAR GRIEVING BUT GRATEFUL: Their kindness should be acknowledged. To those who sent gifts and cards, a short note saying how much their support meant during this difficult time would be a gracious response. The online condolences could be handled with one email "blast" conveying the same thing, which shouldn't be offensive to those who sent their sympathy that way.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

East Hartford, CT

#2 Jul 24, 2014
1- a teacup sized dog? Some people might consider that a rodent. But Abby's right

2- dam Obamabots who refuse to hear the truth about their all mighty chosen one

3- an acknowledgment would be considerate but I don't feel it's necessary. If people get upset because they didn't get a thank you note for their card and cookies then they're jerks

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#3 Jul 24, 2014
1 Leave your damn dog at home, nobody but you thinks it's ok to bring that thing to the wedding/grocery/department store.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#4 Jul 24, 2014
RACE wrote:
1 Leave your damn dog at home, nobody but you thinks it's ok to bring that thing to the wedding/grocery/department store.
while I agree eith Abby, that its none of this relative's concern so long as the bride and groom are ok with it, i agree with you as well. Wtf is wrong with this person that they feel the need to bring fluffy to an fn wedding. Bring her to the beach some other day.

It would not bother me that the dog was there. It would bother me that this person felt the need to bring the dog. Its not a summer backyard bbq.

“...,to wit”

Since: Jun 09

Location hidden

#5 Jul 24, 2014
I very much agree with the people who told her to get her dog out of there. One has to wonder ,however ,where she put the dog for the duration of the wedding for which it was warm enough to be held on the beach.

If the B or G had given their prior agreement, Poopsie's Mommy would have said so at the time.

I think this happened in part because it was at a high end resort

I live in an upscale neighborhood. There is a large branch of a major liquor store not far a way that posted a sign on its front door that the only dogs allowed inside were service dogs and that owners would be asked to show the documents to prove it. The sign was more prominent than the one saying they don't sell to people under 21. I took a picture. If I can figure out how to post it here , I will.

L2. In this day and age, what exactly is mixed company? Men and women? Adults and Children? Democrats and Republicans?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

East Hartford, CT

#6 Jul 24, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>while I agree eith Abby, that its none of this relative's concern so long as the bride and groom are ok with it, i agree with you as well. Wtf is wrong with this person that they feel the need to bring fluffy to an fn wedding. Bring her to the beach some other day.
It would not bother me that the dog was there. It would bother me that this person felt the need to bring the dog. Its not a summer backyard bbq.
They're called comfort pets and some people can't leave the house without them. Remember Really Gloria? Weirdos

“Where is Tonka?”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me! Charlie

#7 Jul 24, 2014
Yeah, and thats called putting lipstick on a pig.
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
They're called comfort pets and some people can't leave the house without them. Remember Really Gloria? Weirdos

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#8 Jul 24, 2014
L1: You don't bring a dog, no matter what size, to a wedding. I don't care if it is a "comfort dog". Don't attend the event if you cannot possibly attend without the dog. I don't think permission was given beforehand, either. If it was, then that's a different story -- but still...

L2: I, too, was wondering about this "mixed company". Sounds like the LW might have been very much a part of this terrible argument. Apologies are needed. Next time change the subject. Repeatedly.

L3: If people cannot understand what the strain must be on the LW. If someone can't understand that, they're the rude ones in my book.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#9 Jul 24, 2014
LW1: That was rude to presume it was okay. It was also rude for the other people to take it upon themselves to make a huge deal about it.

LW2: I can talk politics with those who don't agree with my views, but some people can't without getting mean and nasty. You sound like one of these people. Know thyself ... before things got so heated, you should have politely and calmly said you don't care to argue over politics and prefer to enjoy each others company. You didn't do so and therefore you were just as complicit as the other party in taking the conversation down that path. Flying off the handle like you did, kind of makes you the biggest as$ out of the group.

