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Since: Jan 10

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#1 Nov 26, 2012
DEAR AMY: My close friend from childhood recently bought two guinea pigs for her children. The kids enjoy them but seem a little afraid of them. Now the parents have decided that the guinea pigs smell bad and have relegated them to the porch, which is not heated.

I volunteer in an animal shelter and consider myself a champion of animal causes, but Iím stumbling over what to do with this one. Guinea pigs come from a warm climate and should not be out in the cold (last week it got into the low 40s)!

Iíve tried to gently suggest that the porch seems a little cold for them, but itís not working. The only fight Iíve ever had with this friend I came off as judging her. I want to respect her right to do what she wants but also do the right thing for the animals.

I hope you will print my letter as a warning to parents: Please donít purchase a pet that you will likely not want to take care of. That happy glimmer in your childís eye will probably fade with time, and then youíll be responsible for the animalís welfare.-- Animal Lover in Maryland

DEAR ANIMAL LOVER: With the holidays approaching, it is important to note that adults hoping to give animals to children must take full long-term responsibility for their choice.

You must attempt to advise these parents to take better care of these animals. Print some information about guinea pig care (available on aspca.org ), and hand it over, saying,ďThese critters arenít cut out for the cold. Is there any warm place you can put them? If you donít want to keep them, let me know, and I can try to get them adopted for you.Ē Guinea pigs require temperatures between 60 and 80 degrees Fahrenheit.

Your supervisor at the shelter might have some ideas for how to help these people become responsible animal stewards. If they canít make this transition, they should place the animals with people who can take care of them.

This is a friendship risk you will have to take to advocate for these defenseless animals.

DEAR AMY: I am in the eighth grade. Recently we switched seats, and now I sit next to my best friend in science class!

It has been really nice to sit next to her. However, this friend,ďAnnie,Ē does not have the best performance in science. I have always been a straight-A student, and last year I helped Annie get her grade up in French by showing her some tricks that I use for verb conjugations.

It gets really uncomfortable when I get an A on assignments (and Iím not bragging here) and she gets Bís or lower. We have known each other since preschool, and I know her parents arenít super sciency, so would it be okay to offer some help?

Her parents arenít happy with her grades, and I fear itís bringing down her self-esteem. I try to avoid talking to her about grades, but I really want to do something to help.-- A Helpful Friend

DEAR HELPFUL: Be brave and light, and offer to work together. Iím going to give you some words that might inspire you. You can say to your friend,ďIf you want to study for science together, it might be fun. We can help each other memorize the periodic table and quiz each other.Ē

Smart college students often form study groups to work together. This is a great way to solidify your friendship and help each other out.

DEAR AMY: You really blew it in your response to ďFrustrated.Ē This poor guy is working 60 hours a week, while his wife is home with the kids. Poor Frustrated comes home to a house in complete chaos. And neither one of you mentioned the concept that his wife needs to step up and run the household better!-- Also Frustrated

DEAR ALSO: I agree! Because ďFrustratedĒ didnít mention his wifeís efforts (or lack thereof), I sidestepped this obvious answer. Consider me lashed with a wet dish towel.

Since: Jan 10

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#2 Nov 26, 2012
L1: Report them. Why worry about maintaining friendships with people who (1) are stupid and (2) are bad pet owners? Stupid/bad/ignorant pet owners pish me off to no end.

L2: "It gets really uncomfortable " Why? Why on EARTH would you be made to feel uncomfortable about this?

L3: I"m completely shocked that Amy gave horrible advice. Shocked!
PEllen

Chicago, IL

#3 Nov 26, 2012
RedheadwGlasses wrote:
L3: I"m completely shocked that Amy gave horrible advice. Shocked!
Today is the 70th anniversary of the release of Casablanca, which could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship

“A Programmer is not in IT!”

Since: Feb 09

Neda, stay with me!

#4 Nov 26, 2012
1 Their covered with hair, they'll be fine.

2 8th graders dont write to abby

3 Good job! You side stepped an issue and still drew a paycheck.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#5 Nov 26, 2012
L1: Grrr...mine used to "fluff" at just under 65 degrees. The guinea pig equivalent of goosebumps. They are not all-weather animals. Also, they don't smell if you take care of them properly. This makes me sad. They're sweet animals.

Toj

“Where is Everyone?”

Since: Jul 12

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#6 Nov 26, 2012
L1: You'll probably not get much in the way of a response if you try to correct her. Why not offer to try to get someone to take them off her hands that will take care of them better?

L2: What Amy said.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#7 Nov 26, 2012
Matilda77 wrote:
L1: Grrr...mine used to "fluff" at just under 65 degrees. The guinea pig equivalent of goosebumps. They are not all-weather animals. Also, they don't smell if you take care of them properly. This makes me sad. They're sweet animals.
It makes me sad AND pissed. And annoyed with the LW; how is it even a question whether to do something or not? Those poor little guys are going to die a horrible death no one does anything.

Since: Mar 09

Miami, FL

#8 Nov 26, 2012
*IF no one does anything.

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#9 Nov 26, 2012
LW1: I understand why people think they can mistreat the small rodential-types; I was a snake owner for many years and saw guinea pigs as lunch, expensive lunch, but lunch nonetheless.

But when you buy them as pets, you have made a committment to those animals to take care of them, whether it turns out you like them or not. This is setting a terrible example for the children and you should be pointing that out to your friend.

And since you're in "the business" try to find a way to rescue these creatures.

LW2: I stopped careing at "8th grade."

LW3: We'd have picked something a little firmer than a wet dishrag. Unless you can do that snapping thing, then it would acceptable punishment.

Since: Aug 08

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#10 Nov 26, 2012
LW1: Why donít you give her some literature about the need for guinea pigs to stay where it is warm and if she wonít do anything different offer to help her find them a new home?

LW2: I stopped reading after I read ď8th grade.Ē

Since: Dec 07

DuPage County

#11 Nov 26, 2012
1 Give her the best guinea pig recipes you can find.

2 Girl stuff, don't care.
Sam I Am

Cedar Grove, TN

#12 Nov 26, 2012
1. Give her some guinea pig recipes and tell her that if she doesn't start being responsible that is the only use she'll have for her pets.

2. Study buddies.

3. I will not consider anything until I see it.
liner

Brooklyn, NY

#13 Nov 26, 2012
L2:....and just what kind of "French tricks" did you show little Annie, anyway? Hmm?

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#14 Nov 26, 2012
1- Butt out, they're godam rodents.

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#15 Nov 26, 2012
liner wrote:
L2:....and just what kind of "French tricks" did you show little Annie, anyway? Hmm?
"I get it.... French class! Bwahaha!"

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#16 Nov 26, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
1- Butt out, they're godam rodents.
Technically, that is incorrect.

They are related to porcupines, and although they may look rodential, they are very different.
Sam I Am

Knoxville, TN

#17 Nov 26, 2012
squishymama wrote:
<quoted text>
Technically, that is incorrect.
They are related to porcupines, and although they may look rodential, they are very different.
I am sure Mutt appreciates your clarification, seeing how concerned he is with accuracy and facts.

“Fort Kickass”

Since: Sep 09

Bloomington, IL

#18 Nov 26, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
<quoted text>
"I get it.... French class! Bwahaha!"
Nice reference :)

“reign in blood”

Since: May 09

Wilmington, IL

#19 Nov 26, 2012
squishymama wrote:
<quoted text>
Technically, that is incorrect.
They are related to porcupines, and although they may look rodential, they are very different.
The guinea pig is neither a pig nor from Guinea! Discuss!

“The two baby belly, please!”

Since: Sep 09

Evanston IL

#20 Nov 26, 2012
edogxxx wrote:
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The guinea pig is neither a pig nor from Guinea! Discuss!
Dang! I can't remember where the pig part came from, but they think the guinea part comes from how much they cost in England when they were first imported from south america.

Real afficionados call them cavvy's, from their scientific name. Which I also don't remember.

Matilda! Where are you? You know all this stuff, don't you?

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