LW3: If I sent a card to someone, I wouldn't want them to feel obligated to send a thank you, with all they have going on. It's really about them, not about the person sending the card.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#10 Jul 24, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
LW2: I can talk politics with those who don't agree with my views, but some people can't without getting mean and nasty.

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Ok. Where's the camera? We're gettin punk'd right now, right?

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#11 Jul 24, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>Ok. Where's the camera? We're gettin punk'd right now, right?
It's not the fault of politics, but rather that I just don't like you guys.:p

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#12 Jul 24, 2014
PEllen wrote:
One has to wonder ,however ,where she put the dog for the duration of the wedding for which it was warm enough to be held on the beach.
The LW says the dog was put in a carrier, which probably looks more like a purse. She most likely just tucked it under her chair or table. Certainly the Preciousness could not be left in a car! All alone!!

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#13 Jul 24, 2014
squishymama wrote:
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The LW says the dog was put in a carrier, which probably looks more like a purse. She most likely just tucked it under her chair or table. Certainly the Preciousness could not be left in a car! All alone!!
You're not sarcastically suggesting the dog be left in the car, are you. Please tell me I misunderstood your humor

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#14 Jul 24, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>You're not sarcastically suggesting the dog be left in the car, are you. Please tell me I misunderstood your humor
No, I'm not.

But that would really be the only option, right? Unless the country club's staff would be willing to keep an eye on it.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#15 Jul 24, 2014
Well, maybe I was sarcastically suggesting that, Tonka.

Not that I wish the dog harm, but didn't the pet owner ponder the idea that maybe the dog would not be welcome and what to do in that eventuality?

This makes me think the dog's attendance was pre-approved. No responsible pet owner would want that as their only option.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#16 Jul 24, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>You're not sarcastically suggesting the dog be left in the car, are you. Please tell me I misunderstood your humor
What if the reception was at night and the temps are not dangerous? What's the big deal about leaving the dog in the car under those circumstances.

This whole thing about leaving kids in the car and pets in the car, is dumbed down to the lowest common denominator in recent years, because a small number of people are complete effing morons and they leave pets and kids in the car when its dangerous ... so now no one can do so, no matter if it's not a dangerous situation.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#17 Jul 24, 2014
squishymama wrote:
<quoted text>
No, I'm not.
But that would really be the only option, right?.
Wrong. If dog ain't welcome, she needs to leave. Leaving dog in the car is NOT an option. Its cruel and she would deserve to have her windows smashed. Do you guys not see the same news stories and psa's that we do in Florida about the danger of leaving your pets locked in a car? Its a crime.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#18 Jul 24, 2014
squishymama wrote:
No responsible pet owner would want that as their only option.
No responsible pet owner would consider that to be an option.

“I looked, and behold,”

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#19 Jul 24, 2014
Mister Tonka wrote:
<quoted text>No responsible pet owner would consider that to be an option.
I think that's a very broad statement that is not true in a lot of situations.

I could leave my dogs in my car anytime the sun goes down, with absolutely no harm to them, any time of year. I could also leave them in the car probably 7-8 months (except for hot summer months) out of the year, when the sun is up with no harm to them.

“I Am Mine”

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#20 Jul 24, 2014
Sublime1 wrote:
<quoted text>
I think that's a very broad statement that is not true in a lot of situations.
I could leave my dogs in my car anytime the sun goes down, with absolutely no harm to them, any time of year. I could also leave them in the car probably 7-8 months (except for hot summer months) out of the year, when the sun is up with no harm to them.
It was a beach wedding. That says daytime to me. Every wedding I've ever been to, the reception followed almost imediately after. So I'm assuming sun still out.

Less than a month ago in Pensacola, woman went to walmart all night. Left her dog in the car(don't ask why. Freak) Windows cracked. Dog was discovered dead at 11am. Presumably not discovered at the moment of death. So died before 11am from the heat. That early is before it really starts to get hot. And it still got hot enough for dog to die.

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